Anal toys for long term wear?

Anal toys for long term wear?

mistressg mistressg
I am wondering about anal toys, specifically silicone plugs in my case, that would be nice for long-term wear. I am trying to work my way up to penetration with my partner, which is not at all possible currently, as he is about 8 1/2" long, and fairly thick. I am worried that I won't ever be able to let him have anal sex with me comfortably, even though I know he really wants to! I wish I could do it now, but I just can't.

I am a beginner, I just got the Silicone Beginners Kit but it is too wide near the base, and I think it might not be flexible enough for me to keep it in comfortably.

Any suggestions, plug recommendations, or any tips of any kind would be appreciated!
10/05/2012
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mistressg mistressg
Mind you, the plugs I see all seem to be like 4 1/2" long at most. How can I work up to something closer to his 8 1/2" length? Are there any silicone toys on the market that could be useful - plugs, dildos, or otherwise?
10/05/2012
RedKyuubi RedKyuubi
As for comfortable plugs the Njoy ones are awesome. Super comfortable. For length any silicone dildo with a base will work well.
10/05/2012
mistressg mistressg
Quote:
Originally posted by RedKyuubi
As for comfortable plugs the Njoy ones are awesome. Super comfortable. For length any silicone dildo with a base will work well.
The Njoy plugs are metal, so they lack the flexibility I would want to have. Thanks for the suggestions though.
10/05/2012
ToyGeek ToyGeek
The Tantus Ryder is terrific. Also the Njoy Pure Plug Medium is awesome, although it's metal. If you can tolerate a bit of a seam, there's a silicone knockoff of the pure plug that's available, I think it's called the Love Pacifier. Fun Factory has a very promising looking new plug called the Boosty that I've been eying, too.
10/06/2012
Vaginas Vaginas
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10/06/2012
mistressg mistressg
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGeek
The Tantus Ryder is terrific. Also the Njoy Pure Plug Medium is awesome, although it's metal. If you can tolerate a bit of a seam, there's a silicone knockoff of the pure plug that's available, I think it's called the Love Pacifier. ...
The Love Pacifier looks interesting. I'll have to look at all the reviews for that and see if it's something I could handle.

Boosty looks too textured/lumpy for my tastes, for now.

The Ryder looks a bit intimidating, they have it next to a pear for size comparison in the product pics.
10/06/2012
mistressg mistressg
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Originally posted by Vaginas
doc johnson mood naughty plugs
I'm considering the mood plugs. They look reasonably shaped, and come in three sizes.
10/06/2012
Stingo Stingo
Quote:
Originally posted by mistressg
I am wondering about anal toys, specifically silicone plugs in my case, that would be nice for long-term wear. I am trying to work my way up to penetration with my partner, which is not at all possible currently, as he is about 8 1/2" long, and ...
Mistre$$,

You said you're a "beginner" at anal play. And you said you want to open your butt up to your partner's thick, 8-1/2" shlong, because he "really wants" to have anal sex with you. All this is fine, except for the part about your partner's "really want" to have anal sex with you.

Are you playing with anal toys for him or for yourself? Whichever, do you like putting things up your ass? If not, then stop! Tell your partner to find another butt to fuck.

But if it feels good and you like it, then when you ask for anal toys for "long term wear," you're going about opening your ass the wrong way. "Long term wear" is for advanced anal players. You're a beginner.

As a beginner, you probably know that you have to start with small plugs (and of course, use plenty of lube). The kit you have seems to serve beginners well, but when you complained that "it is too wide near the base," it seems to show you don't know that the "secret" to opening up your butt is patience and practice. Sure, the base is too wide now, but with patience and a few more sessions, you'll easily pass it up your butt. And in doing so, you'll open up your butt, just a little.

And then you insert a plug that's just a little wider to open your butt just a little more. When you do this, you might feel a burn. It's just your muscle, the "sphincter," stretching. When you feel this burn, stop and, very important, slowly back out. Rest, and go back in. Some consider this burn "good pain," and enjoy it as part of the fun with anal toys. Hopefully, you will also enjoy this "good pain," but do stop if you can't stand it; there will be another day to enjoy it. (There's a "bad pain," that's sharp and acute. When you feel bad pain, you were too fast or not relaxed enough or didn't use enough lube, or a combination. Often, with bad pain, you will see your blood on the plug or a dick. You should then stop further play and wait a few days to start again and don't make the same mistakes.)

Practicing often, for, say, two or three times each week, will give the best results. You'll know you've made progress when you find that the plug that once gave you "good pain," no longer does--it even slips in easily.

