Suddenly, I'm almost obsessed with corsets, bustiers, teddies...and all the other awesome types of lingerie for sale here. Which is kind of funny, considering that just a couple of months ago, I was (figuratively) rolling my eyes whenever the subject of lingerie even came up. Not quite sure how it happened, but now I've got about as many lingerie items on my wishlist as other items.

My wife does love lingerie, and I love seeing her in it. But do you think it's weird that I'm suddenly into buying her lingerie? And do you have any tips on how to make sure I get her things she'll actually enjoy? She doesn't want to look at it on the site, unfortunately. She's just said "surprise me". So that's what I'm doing... less

Suddenly, I'm almost obsessed with corsets, bustiers, teddies...and all the other awesome types of lingerie for sale here. Which is kind of funny, considering that just a couple of months ago, I was (figuratively) rolling my eyes whenever the subject of lingerie even came up. Not quite sure how it happened, but now I've got about as many lingerie items on my wishlist as other items.

My wife does love lingerie, and I love seeing her in it. But do you think it's weird that I'm suddenly into buying her lingerie? And do you have any tips on how to make sure I get her things she'll actually enjoy? She doesn't want to look at it on the site, unfortunately. She's just said "surprise me". So that's what I'm doing... less

Definitely not weird at all. As others said, get her measurements, and figure out what kind of things she would like.

If she has issues with certain parts of her body, don't get things for her that will make her notice them more--like super tight pieces if she's self conscious about love handles or her stomach for instance.

Think about her tastes that she has in clothing. Are there colors she always drifts toward? If so, try getting her a couple pieces in those colors, and see how she likes them. If she says she hates how a color looks on her, definitely don't buy that.

If she loves boatneck styles, or certain types of necklines, look for things that resemble that. Think off the shoulder style versus a halter top. One is bound to be preferred over the other. After checking out her closet and things she may have picked out before, you'll probably get at least somewhat of an idea of whether or not she hates halter tops or something. less

I don't think it is weird.
Perhaps if you find her the right piece, you can use that as a jump off point, but if she really likes what you get, perhaps you can push to measure her. Hopefully she would not find it offensive, but it would be nice if you wouldn't have to drop an arm and a leg (ie a bunch of money) in order to find out what fits.

PS. how tall is she?
I used to be a 34B, I'm a C now, but I'm smaller with longer legs than my torso and I am 5'7" So I find baby dolls to look best on me. If she is shorter, baby dolls may make her look a little cut off. So take that into consideration. less

Suddenly, I'm almost obsessed with corsets, bustiers, teddies...and all the other awesome types of lingerie for sale here. Which is kind of funny, considering that just a couple of months ago, I was (figuratively) rolling my eyes whenever the subject of lingerie even came up. Not quite sure how it happened, but now I've got about as many lingerie items on my wishlist as other items.

My wife does love lingerie, and I love seeing her in it. But do you think it's weird that I'm suddenly into buying her lingerie? And do you have any tips on how to make sure I get her things she'll actually enjoy? She doesn't want to look at it on the site, unfortunately. She's just said "surprise me". So that's what I'm doing... less

Well, I personally have my reasons for not wanting my man to go pick out my lingerie, but it's different for everyone. The only thing that matters is whether or not SHE is okay with you doing that. Sounds strange to most men because they think 'well, I'm buying her something, surely she couldn't be less than happy.' But actually, my partner taught me something about this. I used to complain that he must not be attracted to me because he never got excited about my crazy love for lingerie. He never showed any more excitement when I wore it/tried it on than when I didn't, so I took this as a bad thing. He explained to me (numerous times before I understood) that he actually wasn't uninterested, but didn't get more excited when I wore lingerie because to him, he was just looking to take it off & see what's beneath anyway. He explained that it simply was not needed for me to be attractive to him, and here I was thinking he was not attracted to me because he didn't get more excited when I did wear it.

