Best toy for a newbie?

Contributor: Allison.Wilder Allison.Wilder 05/06/2012

What's the best toy for a beginner?

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Contributor: Allison.Wilder Allison.Wilder
I'm looking to buy a toy for someone who has never used one and I'm lost. I know what I like, but I never really used beginner toys, so I can't guide her. Any suggestions would be great.
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Ms. N , ejrbrndps , Azule , VelvetDragon , ghalik , Sangsara , MissCandyland , Jon S , Nirelan , OneCurlyFry , theavocadopit , Modern^Spank^Anthem , FHeemz
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Ms. N , unfulfilled , ejrbrndps , Azule , pasdechat , ghalik , Sangsara , Hallmar82 , GONE! , jmex83 , teddybear328 , Undecided
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Ms. N , unfulfilled , ejrbrndps , Arch600 , Sangsara , junnebug97 , Nirelan
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Contributor: Ms. N Ms. N
All are good, so I picked all of them. Perhaps start small, with a bullet vibe, unless she is looking for something insertable.
05/06/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
Ask her what she would be comfortable with. Does she want something that is to be inserted or just something that is for the clit-other erogenous zones.

I personally like clit vibes and massagers but that's just me.
05/06/2012
Contributor: ejrbrndps ejrbrndps
she is probably small so just make sure its slim.
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05/06/2012
Contributor: Arch600 Arch600
I said other because it really depends on your friend's view of sex toys as well as preferences. The conventional wisdom is to start with something non-realistic, non-intimidating. That is probably the safest place to begin if you can't discuss your friend's preferences. But if you can talk it over, you may find that never using a toy doesn't necessarily come out of apprehension.

Considering you already know your friend hasn't used toys, I'm willing to bet you'd have no issues discussing it further. In fact, maybe browsing EF together and discussing the options is the way to go!
05/06/2012
Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
Quote:
Originally posted by Allison.Wilder
I'm looking to buy a toy for someone who has never used one and I'm lost. I know what I like, but I never really used beginner toys, so I can't guide her. Any suggestions would be great.
Vibrator, thats what I wen't with.
05/06/2012
Contributor: Vegan Silk Vegan Silk
I would say a traditional vibe that is slim. that way it can be used someone what like a dildo or for clitoral stimulation. multipourpose and non threatening while she finds out what she likes
05/06/2012
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
I agree about going with a 'slimline' toy. They're not too thick or realistic, and they don't have any potentially painful g-spot curves. She also can use it externally, if that's more their style.
05/06/2012
Contributor: Azule Azule
I would probably say something like a discreet vibe.
05/06/2012
Contributor: VelvetDragon VelvetDragon
I agree that a slim vibe that can be used both externally or internally is a great idea. I do think it should be accompanied with basic care instructions; not everyone knows how to clean plastic, or what lubes are safe for silicone, depending on the material it's made from!
05/06/2012
Contributor: pasdechat pasdechat
I wouldn't worry too much about getting a "beginner" toy, except in the sense that I'd go with something she can use externally--most women I know started out with clitoral stimulation before moving on to their G-spots. I really don't buy into the idea that beginners should start off with weaker toys, though--when I first started using toys I wasted a fair amount of money on mediocre vibrators with the idea that they were for beginnners--so I would get something with moderate to strong vibrations unless you know for a fact that she's really sensitive. It's much easier to dampen vibrations if they're too intense than it is too amp them up. A powerful slim vibe or pocket rocket would be my choice.
05/06/2012
Contributor: Sangsara Sangsara
I agree with pasdechat a lot of people waste money on crappy toys and end up spending more money in the long run than they would have if they had bought a decent toy to begin with. I really like the Fun Factory bi-minis line - they're fairly non-invasive, silicone, waterproof, rechargeable - around $75 so they won't break the bank. My fav is Ocean because shes dual stim with a g-spot curve. buying a silicone vibe is nice it will last its safe it feels great and you can use it as just a dildo by not turning it on- especially nice if it doesn't have a huge control dial.
but a cheap bullet is also good- one that doesn't crap out after the first use? jimmyjane iconic
05/06/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
I say go big or go home. Start off with the Hitachi, haha.
05/06/2012
Contributor: WD40watcher WD40watcher
I would start with a vibrator, Form 2 and Form 3 are good choices.
05/06/2012
Contributor: its just me its just me
Id start with a vibe.
05/06/2012
Contributor: ksparkles16 ksparkles16
A vibe like the mimi! or a bullet
05/07/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
I would get a dildo.
05/07/2012
Contributor: Kissy Kissy
small vibe, finger vibe, cock ring, bullet...
05/07/2012
Contributor: roskat roskat
A vibe would be a good start.
05/07/2012
Contributor: powerandintent powerandintent
I agree with the comments about a traditional vibe. that's what my first 3 were. =X
05/08/2012
Contributor: Master DarkWolf Master DarkWolf
Vibe.
05/08/2012
Contributor: DreamWolf DreamWolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Master DarkWolf
Vibe.
Vibe, that's what I started with too... ^^
05/08/2012
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
Quote:
Originally posted by powerandintent
I agree with the comments about a traditional vibe. that's what my first 3 were. =X
I also agree. I like vibes that can be either inserted or not, so you can really get multiple uses.
05/09/2012
Contributor: sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
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Originally posted by GONE!
I also agree. I like vibes that can be either inserted or not, so you can really get multiple uses.
Yes!
05/09/2012
Contributor: junnebug97 junnebug97
I would say like a rabbit or bullet.
05/09/2012
Contributor: lacybutton lacybutton
My first toy was a finger vibe (Finger Fun) and it was great - I actually still love it years later. Something small, non-intimidating and easy to hide would probably be best.
05/13/2012
Contributor: Entropy Entropy
A simple silicone vibe would be a good place to start.
05/13/2012
Contributor: Nirelan Nirelan
I don't know if she's a virgin or just new to toys, but I said everything but the massager......My first was a bullet and I STILL prefer them over anything else.
05/14/2012
Contributor: Nirelan Nirelan
Quote:
Originally posted by Hallmar82
I say go big or go home. Start off with the Hitachi, haha.
LOL!
05/14/2012
Contributor: Fawkes Fawkes
try a vibe, something versatile.
05/15/2012
Contributor: Gimme More Gimme More
Quote:
Originally posted by Allison.Wilder
I'm looking to buy a toy for someone who has never used one and I'm lost. I know what I like, but I never really used beginner toys, so I can't guide her. Any suggestions would be great.
vibe
05/15/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
basic vibe would be best
05/17/2012
Contributor: teddybear328 teddybear328
massager
05/17/2012
Contributor: Upyourreviews Upyourreviews
A starter vibe, so you can begin with the vibrations but move up to small insertion when you feel comfortable.
05/26/2012
Contributor: Undecided Undecided
Basic traditional vibe that is what I started with from Spencer's none the less
05/26/2012
Contributor: ginainohio ginainohio
vibe
05/28/2012
Contributor: theavocadopit theavocadopit
Quote:
Originally posted by Hallmar82
I say go big or go home. Start off with the Hitachi, haha.
Hahahaha, nice!
05/29/2012
Contributor: Rey Rey
vibe. Predictable and simple to use
06/02/2012
Contributor: Sauceboss Sauceboss
vibe for sure
06/04/2012
Contributor: Lady Bear Lady Bear
vibes are not scary for beginners plus there are such a variety there's something for everyone. ^_^
06/05/2012