Beginner's anal: silicone or glass/steel?

Contributor: lalapetitee lalapetitee 12/13/2011

Which is better for ppl new to anal paly and why?

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Contributor: lalapetitee lalapetitee
which would you suggest for newbies and why?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
soft/flexible
152  (94%)
firm/rigid
10  (6%)
other please explain
Total votes: 162
Poll is closed
12/13/2011
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Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
I would recommend a firmer silicone. Steel and glass may be too unforgiving for your first anal experience.
12/13/2011
Contributor: allinonekid allinonekid
Definitely silicone. It can be very soft with plenty of give. Something like glass and steel may be good for the smoothness of it but the rigidity can definitely hurt the unused anus. Plus silicone is very easy to clean and can be sterilized.
12/13/2011
Contributor: philly philly
I started out with silicon and i think it's the way to go. A little flexable is a good thing when your not used to it
12/13/2011
Contributor: jedent jedent
i say soft, but my fiance started with firm.
12/13/2011
Contributor: Rawhide Rawhide
Silicone is more forgiving, in general that's a good way to go.

But then again, with glass and steel you can use wonderful silicone lubricant, which is so great for anal play. So it's a tradeoff.
12/13/2011
Contributor: potstickers potstickers
Silicone for sure. i recommend Vixskin or Supersoft materials to start out. They're a bit softer and more forgiving.
12/13/2011
Contributor: eroticmutt eroticmutt
Quote:
Originally posted by lalapetitee
which would you suggest for newbies and why?
I would say soft- less chance of hurting yourself
12/13/2011
Contributor: (k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
I'm no expert, but I believe something soft and somewhat pliable would be best for a beginner. Something rigid may be difficult or painful to take.
12/13/2011
Contributor: karay123 karay123
I said soft but really should've said other. Start with fingers!
12/13/2011
Contributor: Sir Sir
I'll probably be a loner here, but I'd say steel or glass (but smaller sizes, of course) just because it slides in easier than silicone usually.
12/13/2011
Contributor: The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
Quote:
Originally posted by lalapetitee
which would you suggest for newbies and why?
Gotta work your way to something harder.
12/13/2011
Contributor: acessorie acessorie
Softer leaves more room for error until you know your body better.
12/14/2011
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
Glass or steel would be best if you have a SMALL diameter as it lubes and slides the best with easy maintenance and care. If you're afraid you might overestimate your diameter capacity, then go with silicone to be on the safe side.
12/14/2011
Contributor: klyte klyte
Quote:
Originally posted by acessorie
Softer leaves more room for error until you know your body better.
Error?
12/14/2011
Contributor: Lucky21 Lucky21
Softer is nicer to begin with!
12/14/2011
Contributor: MeliPixie MeliPixie
I highly recommend something SLENDER, in glass or steel. It's smooth, and you know exactly how big it will feel because you know how bit it IS, and it won't squish or bend.
12/14/2011
Contributor: Sublime Sublime
Silicone is great, especially for the first time. Though slim glass works just as well.
12/14/2011
Contributor: EdenJP EdenJP
Quote:
Originally posted by lalapetitee
which would you suggest for newbies and why?
soft for sure
12/14/2011
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
You should go for firm and rigid, although it sounds intimidating, it will be easy to insert. Soft, squishy plugs are hard to maneuver.
12/14/2011
Contributor: ajwonder ajwonder
get somethin soft! i still dont like really hard anal probes that are metal. too much!
12/16/2011
Contributor: lalapetitee lalapetitee
Going with the silicone options for now. Can't wait to try steel tho.
12/16/2011
Contributor: lalapetitee lalapetitee
Maybe Ace or Joe Rock.
12/16/2011
Contributor: HannahPanda HannahPanda
Of course soft/flexible! You have to get that area used to a toy being there, and something flexible and durable will help your muscles out a lot.
12/16/2011
Contributor: Flash777 Flash777
Quote:
Originally posted by lalapetitee
which would you suggest for newbies and why?
I had a hard toy as my first
12/18/2011
Contributor: biancajames biancajames
Soft is best for first time though I'd make an exception for the pure plug.
12/19/2011
Contributor: markwashere markwashere
Slick, soft and flexible.
12/19/2011
Contributor: Mxd Mxd
Hmm, this is a complicated issue. I agree with MeliPixie, SLIM and smooth would be good for a first time. One of the first things that I've put inside of a newbie is the bottle rocket Apollo (in a condom). It's hard, but very slender and the fact that it gets thinner right behind the head means that it can fit in fairly easily.