Eventually, and sooner than you think, with practice and patience, you'll open your butt to your partner's delight, as he'll able to fuck your ass with abandon. (You should know that you'll need to warm up your ass by stretching it before you allow your partner in. Unlike in anal sex videos when the actor penetrate the other actor's ass who seemingly had not warmed up.) Hopefully, during your path to open your butt to your partner's dick, you'll discover that anal toys and anal play are enjoyable in themselves. With this "discovery," you'll want to graduate from beginner to intermediate and to advanced anal player, when you can finally explore anal toys for "long term wear."

I hope I was helpful.

(BTW, for what it's worth, I suggest you try the "Slim" and the "Severin Small" silicone plugs from Tantus (both are sold by EF) as "adjuncts" to your kit. The Severin will give you a nice "beginner's burn." Its Medium brother is a good first "serious" plug that takes you into intermediate level. From there, you'll have lots of toys to experiment with and to advance your play--and hopefully enjoy all along the way.)
10/08/2012
mistressg mistressg
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Originally posted by Stingo
Mistre$$,

You said you're a "beginner" at anal play. And you said you want to open your butt up to your partner's thick, 8-1/2" shlong, because he "really wants" to have anal sex with you. All this is fine, ...
Very helpful. I actually just ordered the Silk Medium. I have gotten comfortable with using each of the plugs in the kit I got, all this week. I thought I would never want to use the pink one, but that one actually has a better shape for me than the black one..not a fan of that nub it has near the base.

I see that you mention that you should rest for a few days if you see blood, and that it comes with pain. I had no pain of any kind, at all, and was totally enjoying using the plugs the other night. I was actually kind of loving it, to my surprise. However, I did notice a little bit of blood mixed with the lube when I went to the bathroom after. It wasn't like bright red drips or anything, just a tiny bit of spotting mixed with the lubricant. Should I be worried??
10/09/2012
Girly Juice Girly Juice
Another recommendation for the Tantus Ryder! It's the most penis-like plug I've tried, in terms of the way it feels. It's not as long as an actual cock, but it'd be a good stepping-stone.
10/09/2012
Stingo Stingo
Quote:
Originally posted by mistressg
Very helpful. I actually just ordered the Silk Medium. I have gotten comfortable with using each of the plugs in the kit I got, all this week. I thought I would never want to use the pink one, but that one actually has a better shape for me than the ...
Hi Mistre$$,

I'm glad to know that you were "actually kind of loving" using the plugs the other night. But after, when you went to the bathroom, you noticed some blood mixed with the lube, though you felt no pain while playing. Should you worry about the blood?

I'm no doctor, but if you lie down and push down around your pubis and feel acute pain in your belly, then I think you should go to the ER, pronto. Else, I'd guess your injury was minor and not a major concern, though I suppose seeing blood can be scary. I think it's best you stop anal play for a few days. (If you Google "blood during anal play," you'll find many "hits." Some said your injury was minor, one "Go Ask Alice," raised the alarm just a little, though its advice is detailed and they do provide many related info about anal sex and play. See: link)

Still, I did say you injured yourself, as you shouldn't see blood during or after anal play. How could you injure yourself? 1) You used too much force to push the plug in; 2) You pushed the plug in too fast (not in a hurry, were you); 3) You thrusted the plug in and out too vigoriously; 4) You didn't relax your ass enough; 5) You didn't use enough lubrication--"too much is enough"

I suppose since you're an anal play beginner, you will injure your ass. I myself saw my blood on the plug when I began anal play. And I saw it a few times. It was always scary, and though I sometimes felt some pain, I suffered no lasting damage. The blood came when I was too impatient and pushed too hard to get a large plug in my ass. I've since learned that slowing down to "enjoy the toys," was the best way to avoid injury. I also think that with regular anal play, my ass got comfortable with the toys and became less prone to injury. Of course, I still have to be careful not to overdo it, though I must admit I sometimes feel soreness after. But after playing for three or four hours, I suppose soreness is the "price" I have to pay for all that joy.

I told you all that because I think you might benefit from my experiences. Perhaps you may, but it's your butt and it's up to you to find out what's best for playing with it and not injure it. I'd just like to make your learning curve less steep.

As for ordering the (Tantus) Silk Medium, I'm glad you've started to expand from your beginner's kit. You said you liked the pink one in the kit. If you like its bead-like shape, you might like to consider the small "Ripple" anal probe, also by Tantus and which EF sells. I use a Ripple for warming up and its bead-like shape feels lovely by itself or as part of a multi-plug insert.

Anyhow, I hope you didn't injure yourself too badly and will be able to enjoy anal play again shortly. And, again, I hope I was helpful.

And do tell us how you got on with the Silk Medium.

Talk to you.

S-
10/09/2012
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