I'm in my late forties. Biological changes do affect us sexually. Most of my toys are made of silicone too, but I've just bought a stainless steel Pure Wand, the material does not drag like some of the silicones do. Your wife can still enjoy her silicone toys, all she needs is extra lube to reduce dragging. I'm not a fan of artificial lube, unless I'm doing anal play, so I'm taking a herbal supplement to balance my hormones. The supplement I'm having is called Damiana leaf, my libido is higher and my natural lubrication is flowing at a healthy rate. I've been telling all my female friends about the benefits of this herbal supplement, maybe your wife should give it a try. less

I'm 23 and haven't experienced what your wife is experiencing, but dryness is very common (and manageable) issue for many women of a variety of ages. The Revolution, Outlaw and Goodfella are all made from matte "realistic" silicones that do have more drag to them, and they are probably not ideal for someone that has difficulty self-lubricating. Silicone lubes are the most slick, but they are not meant for silicone toys. Water based lubricants work well with silicone, but they dry up more quickly which creates a problem at times.

Glossy silicones such as those used in Tantus designs like the Tantus G-spot or the Tantus Buzz may be more up her alley. Vixen also has some glossy silicone toys such as the Mistress or, for something larger, The Leo. Of course, keep in mind that lots of water based lube - reapplied often too! - will help with any toy you use. This stuff changed my life! It very closely mimics natural vaginal secretions and stays slick longer than most water based lubricants as it's a hybrid. It is still safe to use with most silicone toys, as well.

However, it may be worth while to invest in an inexpensive glass toy to see if your wife likes it. Plenty of women here at Edenfantasys that are around your wife's age love firm glass or metal toys, so they may work for her as well. This style of glass toy is fairly inexpensive, well made and very well loved around here! There's also this beauty which is more on the expensive end of the spectrum - although it's on sale right now at 35% off. less

We have a Tantus Curve, it was our first pegging dildo. So we now understand the difference between matte and gloss silicone. Both our psychological preferences are for realistic dildos though.

She is susceptible to yeast infections and tends to be in those small percentiles for experiencing the side effects of many substances, how worried should we be about parabens? We have used KY silk successfully. System JO may or may not have caused her some burning, but it also might have been the overstretching of the O2 and/or the Outlaw. less

I don't know much about the side effects of paraben, a small percentage of people do have allergic reactions to paraben. If you're comfortable with KY silk, then you might as well continue using it rather than switching to other varieties. The O2 Revolution 1 3/4" and the Outlaw 2" are both thicker than the Curve 1 3/8", sometimes the extra 1/4" in diameter makes a big difference for an individual, that might be part of the reason for your wife's discomfort due to overstretching.

Some of the other EFers like to take Cranberry pills for prevention of yeast infections, maybe your wife can try that on a daily basis also. less

This one is for the older ladies. My wife is in her early fifties and we are both new to toys. So far she really hasn't had any good experiences with any penetrating toys, but we've only tried silicone. It seems that the drag of silicone isn't very appealing (maybe we need more lube?), but she is wondering if she would have enjoyed it 20 or 30 years ago when her tissues were fuller and more moist.

We're looking at glass toys now for the low drag, but fear the rigidity will have its own problems for the older vagina.

Anyone have any experience with toy material desires that changed as you got older due to related biological changes? less