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Contributor: Eliza Eliza
Do you prefer a softer, more flexible dildo or a harder one?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
RubenesqueAna , Xavier7 , Harlequin , Yoda , Booty Boop , Intertwining , Rainbow Boy , I'll Miss You EF :( , Purpleladybug , kawigrl , CPTInsanity , liilii080 , REDRUM , Rossie , cobiffle , sarki , hornypoet69 , EndlessFrost , brian691986 , Joie de Cherresse , Spilock , ♥ Amanda ♥ , tickle me pink , Ansley , Sebmissive , Eva Schwaltz , zracer , Sunshineamine , bigfuckindicksDOTnet , K101 , toysforall , Angewin , mcl272 , MorbidRainbow , hiroshiro , lovelyx , dv8 , Rin (aka Nire) , 3d3n1 , butts , Tangles , gloomybear , cj89 , Vishous*girl , llellsee , RomanticGoth , Adriana Ravenlust , travelnurse , Arlinnae , xOhxSoxScandalousx
50  (23%)
DeliciousSurprise , Love Buzz , Eliza , Janis , Vanand , Bunnycups , Taylor , thegoldilocksincident , Lavendar Menace , Matty1980 , null , D&&JForever , Hadespark , Kylar , M121212 , froggiemoma , bunny love , padmeamidala , chidoll , Uenvime Diamond , daveysgirl , EJ , Sex'и'Violence , WhoopieDoo , acessorie , Nothere , CAKES , dawnkye , Apirka , Bethy Cassatt , Kitka , Kat and Aaron(aaron) , Mikemanz , FallFire , Dr. Curious , Tango8976 , Stinkytofu10
37  (17%)
Waterfall , ToyTimeTim , Emma (Girl With Fire) , firekitten , Gunsmoke , ToyGeek , Coralbell , Lady Neshamah , Shellz31 , just a sub , leatherlover , ScottA , ~LaUr3n~ , Darling Jen , PussyGalore , C4ss , mrs.mckrakn , rdytogo , clp , toxie m , Kim! , Liz2 , Envy , meganthomas , Sammi , married with children , Misfit Momma , *HisMrs* , joja , Selective Sensualist , LavenderSkies , potstickers , kittychilla , removedacnt , Lady Venus , cherryredhead88 , staceejaxxx , jankit , navigator-d , SerenityRed , RonLee , VenusianThunder , Lio , IndependentlyHappy , SexSay , SexyTabby , Miss T , soyandapplecrisp , s2 , Drifter86 , Cream in the Cupcake , CafeSabroso , Elbert's Angel , blah :) , krisvida , MaryExy , Mass , slynch , Fuck it. , jay28 , Lummox , Lolla Munz , callsignhusker , M. Roth , ichwillwaffels , Mommy2 , Lelogirl , wetone123 , Diabolical Kitty , tits only , aphroditelady , TexasBrat , angel142stx , sixfootsex , Ms. Spice , Britt&Daniel , RuMaRo34 , ily , Miss Anonymous , Marziba , MR Chickhabit , BellaDonna2884 , haley730 , Nissa Nissa , mizzmilla , SiNn , The Curious Couple , Dr Anal , indiglo , dhig , LennaKieran , Kina , PaleBeauty6 , Toys in Love , Anjulie , Beaners , Kkay , AshMegYo , Melan!e , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , roskat , Pirate , Zombirella , Sangsara , Lady Bear , Beck , sweetpea12 , Clubbinseals , Chefbriapink , Harpina is gone , Kynky Kytty , Andrey2052 , leanright69 , darkr , MidnightStorm , Feisty , Aishiteru , thesquaredeific , Katzer , satinlady550 , A.S. , Kappa8564 , lilacviolet , tunacan75 , Neurogasm , JennSenn , levellc09 , Airen Wolf , sparklebliss
129  (60%)
Total votes: 216
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Contributor: Waterfall Waterfall
I enjoy both. I really love all of my hard glass toys, especially for g-spot stimulation and I also love my O2 and Vixskin toys
12/11/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Yea - it's kinda a no brainer - variety's the key.
12/11/2010
Contributor: RubenesqueAna RubenesqueAna
I can't believe I'm the first to say softer! Harder toys don't bend with my body and are especially rough on my pubic bone if I'm trying to use them inside my vagina - I will never buy a glass toy again.
12/12/2010
Contributor: Lady Neshamah Lady Neshamah
depends on the moment if i want hard or soft
12/12/2010
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
I prefer in between. But do own soft, medium and hard toys.
12/12/2010
Contributor: Xavier7 Xavier7
Quote:
Originally posted by Eliza
Do you prefer a softer, more flexible dildo or a harder one?
I prefer softer.
12/12/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Depends on the mood and what you want to do with it. Harder toys are great for maximizing internal stimulation, while softer toys are great if you want to get wilder, use different positions, or the like. I have both and use them (sometimes even in the same session).
12/12/2010
Contributor: PussyGalore PussyGalore
Softer for anal, harder for vaginal.
12/12/2010
Contributor: removedacnt removedacnt
I didn't answer in the poll because it just depends on my mood. For the most part, I prefer semi firm silicone most of the time. Hard materials, like glass, wood, or metal, are usually too firm for me. But I don't exactly like soft and floppy ones either.
12/12/2010
Contributor: C4ss C4ss
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Yea - it's kinda a no brainer - variety's the key.
Variety really is the key so both! It depends on my mood and the moment.
12/12/2010
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
i prefer the bendy kinds but hard is good too
12/12/2010
Contributor: Yoda Yoda
It has got to have some give.
12/12/2010
Contributor: rdytogo rdytogo
Depends on my mood and what I'm looking for, so variety for me.
12/12/2010
Contributor: clp clp
Firm? Does that count as both? I like something stiff for a dildo, but not as hard as glass or metal. I prefer that material for smaller toys like plugs or beads.
12/12/2010
Contributor: toxie m toxie m
Both for sure! I love glass but I'm also dying to try something from the O2 line
12/14/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
Both, I will many times change from a soft to glass or steel in the same session.
12/15/2010
Contributor: ToyGeek ToyGeek
It depends on my mood, but I do seem to have collected more glass and metal than silicone, and I barely have anything in silicone that really qualifies as plush, besides the O2 Revolution. I have one Cal Exotics rabbit that's made of the most squishy TPR ever, and I can't even remember the last time I used it. I guess I need to order something softer.

