Is it weird for a guy to buy lingerie for his wife?

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Is it weird for a guy to buy lingerie for his wife?

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Contributor: spiced spiced
Suddenly, I'm almost obsessed with corsets, bustiers, teddies...and all the other awesome types of lingerie for sale here. Which is kind of funny, considering that just a couple of months ago, I was (figuratively) rolling my eyes whenever the subject of lingerie even came up. Not quite sure how it happened, but now I've got about as many lingerie items on my wishlist as other items.

My wife does love lingerie, and I love seeing her in it. But do you think it's weird that I'm suddenly into buying her lingerie? And do you have any tips on how to make sure I get her things she'll actually enjoy? She doesn't want to look at it on the site, unfortunately. She's just said "surprise me". So that's what I'm doing...
02/09/2013
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Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
No, not weird at all.

Ask her about her favorite colors and styles (baby doll, corset, etc) and then check out what you'd like to see her in.
02/09/2013
Contributor: Breas Breas
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Originally posted by spiced
Suddenly, I'm almost obsessed with corsets, bustiers, teddies...and all the other awesome types of lingerie for sale here. Which is kind of funny, considering that just a couple of months ago, I was (figuratively) rolling my eyes whenever the ... more
I don't think it's weird at all! I'd recommend getting her measurements that way you know which size to get her. The different brands sizes run differently so you don't want to end up getting the wrong size. Is she pretty much open to anything? I'd probably ask her if she has any "limits" on what she'd feel comfortable wearing. Like for instance, is she comfortable with open cups?
02/09/2013
Contributor: Aishiteru Aishiteru
It's not weird. The best way to get something she will like is to get something that will fit well, is in a style similar to what she normally gets and is in a color she likes.
02/09/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
It's not at all weird, I'd say it's thoughtful, (as long as she wears it in the first place). It shows you're thinking of her & you think she looks hot in lingerie. As to the rest, I agree with what the others said, stay in her comfort zones.
02/09/2013
Contributor: novanilla novanilla
Definitely not weird at all. As others said, get her measurements, and figure out what kind of things she would like.

If she has issues with certain parts of her body, don't get things for her that will make her notice them more--like super tight pieces if she's self conscious about love handles or her stomach for instance.

Think about her tastes that she has in clothing. Are there colors she always drifts toward? If so, try getting her a couple pieces in those colors, and see how she likes them. If she says she hates how a color looks on her, definitely don't buy that.

If she loves boatneck styles, or certain types of necklines, look for things that resemble that. Think off the shoulder style versus a halter top. One is bound to be preferred over the other. After checking out her closet and things she may have picked out before, you'll probably get at least somewhat of an idea of whether or not she hates halter tops or something.
02/09/2013
Contributor: Mrs.Tee Mrs.Tee
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Originally posted by spiced
Suddenly, I'm almost obsessed with corsets, bustiers, teddies...and all the other awesome types of lingerie for sale here. Which is kind of funny, considering that just a couple of months ago, I was (figuratively) rolling my eyes whenever the ... more
No i dont think its weird at all, actually I find it kind of romantic for your guy to take the time out and buy you lingerie, perfume, and things like that
02/09/2013
Contributor: nosrslylol nosrslylol
I don't think it's weird at all, I think it's awesome. Buy away.
02/09/2013
Contributor: Zandrock Zandrock
Nope, not at all
02/09/2013
Contributor: phoenixfire phoenixfire
Not weird in the slightest. I wish my guy would do this for me! As it is, I know what I like and have trouble figuring out what he likes. Go for it!
02/09/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
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Originally posted by novanilla
Definitely not weird at all. As others said, get her measurements, and figure out what kind of things she would like.

If she has issues with certain parts of her body, don't get things for her that will make her notice them more--like ... more
That's a lot of great advice.

However... other than that she's 34B, her measurements are a mystery and she's no help! I ask and she shrugs. I look in her closet and there are smalls, mediums and even a few larges. As for lingerie, other than bras and panties, she only has two pieces - both many years old - and neither of those has a tag!

Most of her clothes are either work attire (pantsuits, etc), very dressy, special occasion stuff or jeans/t-shirts. She's a compulsive label-remover and claims not to know her size. She says she just tries stuff on and if it fits and she likes it, she buys it. She says American sizes are all over the map (she's not from here originally).

I do know her colors, fortunately, and I have (I hope) a general idea of what she likes. But it's still trial and error, which honestly is fun for me. Means I can buy lots of different stuff. For Valentine's Day, I've gotten her two corsets from the same company, one a small and the other a medium. I guess one will end up on Eden Classifieds! I just hope she'll like at least one of them...
02/09/2013
Contributor: Ayumi Ayumi
I don't think it is weird.
Perhaps if you find her the right piece, you can use that as a jump off point, but if she really likes what you get, perhaps you can push to measure her. Hopefully she would not find it offensive, but it would be nice if you wouldn't have to drop an arm and a leg (ie a bunch of money) in order to find out what fits.