Very complicated. So now that I do understand that, if he did go out and pick me out lingerie, I might be offended because lingerie is totally about me, not him. It's about me playing with my own self & having my own fun, so if he took it upon himself to choose what I wear, it'd feel like the entire fun of my lingerie wearing wasn't about me anymore, but more a way to please him & get him turned on, which is what I intended in the first place, but now he's changed my thinking, which in turn ended up giving me more fun. I don't have to worry about the lingerie being something that turns him on because he only cares about what's underneath so I can fully do it all for me. Make any sense at all? Probably not. Lol.

But I finally came to take his non-excitement as a compliment & now I wouldn't want him to NEED me to dress up in order for him to get a thrill and want me.

So that is my whole thing about not buying me lingerie. I'll pick it out, I'll wear it for me & then when I'm ready, he can peel it off & we'll have our fun. But wearing lingerie is a totally different experience when you don't have to worry about doing it for him, and especially when you don't NEED it in order for him to be turned on by you.

Personally, now that my partner has explained all this to me & I've began to enjoy my own self with my own lingerie picks, I love it this way & would be pretty insulted if he went out & bought me lingerie. Like I said, only because it's for ME. There isn't many things out there that's only for you & lingerie is mine. I don't want that to be taken away and used as a way for only pleasing him & buying what turns HIM on. Of course I wear it because it's fun to play with my different looks & styles & watch him go crazy wanting to peel it off & make him view me in every angle I can before he finally can't stand not to peel it off. That's the fun in it too. Hope I make sense.

This is why I say a guy needs to be sure SHE is okay with him buying her lingerie. It'd be easy for a girl to think you needed her to dress up to be turned on by her if you aren't clear & careful. Like I said, not many girls are going to think that way, anyway, but better to be safe. I never would've thought the way I do now if my parnter hadn't have explained how he felt.

And if it's sudden? Yea, she might get the impression it's a NEED for you & not at all something for her. If you've never done it before & she's never expressed an interest in it, then that is one possibility. You should know her prefs before "surprising" her first. less

Thanks for this! She's similar to you - long legs, shorter torso - but only about 5'4".

And unfortunately, she is NOT open to my measuring her! So I guess it's going to be trial and error for now at least. Fortunately, I'm currently just spending points, not dollars, but I know I'm going to give into impatient temptation again before long! less

Thanks for being willing to describe her height. If you think she would be interested, I think for the way you described her cinchers, short corsets or things that sit low on the waist might be a good direction. So it seems you've already been thinking in that realm. It is nice to hear she get's excited about picking out stuff with you or you picking out things for her.

Midnight Oasis Corset Medium might be a safe bet as an EXAMPLE (not sure what the rest of her measurements are, but I hover between medium and small depending on the shape). Even though you find large in my closet as well like her, lingerie is different so you may find yourself in the small or medium realm.

I don't claim to be a fashion guru, but I'm a bit obsessive about how I put things together. So you can take or leave my suggestions less

Suddenly, I'm almost obsessed with corsets, bustiers, teddies...and all the other awesome types of lingerie for sale here. Which is kind of funny, considering that just a couple of months ago, I was (figuratively) rolling my eyes whenever the subject of lingerie even came up. Not quite sure how it happened, but now I've got about as many lingerie items on my wishlist as other items.

My wife does love lingerie, and I love seeing her in it. But do you think it's weird that I'm suddenly into buying her lingerie? And do you have any tips on how to make sure I get her things she'll actually enjoy? She doesn't want to look at it on the site, unfortunately. She's just said "surprise me". So that's what I'm doing... less

Suddenly, I'm almost obsessed with corsets, bustiers, teddies...and all the other awesome types of lingerie for sale here. Which is kind of funny, considering that just a couple of months ago, I was (figuratively) rolling my eyes whenever the subject of lingerie even came up. Not quite sure how it happened, but now I've got about as many lingerie items on my wishlist as other items.

My wife does love lingerie, and I love seeing her in it. But do you think it's weird that I'm suddenly into buying her lingerie? And do you have any tips on how to make sure I get her things she'll actually enjoy? She doesn't want to look at it on the site, unfortunately. She's just said "surprise me". So that's what I'm doing... less