In the end, you should go with whatever turns you on. You're going to need to be aroused to use it.
12/19/2011
Contributor: Sinfully Sinfully
I would say a smooth glass toy with no bumps or ridges and some silicone lube such as gun oil would be good to start. Thats how I started.
12/19/2011
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
silicone would be my preference. I don't like the idea of glass inside there.
12/24/2011
Contributor: RemusHalifax RemusHalifax
Silicone would probably be better. It's more forgiving and less intimidating, in my opinion.
12/24/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Silicone. It's soft and sanitary, and it will "track" your rectum rather than poking. Get a toy that's mostly smooth, perhaps with a few bloops on it for fun, but avoid highly textured toys to start with.
12/25/2011
Contributor: Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
Flexible is better
12/25/2011
Contributor: Highmaintenancegirl916 Highmaintenancegirl916
Soft and flexible
12/25/2011
Contributor: Envy Envy
Try something a bit softer, just to have a little give rather than something so rigid it could hurt you.
12/25/2011
Contributor: EdenJP EdenJP
Quote:
Originally posted by lalapetitee
which would you suggest for newbies and why?
Soft
12/25/2011
Contributor: Entropy Entropy
I would go with silicone, but if you do with a harder material you should make it a smaller size than you would have gotten in silicone.
12/28/2011
Contributor: ichwillwaffels ichwillwaffels
Quote:
Originally posted by lalapetitee
which would you suggest for newbies and why?
You need some give at first. Definitely some silicone!
12/29/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
Personally, I'd vote for glass. Glass was my first anal toy, and it's so slick that it's really easy to insert, even for a newbie. The Pleasure Pearls were my first anal toy - slim and smooth and perfect. Everyone's different, but I think glass makes for a GREAT first toy because it's so smooth and slick. Make insertion a breeze!
12/29/2011
Contributor: Silverdrop Silverdrop
Quote:
Originally posted by karay123
I said soft but really should've said other. Start with fingers!
good answer!
12/29/2011
Contributor: cmm cmm
You definitely need silicone. Glass is too rigid.
01/01/2012
Contributor: LAndJ LAndJ
Quote:
Originally posted by Hallmar82
Glass or steel would be best if you have a SMALL diameter as it lubes and slides the best with easy maintenance and care. If you're afraid you might overestimate your diameter capacity, then go with silicone to be on the safe side.
I agree with this.^^
01/01/2012
Contributor: Spilock Spilock
Something softer is a good idea, especially if it has any kind of decent length. The softness helps it bend and contour to one's ever twisting rear canal.
02/13/2012
Contributor: RavenDevereux RavenDevereux
Definitely soft/flexible material for a beginner.
02/14/2012
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
Quote:
Originally posted by lalapetitee
which would you suggest for newbies and why?
I would think something soft
02/19/2012
Contributor: Chris Corrigan Chris Corrigan
Quote:
Originally posted by lalapetitee
which would you suggest for newbies and why?
A softer material, probably a firmer silicone. It'll be less expensive and easy to clean.
02/19/2012
Contributor: MGDavicnigirl MGDavicnigirl
Silicone gets my vote. Glass and steel might be too rigid for a beginner.
02/19/2012
Contributor: Positwist Positwist
I would be terrified to start with glass or steel, honestly.
02/19/2012
Contributor: GoneBabyGone GoneBabyGone
Something small is usually good at first soft or firm is really dependent on the persons preference.
02/19/2012
Contributor: Gary A. Gary A.
soft/flexible
02/19/2012
Contributor: idunshire idunshire
Soft! Firm is just not a good way to ease into things..
02/19/2012
Contributor: nakedbear nakedbear
Soft!
02/20/2012
Contributor: Incendiaire Incendiaire
For your first toy you need to balance out something which is firm enough to push through the stiff resistance of the sphincter muscle, but something which is soft enough that it will absorb the pressure of the muscle squeezing on it, and not feel painful.