PS. how tall is she?
I used to be a 34B, I'm a C now, but I'm smaller with longer legs than my torso and I am 5'7" So I find baby dolls to look best on me. If she is shorter, baby dolls may make her look a little cut off. So take that into consideration.
02/09/2013
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
No, I don't think it's weird at all.
02/09/2013
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I've been buying 'my girls' lingerie since high school! None have ever complained. Since marrying 23+ years ago, I've had just one girl to buy for - and I've pretty much bought everything that interests me - so I'm out of the business now - but I still love seeing her when she gets it out to please me.
02/10/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
Quote:
Originally posted by Ayumi
I don't think it is weird.
Perhaps if you find her the right piece, you can use that as a jump off point, but if she really likes what you get, perhaps you can push to measure her. Hopefully she would not find it offensive, but it would be ... more
Thanks for this! She's similar to you - long legs, shorter torso - but only about 5'4".

And unfortunately, she is NOT open to my measuring her! So I guess it's going to be trial and error for now at least. Fortunately, I'm currently just spending points, not dollars, but I know I'm going to give into impatient temptation again before long!
02/10/2013
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by spiced
Suddenly, I'm almost obsessed with corsets, bustiers, teddies...and all the other awesome types of lingerie for sale here. Which is kind of funny, considering that just a couple of months ago, I was (figuratively) rolling my eyes whenever the ... more
Well, I personally have my reasons for not wanting my man to go pick out my lingerie, but it's different for everyone. The only thing that matters is whether or not SHE is okay with you doing that. Sounds strange to most men because they think 'well, I'm buying her something, surely she couldn't be less than happy.' But actually, my partner taught me something about this. I used to complain that he must not be attracted to me because he never got excited about my crazy love for lingerie. He never showed any more excitement when I wore it/tried it on than when I didn't, so I took this as a bad thing. He explained to me (numerous times before I understood) that he actually wasn't uninterested, but didn't get more excited when I wore lingerie because to him, he was just looking to take it off & see what's beneath anyway. He explained that it simply was not needed for me to be attractive to him, and here I was thinking he was not attracted to me because he didn't get more excited when I did wear it.

Very complicated. So now that I do understand that, if he did go out and pick me out lingerie, I might be offended because lingerie is totally about me, not him. It's about me playing with my own self & having my own fun, so if he took it upon himself to choose what I wear, it'd feel like the entire fun of my lingerie wearing wasn't about me anymore, but more a way to please him & get him turned on, which is what I intended in the first place, but now he's changed my thinking, which in turn ended up giving me more fun. I don't have to worry about the lingerie being something that turns him on because he only cares about what's underneath so I can fully do it all for me. Make any sense at all? Probably not. Lol.

But I finally came to take his non-excitement as a compliment & now I wouldn't want him to NEED me to dress up in order for him to get a thrill and want me.

So that is my whole thing about not buying me lingerie. I'll pick it out, I'll wear it for me & then when I'm ready, he can peel it off & we'll have our fun. But wearing lingerie is a totally different experience when you don't have to worry about doing it for him, and especially when you don't NEED it in order for him to be turned on by you.

Personally, now that my partner has explained all this to me & I've began to enjoy my own self with my own lingerie picks, I love it this way & would be pretty insulted if he went out & bought me lingerie. Like I said, only because it's for ME. There isn't many things out there that's only for you & lingerie is mine. I don't want that to be taken away and used as a way for only pleasing him & buying what turns HIM on. Of course I wear it because it's fun to play with my different looks & styles & watch him go crazy wanting to peel it off & make him view me in every angle I can before he finally can't stand not to peel it off. That's the fun in it too. Hope I make sense.

This is why I say a guy needs to be sure SHE is okay with him buying her lingerie. It'd be easy for a girl to think you needed her to dress up to be turned on by her if you aren't clear & careful. Like I said, not many girls are going to think that way, anyway, but better to be safe. I never would've thought the way I do now if my parnter hadn't have explained how he felt.

And if it's sudden? Yea, she might get the impression it's a NEED for you & not at all something for her. If you've never done it before & she's never expressed an interest in it, then that is one possibility. You should know her prefs before "surprising" her first.
02/10/2013
Contributor: G&L G&L
No not at all
02/10/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
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Originally posted by K101
Well, I personally have my reasons for not wanting my man to go pick out my lingerie, but it's different for everyone. The only thing that matters is whether or not SHE is okay with you doing that. Sounds strange to most men because they think ... more
Very interesting post, Kendra!