*goes shopping*
12/15/2010
Contributor: ToyGeek ToyGeek
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGeek
It depends on my mood, but I do seem to have collected more glass and metal than silicone, and I barely have anything in silicone that really qualifies as plush, besides the O2 Revolution. I have one Cal Exotics rabbit that's made of the most ... more
Oops, I lied. I forgot about the Tentacle! That's super plushy and quite wonderful, but I never use it because it's serving another purpose. I'm weird and think it's art.
12/15/2010
Contributor: Intertwining Intertwining
I guess I'm part of the minority that LOVES floppy, squishy dildos! Nothing better then having plushy silicone in me- I can be as rough as I want, in any position but it'll never cause discomfort or feel pokey!

I DO own hard dildos made of glass or firm silicone, but I tend to find myself reaching for the squishy ones more often.
12/16/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
Harder for the smaller ones, softer for the bigger ones.
12/16/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by Intertwining
I guess I'm part of the minority that LOVES floppy, squishy dildos! Nothing better then having plushy silicone in me- I can be as rough as I want, in any position but it'll never cause discomfort or feel pokey!

I DO own hard dildos ... more
I like them too. You can get nice and wild with soft silicone and it doesn't hurt, and you can squeeze around it and feel it give a little.

There are other times that I want something hard and unyielding. It just depends, but that's why there are so many different materials, right?
12/22/2010
Contributor: Bunnycups Bunnycups
I love glass and harder silicone dildos.
12/22/2010
Contributor: Eliza Eliza
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGeek
Oops, I lied. I forgot about the Tentacle! That's super plushy and quite wonderful, but I never use it because it's serving another purpose. I'm weird and think it's art.
Definitely looking up what the Tentacle is right now. XD
01/02/2011
Contributor: Eliza Eliza
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGeek
Oops, I lied. I forgot about the Tentacle! That's super plushy and quite wonderful, but I never use it because it's serving another purpose. I'm weird and think it's art.
Haha, I have to agree. I think most people wouldn't realize it's a sex toy -- if I saw one on someone's mantel or bookshelf, I don't think I'd find it odd at all.
01/02/2011
Contributor: joja joja
My favorite dildo materials are pure silicone and glass. I use them for different purposes - rock hard glass toys are good for g-spot stimulation, while the give of silicone is good for thrusting.
01/02/2011
Contributor: hornypoet69 hornypoet69
I only own soft toys, for the moment since I'm an anal beginner, and a sex toy newbie. But I have been lusting after the njoy fun wand lately, which is steel. I never thought a sex toy could be sexy, but damn. I can't wait until I'm experienced enough to handle it.
01/02/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by hornypoet69
I only own soft toys, for the moment since I'm an anal beginner, and a sex toy newbie. But I have been lusting after the njoy fun wand lately, which is steel. I never thought a sex toy could be sexy, but damn. I can't wait until I'm ... more
Do wait until you have some experience, and consider starting your hard toy collection off with a less-expensive glass toy to see what you like in terms of size and curve.
01/02/2011
Contributor: Lavendar Menace Lavendar Menace
I love, love, love hard toys! Glass and steel are my favorite materials. I never would have thought I'd like harder toys because before I tried glass, flexible silicone was my favorite.
01/02/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Eliza
Do you prefer a softer, more flexible dildo or a harder one?
I'm right in the middle!
01/02/2011