I like silicone toys because I find them incredibly comfortable, but I use quite thick ones (> 1.5") which gives them some added rigidity. I'd worry slightly that some of the really small beginner silicone toys would just be too bendy, and you'd struggle to get them in.
02/21/2012
Contributor: Equinegoddess3 Equinegoddess3
Quote:
Originally posted by lalapetitee
which would you suggest for newbies and why?
I started off with silicone, myself, and it wasn't that difficult. Getting ready to get something either glass or steel, though, and I'm excited about that.
02/23/2012
Contributor: Djiffy Djiffy
You'll want something smallish and soft at first.
03/10/2012
Contributor: Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
Definitely flexible.
09/19/2012
Contributor: thesquaredeific thesquaredeific
I started with solid, but flexible is probably the better way to go.
09/19/2012
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by lalapetitee
which would you suggest for newbies and why?
Definitely something soft!
10/20/2012
Contributor: A.S. A.S.
I started with silicon and I think that might be best
10/20/2012
Contributor: ToyGeek ToyGeek
I started with glass, even though silicone is probably the smarter choice. It's more about using lots of lube and remembering to be gentle and patient than anything else.
10/20/2012
Contributor: Lioncub Lioncub
Silicone
10/20/2012
Contributor: sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
Silicone, soft and flexible.
10/20/2012
Contributor: travelnurse travelnurse
Silicone definitely!!
10/20/2012
Contributor: mmmmm mmmmm
I say something soft
10/20/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by lalapetitee
which would you suggest for newbies and why?
soft/flexible
10/20/2012
Contributor: anonymoustwit anonymoustwit
Quote:
Originally posted by lalapetitee
which would you suggest for newbies and why?
Glass & steel sound too painful.
11/01/2012
Contributor: tortilla tortilla
nothing too rigid
11/01/2012
Contributor: Cat E. Cat E.
Something soft/flexible.
11/01/2012
Contributor: Xarien Xarien
Quote:
Originally posted by lalapetitee
which would you suggest for newbies and why?
Definitely soft/flexible.
11/02/2012
Contributor: butts butts
I'd say silicone since it has give, it's soft, less likely to cause pain in a beginner. Graduate to firmer things when you're more experienced.
11/02/2012
Contributor: Gluesnffr Gluesnffr
soft/flexible
11/02/2012
Contributor: Babylove09 Babylove09
Soft and flexible for sure.
11/05/2012
Contributor: nosrslylol nosrslylol
I'd also go with soft/flexible at first! Makes for a more pleasant beginner experience.
11/06/2012
Contributor: allme1 allme1
soft/flexible
11/07/2012
Contributor: Girly Juice Girly Juice
Firm toys can hurt you if misused, and are best reserved for when you're experienced enough to know your limits.
11/08/2012
Contributor: Robinhoood Robinhoood
good question
11/16/2012
Contributor: Arlinnae Arlinnae
with flexible plugs you are less likely to hurt yourself.
11/16/2012
Contributor: Robespierrethecat Robespierrethecat
soft toys are definitely better for beginners.
11/16/2012
Contributor: Real or memorex Real or memorex
Definitely silicone.
11/17/2012
Contributor: hanjonatan hanjonatan
i love, love, love stainless steel, but definitely go with silicone for your first time.
11/17/2012
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by Incendiaire
For your first toy you need to balance out something which is firm enough to push through the stiff resistance of the sphincter muscle, but something which is soft enough that it will absorb the pressure of the muscle squeezing on it, and not feel ... more
I'd consider bendy a plus for a beginner, since it would force you to do more anal relaxing vs just pushing harder (and regretting it later).
11/17/2012
Contributor: Inkkythesquid Inkkythesquid
Soft is better to begin. rigid may hurt too much
11/17/2012
Contributor: Llewey Llewey
Flexible silicone for beginners, I think.
11/17/2012
Contributor: damnbul12 damnbul12
Quote:
Originally posted by lalapetitee
which would you suggest for newbies and why?
firm/rigid
11/17/2012