Well, I'm sure she'd like for me to buy her lingerie. I bought her a french maid costume recently after she saw something like it on TV and said she wished she had something like that. The maid costume was kind of a fizzle, mainly because it was the wrong size, but she really loved that I bought it for her and she said she'd like it if I bought her something else. And one of her all-time favorite Christmas gifts was, believe it or not, a big gift certificate I bought her from a famous underwear/lingerie/etc store named after a certain 18th century British monarch. I went to the store with her and ended up picking out her items. Because she likes sexy undies and lingerie - but she just can't bring herself to buy such things for herself.

My interest is mainly because of the way sexy clothes make HER feel about herself. Like your husband, my favorite thing for my wife to wear is her birthday suit! It's also fun to "unwrap a nice package" but it's A LOT more fun to see her get excited at how sexy she looks and feels.

I feel great that no one thinks its weird and I'm encouraged that I seem to be on the right track. I can hardly wait until Thursday to see how she likes the things I got her for Valentine's!.
02/10/2013
Contributor: nikki0668 nikki0668
Not weird at all!
02/10/2013
Contributor: pokefan15 pokefan15
I buy my wife lingerie. I love to see her dressed up plus I know it makes her feel sexy as well.
02/10/2013
Contributor: Cindi025 Cindi025
nope I don't think its weird, however if you are going to stores and purchasing it without the wife... I cannot guarantee people aren't wondering if you are a cross dresser. LOL But hey who cares.. its thoughtful of you to be thinking of her and buying her things!
02/10/2013
Contributor: Firemenlafd2 Firemenlafd2
I surprise mine from this site all the time... Now if we go to a store Ill take her and have her pick a few then get one or maybe two
02/10/2013
Contributor: TheirPet TheirPet
No, not weird at all. I think it's actually really normal.
02/10/2013
Contributor: Ayumi Ayumi
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Originally posted by spiced
Thanks for this! She's similar to you - long legs, shorter torso - but only about 5'4".

And unfortunately, she is NOT open to my measuring her! So I guess it's going to be trial and error for now at least. Fortunately, ... more
Thanks for being willing to describe her height. If you think she would be interested, I think for the way you described her cinchers, short corsets or things that sit low on the waist might be a good direction. So it seems you've already been thinking in that realm. It is nice to hear she get's excited about picking out stuff with you or you picking out things for her.

Midnight Oasis Corset Medium might be a safe bet as an EXAMPLE (not sure what the rest of her measurements are, but I hover between medium and small depending on the shape). Even though you find large in my closet as well like her, lingerie is different so you may find yourself in the small or medium realm.

I don't claim to be a fashion guru, but I'm a bit obsessive about how I put things together. So you can take or leave my suggestions
02/10/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
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Originally posted by Ayumi
Thanks for being willing to describe her height. If you think she would be interested, I think for the way you described her cinchers, short corsets or things that sit low on the waist might be a good direction. So it seems you've already been ... more
Great suggestion. I'll look into that one!
02/11/2013
Contributor: libbyv libbyv
Quote:
Originally posted by spiced
Suddenly, I'm almost obsessed with corsets, bustiers, teddies...and all the other awesome types of lingerie for sale here. Which is kind of funny, considering that just a couple of months ago, I was (figuratively) rolling my eyes whenever the ... more
hubby won't buy in person, but from online sites, he doesn't mind
02/11/2013
Contributor: Fun2 Fun2
Quote:
Originally posted by spiced
Suddenly, I'm almost obsessed with corsets, bustiers, teddies...and all the other awesome types of lingerie for sale here. Which is kind of funny, considering that just a couple of months ago, I was (figuratively) rolling my eyes whenever the ... more
I think it is a good thing. Give her a candle with it.
02/14/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
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Originally posted by Fun2
I think it is a good thing. Give her a candle with it.
Good suggestion. Actually, I got her some massage oil to go with the two corsets I got for her. I still don't know if she likes the corsets - because last night, I asked which she'd like to try first. She picked the massage oil.

The massage oil, specifically the Stella massage oil (Wild Orchid) was a HUGE hit. She loved the massage, one thing led to another... and she didn't try on either of the corsets.

So tonight, we headed back to the bedroom and when I asked which corset she wanted to try first, she asked if I'd give her another massage! Again, one thing led to another... We almost never have sex two nights in a row, much less intense sex like we had last night and tonight. She's down for the count. Maybe tomorrow night, we'll finally get to the corsets.
02/15/2013
Contributor: sexytileena / absolutely love sex sexytileena / absolutely love sex
teddies are always fun
02/16/2013
Contributor: sillylilkitten sillylilkitten
No way. I'd think it was super nice and very sexy if my bf bought me lingerie he wanted to see me in.
02/16/2013