Hi all!! I've recently started to explore anal with my SO after much discussion and so far I like what I have felt. We have only done massaging and 1 finger because it's hard for me to relax. While I am by myself I tend to watch a lot of hard core anal videos because I literally start driping!!! I have several vibrators and I have inserted one in all the way but then I froze. Even by myself I'm self conscious maybe? Idk how to get better because I do like it but it seems my mind and body cant sync up! Is there a toy or cream or video to help me out? Any advice welcome ?????
Solo anal play for a beginner
Rlprincess
02/23/2021
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Solo: Get a training set butt plug (typically has 3 different size plugs) and work your way up. Oh ya and use lots of lube.
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Rlprincess
Hi all!! I've recently started to explore anal with my SO after much discussion and so far I like what I have felt. We have only done massaging and 1 finger because it's hard for me to relax. While I am by myself I tend to watch a lot of hard
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Hi all!! I've recently started to explore anal with my SO after much discussion and so far I like what I have felt. We have only done massaging and 1 finger because it's hard for me to relax. While I am by myself I tend to watch a lot of hard core anal videos because I literally start driping!!! I have several vibrators and I have inserted one in all the way but then I froze. Even by myself I'm self conscious maybe? Idk how to get better because I do like it but it seems my mind and body cant sync up! Is there a toy or cream or video to help me out? Any advice welcome ?????
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SO: If you want to have anal sex, have him go down on you (foreplay), have sex, flip over doggystyle, insert a butt plug, have sex some more, then you should be ready for anal.
Good luck.
02/25/2021
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Find something to relax your mind and put some lubricating gel on it to ease it up and do some butt plugs. Go easy and just keep trying it. I was also nervous and tense at first but now I feel alot more relaxed at doing it and I prefer big dildos in solo play anal.
Originally posted by
Rlprincess
Hi all!! I've recently started to explore anal with my SO after much discussion and so far I like what I have felt. We have only done massaging and 1 finger because it's hard for me to relax. While I am by myself I tend to watch a lot of hard
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more
Hi all!! I've recently started to explore anal with my SO after much discussion and so far I like what I have felt. We have only done massaging and 1 finger because it's hard for me to relax. While I am by myself I tend to watch a lot of hard core anal videos because I literally start driping!!! I have several vibrators and I have inserted one in all the way but then I froze. Even by myself I'm self conscious maybe? Idk how to get better because I do like it but it seems my mind and body cant sync up! Is there a toy or cream or video to help me out? Any advice welcome ?????
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Good luck and have fun
02/28/2021
I just reviewed the "Share a passion". It's a 2 dildo and 1 harness kit. One dildo is very small and the other pretty big. I plan using the small for anal and the large for vag and pegging. And if you use harnesses also this would be a good buy.
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03/03/2021
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I 100% suggest not only a training set of plugs, but also there are some great beginner toys. There is a great beginners suction cup base toy. Having the suction cup gives a lot of stability to the toy especially when you want to use a vibrator while working on the new toy!
Originally posted by
Rlprincess
Hi all!! I've recently started to explore anal with my SO after much discussion and so far I like what I have felt. We have only done massaging and 1 finger because it's hard for me to relax. While I am by myself I tend to watch a lot of hard
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more
Hi all!! I've recently started to explore anal with my SO after much discussion and so far I like what I have felt. We have only done massaging and 1 finger because it's hard for me to relax. While I am by myself I tend to watch a lot of hard core anal videos because I literally start driping!!! I have several vibrators and I have inserted one in all the way but then I froze. Even by myself I'm self conscious maybe? Idk how to get better because I do like it but it seems my mind and body cant sync up! Is there a toy or cream or video to help me out? Any advice welcome ?????
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03/09/2021
It takes practice and mental preparation to get good at anal. It might take some time for you to find what works for you but be patient and don't give up; half the fun is in finding what works for you. My wife wasn't always as comfortable doing anal but now she loves it. When we first started we found that she felt more relax after she orgasm from vaginal sex so thats what we would do. We would have vaginal sex, sometimes including toys, then after she climaxed her body would relax enough to enjoy anal penetration. Maybe you should give that a try. Best of luck and just enjoy your experiences.
03/11/2021
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Grind ne
03/19/2021
As someone else mentioned, you might try having an orgasm (achieved in whatever way works best for you) before you start your anal play. Many people find that helps them relax their mind and body and enables them to enjoy anal penetration more easily.
Plugs can also be a really great way to introduce yourself to anal play. Start out really small. I really like the Booty Toy and the Cheekie. Both are small and made from soft and flexible silicone, which is a pretty forgiving material (also body-safe, non-porous, and can be sterilised). They're comfortable to wear and are small enough that they can be inserted comfortably with little to no prep work, so long as you're relaxed. Just add a dollop of your favourite water-based lube and you're good to go! Plugs are nice because they stay in place, so you can put one in and then do other stuff (sexual or otherwise), so mentally you don't have to fixate on it, you can just pop it in and then turn your attention elsewhere, while your body gets used to the sensation.
If you're interested in a set of plugs with different sizes, I think the Booty Jewels Set is among the best-sized for anal beginners. The smallest plug is very tiny (I think even a little smaller than the other two I mentioned), and the increase in size between the different plugs is more gradual than many other sets. Only downside is that these plugs are not silicone, so they can't be sterilised, but so long as you're not planning to share them, they're fine (and the TPR material they're made from is flexible and forgiving).
Aside from that, my best advice is just to use lots of lube and take things slow. If anything is painful or uncomfortable, slow down and go back a step. You might also try engaging in some anal play either in the shower, or immediately after you take a nice hot shower or bath, as hot water tends to help relax your muscles.
Good luck! I hope you're able to figure out what works for you. When done right, anal play can be a whole lot of fun.
Plugs can also be a really great way to introduce yourself to anal play. Start out really small. I really like the Booty Toy and the Cheekie. Both are small and made from soft and flexible silicone, which is a pretty forgiving material (also body-safe, non-porous, and can be sterilised). They're comfortable to wear and are small enough that they can be inserted comfortably with little to no prep work, so long as you're relaxed. Just add a dollop of your favourite water-based lube and you're good to go! Plugs are nice because they stay in place, so you can put one in and then do other stuff (sexual or otherwise), so mentally you don't have to fixate on it, you can just pop it in and then turn your attention elsewhere, while your body gets used to the sensation.
If you're interested in a set of plugs with different sizes, I think the Booty Jewels Set is among the best-sized for anal beginners. The smallest plug is very tiny (I think even a little smaller than the other two I mentioned), and the increase in size between the different plugs is more gradual than many other sets. Only downside is that these plugs are not silicone, so they can't be sterilised, but so long as you're not planning to share them, they're fine (and the TPR material they're made from is flexible and forgiving).
Aside from that, my best advice is just to use lots of lube and take things slow. If anything is painful or uncomfortable, slow down and go back a step. You might also try engaging in some anal play either in the shower, or immediately after you take a nice hot shower or bath, as hot water tends to help relax your muscles.
Good luck! I hope you're able to figure out what works for you. When done right, anal play can be a whole lot of fun.
04/04/2021
I preferred a mix between the two
I bought the vibration one and I won't lie it's painful but I am still working at it
04/18/2021
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