I’m on the smaller side of the penis size spectrum. So in order to give my wife a little extra pleasure during sex I purchased a penis sleeve (a sleeve that goes over the penis to make it bigger and thicker). The first time I used the sleeve it was evident that my wife enjoyed the new toy. During our seven years of marriage I had never seen her moan and cum the way she did that night. I’ve used the sleeve on two other occasions since that night, and again, it was evident she liked it. However, to my surprise, she has asked me to never use it again. She admitted she liked how it felt but she said she prefers to “feel me” and not plastic during sex. I get that she likes to feel me during sex, as its an intimate moment that we share, but I don’t see the problem of using the sleeve once in a while, especially if she liked it. So my question is, could it be that she liked the sleeve so much that she’s afraid she’ll eventually prefer the sleeve over me and have the temptation to cheat to have a real penis this size? Could it be that it reminds her of an ex boyfriend? I’m just confused...
Question for the ladies regarding penis sleeves
RyM08
07/22/2018
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Hi, I'm sorry you're feeling worried about this. So here are my humble thoughts. I doubt that your wife is necessarily worried about cheating. However it is possible that she doesn't want to begin to prefer the sleeve to your natural penis. My biggest suggestion would be to simply have an open and honest discussion about why she doesn't want you to use it anymore. And if you want to lay the cheating question on the table, make sure you are very delicate about it. The last thing you want to do is make her think that you believe she even might cheat on you, that could possibly hurt her feelings. But like I said, that is very unlikely to be her concern. She likes sex better with your penis because of the intimacy. For many women the orgasm isn't necessary 100% of the time, though the thought and effort are always appreciated. The closeness and intimacy are often enough for sex to be satisfying.
I hope my rambling helped. It has been a long time since I logged on here and I apparently have a lot to say. Good luck and if you decide to have a deeper conversation about it I hope you will let us know how it goes! ?
I hope my rambling helped. It has been a long time since I logged on here and I apparently have a lot to say. Good luck and if you decide to have a deeper conversation about it I hope you will let us know how it goes! ?
07/22/2018
Dear RyM08!
I completely agree with MeliPixie that you shouldn't be worried about your wife considering cheating. For me, on many occasions, sex toys, however wonderful they might feel, don't deliver the sensations I get from having with my boyfriend's naked self
Thus, I believe your wife did enjoy the sleeve you bought but simply prefers you over any gadgets - and that's wonderful.
And surely we will be waiting for an update on the talk if you decide to have it. But I expect it to be not a revealing and sad conversation, but the sweetest moment of your married life.
I completely agree with MeliPixie that you shouldn't be worried about your wife considering cheating. For me, on many occasions, sex toys, however wonderful they might feel, don't deliver the sensations I get from having with my boyfriend's naked self
Thus, I believe your wife did enjoy the sleeve you bought but simply prefers you over any gadgets - and that's wonderful.
And surely we will be waiting for an update on the talk if you decide to have it. But I expect it to be not a revealing and sad conversation, but the sweetest moment of your married life.
07/23/2018
RyM08, chill, man. For women, it's not all about super ultra mega orgasms - it's about intimacy that can be way more fulfilling. I bet it was an interesting sensation for her, but nothing beyond that - she just wants to enjoy you. You're afraid she would think about cheating - I think it's the opposite. She did get a taste of, let's say, "another dick" and didn't want to stick to it. Best of luck in your most certainly loving marriage.
07/30/2018
Honey, unless the penis of her ex-boyfriend was inhuman, with all the textures and stuff, you shouldn't be worried that she is reminded of him. I bet when she's in bed with you, the only man she's thinking of is you. Her requesting not to use the penis sleeve again simply means it's not her cup of tea. For example, I was anal hooked once, it was a tremendous experience, but I don't wanna come back to that road again. Why? Because I know how it feels already, I will cherish the memories, but I would never enjoy it on the daily basis.
