How do you relax your anus before anal play?

Contributor: Arlinnae Arlinnae
Do you have any sectret techniques taht always work? Please share
01/04/2013
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Contributor: ScottA ScottA
The number one thing is to be comfortable and confident with yourself, your partner, and the activity. If you're worried things aren't going to go very well.

Beyond that, move slow, be sexually excited, and use plenty of lube. I find that play where you put a plug in and then gently pull on it while relaxing enough so it pops out seems to work well, but any play where you press on the inside of the anus should work equally well (pressing against the inside of the anus/anal canal helps to trigger relaxation).
01/04/2013
Contributor: Girly Juice Girly Juice
I warm myself up with clitoral stimulation and some light anal fingering.
01/05/2013
Contributor: Ayumi Ayumi
I agree with the aforementioned. It really helps if I'm solo, to warm up with clitoral stimulation. I don't bring myself to climax because I find it more difficult to insert after that, but clitoral stimulation and some fingering, or clitoral stimulation and inserting some beads helps me. Same thing works with a partner.
01/05/2013
Contributor: UsArmyGuy UsArmyGuy
If I have the time, nice hot shower and then warming lube.
01/05/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
ScottA knows what he's talking about (pretty much always from what I've seen)! I agree 100% about sexual excitement making it A LOT easier.

I usually like to do a quick enema before play. There are many simple and effective anal douches for sale on EF. I find it easier to relax when I'm confident I'm totally clean.

After that, I always start with fingers and lube. Again, as ScottA says, the trick is to press from the INSIDE. I lube myself, and a finger, and then gently insert. Once it's in and comfortable (will require patience and time, especially at first), I move the finger all around. When I'm ready, I add a second well-lubed finger. Once that's comfy, I scissor the two fingers. Lately that's all the warmup I need for toys up to about 1 1/2", or even larger if I'm really aroused.
01/07/2013
Contributor: froggygal91 froggygal91
clitoral stimulation and just easing in to it.
01/07/2013
Contributor: Suisei Suisei
To add to the advice above, I would like to mention that a warm bath works wonders, especially if you gently touch your outer anus while soaking. Baths have the dual benefits of helping you to relax on a mind and body level as well as helping you feel clean and fresh.

This may seem a little counter-intuitive, but taking the time to perform some Kegels or similar anal muscle exercises can not only relax and prepare you, but it increases blood flow to the area, making it more pleasurable as well.
01/08/2013