New frontiers - Created by stricksw on Apr 28, 2009: EdenFantasys Forum

Jimbo Jones

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Originally posted by stricksw

I have long been curious to new sensations and intensifying known ones for my wife, but have as of yet experienced any results from direct p-spot stimulation. On a couple of occasions when sick & taking advil cold & sinus meds, I have had ... more

Stephen you have presented some great questions.
It is very common for a woman not to get much pleasure from anal activities. My partner is the same way. She allows me to play with her sometimes that way, but she doesn't get much pleasure from it. I wouldn't worry too much about her on that, because it sounds like you are both really enjoying her g-spot orgasms and that's awesome.
Let's focus on you for a minute. I hope that you enjoy penile orgasms and both of you are just looking for ways to take your experience to the next level. The prostate can represent a good way to do that, and it sounds like you have read accurate information about locating the prostate. The pleasure one derives from prostate stimulation depends on the individual. For some guys it might represent the greatest orgasm in the world, and for other guys it may be difficult for it to be anything but uncomfortable. It sounds like you may not be sure that you have located the prostate at all. That might be a good place to start, but since you have already tried an Aneros toy, you might try something with more of a curve to it to see if you get anywhere. What did you do while the Aneros was in? Did you just move it in and out or did you try to angle or did you try and get in different positions to see if you could get the tip of the toy to come in contact with the prostate?
The L-shaped double dildos offer a way for you and your female partner to both have something inserted. This can be difficult for your female partner to hold on to without a harness, so that can be a good idea as well. Some of the L-shaped double dildos are Vixen Creations Nexus line, Tatntus' Feeldoe line, Fun Factory's Share line and the Happy Valley Tango. The Nexus' and the Tango seem to be the least expensive. Go to the EdenFantasys home page, select dildos on the left, select the double dildos sub-category and then select pure silicone in the materials on the left and you will have all the L-shaped dildos (plus a couple of others) in front of you. Good luck!

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04/28/2009

ScottA

If your wife still wants to try anal stimulation it's good to also stimulate her in other ways at the same time. You can try a dildo, vibrator, hands, or mouth, but it's probably best to choose something that leaves you with plenty of freedom to move around and make sure you don't poke her uncomfortably.

If you're interested in the double dildos I recommend the Tango. It's a good size and it includes a vibrator that works well.

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04/29/2009

stricksw

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Originally posted by Jimbo Jones

Stephen you have presented some great questions.
It is very common for a woman not to get much pleasure from anal activities. My partner is the same way. She allows me to play with her sometimes that way, but she doesn't get much pleasure from ... more

Stephen you have presented some great questions.
It is very common for a woman not to get much pleasure from anal activities. My partner is the same way. She allows me to play with her sometimes that way, but she doesn't get much pleasure from it. I wouldn't worry too much about her on that, because it sounds like you are both really enjoying her g-spot orgasms and that's awesome.
Let's focus on you for a minute. I hope that you enjoy penile orgasms and both of you are just looking for ways to take your experience to the next level. The prostate can represent a good way to do that, and it sounds like you have read accurate information about locating the prostate. The pleasure one derives from prostate stimulation depends on the individual. For some guys it might represent the greatest orgasm in the world, and for other guys it may be difficult for it to be anything but uncomfortable. It sounds like you may not be sure that you have located the prostate at all. That might be a good place to start, but since you have already tried an Aneros toy, you might try something with more of a curve to it to see if you get anywhere. What did you do while the Aneros was in? Did you just move it in and out or did you try to angle or did you try and get in different positions to see if you could get the tip of the toy to come in contact with the prostate?
The L-shaped double dildos offer a way for you and your female partner to both have something inserted. This can be difficult for your female partner to hold on to without a harness, so that can be a good idea as well. Some of the L-shaped double dildos are Vixen Creations Nexus line, Tatntus' Feeldoe line, Fun Factory's Share line and the Happy Valley Tango. The Nexus' and the Tango seem to be the least expensive. Go to the EdenFantasys home page, select dildos on the left, select the double dildos sub-category and then select pure silicone in the materials on the left and you will have all the L-shaped dildos (plus a couple of others) in front of you. Good luck! less

More good & appreciated info jimbo! I really like giving orgasms, but make no mistake, I love my own too! LOL! My understanding of my own body & knowledge that when I orgasm, it's pretty much a done deal at that point, erection & desire pretty much dries up...so, knowing that, I focus on my partners orgasm first to make sure she's satisfied whether by coming first or on the not so often wonderful moment when we climax together.
When I experimented with the Aneros, I tried following the directions...had it in for a while, moved it via the tab, masturbated slowly while it was inserted. And while it was a good orgasm, there were other factors involved that I cant attribute the orgasm to the Aneros...the desire level for it to do "something" was great, was looking at porn, very horny and a prolonged masturbation session...etc...the other times I tried it, it just felt like pleasure, nothing great, but not uncormfortable per se either. A more pronounced curve sounds like a good idea as I have tried a straight & small vibrator with about the same results. While it felt ok, it didn't feel like it was hitting any magical spots either. I also have & had her tried using a massager externally & that didn't seem to do very much at all. Thanks again!

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05/01/2009

stricksw

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Originally posted by ScottA

If your wife still wants to try anal stimulation it's good to also stimulate her in other ways at the same time. You can try a dildo, vibrator, hands, or mouth, but it's probably best to choose something that leaves you with plenty of freedom ... more

Thanks Scott, I am very much in tune or try to be with what my wife/partner experiences. I have always felt that women have been slighted by the greater percentage of the male partner populace & felt compelled to make a difference both emotionally & sexually. Sometimes it's hard from me to accept that she is ok with just having sex & not needing to come...a big difference in men & women. BUT, one of the common & important threads I see in discussion between men & women is the ability to listen. I do listen, & try to accept that she can be satisfied with just the stimulation. It's just hard sometimes receiving, theres kind of a guilt of perceived selfishness...understa nd what I mean?
Also, without going into too much detail...I had an extremely traumatic situation happen to me at a younger age, so I understand very well the aspect of pain, especially in this region...I have never been one to appreciate pain beyond the obvious hallmark of telling oneself that you need to cease & desist that operation pronto! LOL. I do try to take my experiences both positive & negative & bring them to the best culmination possible for both ours & maybe someone elses benefit.
I do thank you again for your advice, it is much welcomed & appreciated.

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05/01/2009