Help! Circumference too Big!

Help! Circumference too Big!

t35 t35
I'm a virgin who recently purchased the dancer dildo from this site. I was mainly concerned with how body-safe it was, and the material it was made out of. Saw that it was 5 inches insertable, and figured it was the perfect purchase. However, when I tried to fit it inside me, the width hurt like hell, and I couldn't get it in. Found out it was a 5 and 1/4 inch circumference. Should I try to push myself and break my hymen with it, or should I set it aside and buy a new dildo with a smaller circumference later? Just don't want to hurt myself.
Feb 11, 5:58 pm
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iovys iovys
Quote:
Originally posted by t35
I'm a virgin who recently purchased the dancer dildo from this site. I was mainly concerned with how body-safe it was, and the material it was made out of. Saw that it was 5 inches insertable, and figured it was the perfect purchase. However, ...
Hey, sorry it's hurting you. I take it you tried with sufficient self-foreplay (~20-30min) to warm up & water-based lube? I read on its page that its diameter is 1 5/8" (inches). Frankly, that's a bit on the bigger side of things for beginner; I don't think you'll get it in without breaking your hymen.

When I got my first toy (as a virgin), I went with 1 1/4" (they were silicone ben wa balls), and I remember it hurting a bit too - I ended up going with it, bleeding, and after a week of healing, it was okay and easy to move forward; inserting the balls from that point didn't hurt anymore, and dildos/toys were able to join the game.

That said, I think that you should go with something smaller, at least to start. Sex (and self-pleasure) is supposed to be enjoyable, not hurting like hell.

This is one of the smaller, body-safe (silicone) ones I found, with a 1 1/4" diameter, so if you're set on breaking your hymen, do it with something gentler, like this. And use lots of water-based lube, as that's what is compatible with silicone.
Feb 11, 6:49 pm
GingerAnn GingerAnn
Quote:
Originally posted by t35
I'm a virgin who recently purchased the dancer dildo from this site. I was mainly concerned with how body-safe it was, and the material it was made out of. Saw that it was 5 inches insertable, and figured it was the perfect purchase. However, ...
Dear t35,
I am the Community Manager around here, and my sole purpose is to assist and advise. I'm sorry. It's truly unfortunate you've encountered a problem like this. We should certainly work on our size references.
Circumference over 5 inches is definitely not suited for beginners. I agree with @ivoys - pushing such a size inside would break your hymen 100%, even if you do proper foreplay and sufficient warm-up.

So, it all depends on what is your goal here, what are you trying to achieve. If you do want to tear or widen your hymen, you can stick with dildos. However, I would recommend a more sleek option. The one that @ivoys suggest is quite good. Here's another option - Charmer packs an exquisite design with a beginner-friendly girth.

I believe you should avoid glass dildos. Although they can be narrow enough, they are rigid and can hurt an inexperienced user.

The best option for you would be, I believe, is a rabbit vibrator, relatively thin yet equipped with smart functions. They are perfect for beginners, and they are guaranteed to deliver. My top choice for you is Eden Dual Caress - an extra slim shaft with effortless insertion, but the head is girthy and stimulating. Plus it has a fantastic finger-like motion function - it literally massages your G-spot as a real finger would.

If you need any help, please don't hesitate to contact me either here or in DMs.

Best of luck
Feb 12, 8:43 am
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