12/03/2018
So I had an experience lately that I felt was worth sharing in this particular discussion. Yup, you've guessed it - a sleeve had arrived in our house. I was cautious of it, and I immediately remembered this discussion and started to worry that I might give my fiance some anxiety because of the penis sleeve.
And what do you think happened? I thoroughly enjoyed the experience, but I would rather never do it again. Why? The same reason why I'd never watch "Twilight" ever again - one time is more than enough.
And what do you think happened? I thoroughly enjoyed the experience, but I would rather never do it again. Why? The same reason why I'd never watch "Twilight" ever again - one time is more than enough.
02/13/2019
RyM08
Thanks to everyone who responded, you’re advice was appreciated.
Here’s my long due update:
So following the advice I received here, I brought up the conversation with my wife as to why she didn’t want me to use sleeve anymore. I asked her to be completely honest and assured her I would not get upset no matter what she told me. She absolutely denied my suggestion that it reminded her of an ex or that she’d be tempted to cheat. However, she did admit sex with the sleeve was incredible, that it made her feel sensations she had never felt. She said it didn’t feel like plastic or anything like that, but rather it felt totally natural. She had two boyfriends prior to me who were of average size, so having a “penis” of this size was a new experience, a great experience, according to her. Now, as I stated in my first post, it was evident she was enjoying this new sensation, as she was moaning and talking dirty like I had never seen her before (which I totally loved). It was this reaction on her part that made her feel uncomfortable, not for her but for me. She was afraid she would hurt my feelings by making it evident she enjoyed more this “bigger penis” than mine, and according to her that is the last thing she’d want to do. I must admit though that hearing this did hurt my ego a little bit. My wife was basically telling me a bigger penis makes sex feel better. But in a weird way, it was kind of a turn on listening to her admitting this stiff. And at the same time, I felt good knowing she was having this new experience with me. Nonetheless, I assured her that her pleasure in no way would ever make me feel uncomfortable. I reminded her the reason I bought the sleeve in the first place was precisely because I wanted to give her more pleasure. In fact, seeing how turned on she got with the sleeve got me more turned on. So it’s pretty much a win win situation. Needless to say, we started using the sleeve again, though not as often as we’d like, since we have kids in the house and the sleeve definitely makes her more loud. Most of the time we don’t use it, unless upon her request. We even have a nickname for it now, we call it “my friend”, so whenever she wants me to use it she whispers in my ear “invite your friend.”
Well hope my experience helps anyone out there who might be going through the same situation. Having a bellow average penis is not the end of the road. There are ways to satisfy your women, just be open minded and be willing to listen to your girl and have open conversations about this stuff.
Here’s my long due update:
So following the advice I received here, I brought up the conversation with my wife as to why she didn’t want me to use sleeve anymore. I asked her to be completely honest and assured her I would not get upset no matter what she told me. She absolutely denied my suggestion that it reminded her of an ex or that she’d be tempted to cheat. However, she did admit sex with the sleeve was incredible, that it made her feel sensations she had never felt. She said it didn’t feel like plastic or anything like that, but rather it felt totally natural. She had two boyfriends prior to me who were of average size, so having a “penis” of this size was a new experience, a great experience, according to her. Now, as I stated in my first post, it was evident she was enjoying this new sensation, as she was moaning and talking dirty like I had never seen her before (which I totally loved). It was this reaction on her part that made her feel uncomfortable, not for her but for me. She was afraid she would hurt my feelings by making it evident she enjoyed more this “bigger penis” than mine, and according to her that is the last thing she’d want to do. I must admit though that hearing this did hurt my ego a little bit. My wife was basically telling me a bigger penis makes sex feel better. But in a weird way, it was kind of a turn on listening to her admitting this stiff. And at the same time, I felt good knowing she was having this new experience with me. Nonetheless, I assured her that her pleasure in no way would ever make me feel uncomfortable. I reminded her the reason I bought the sleeve in the first place was precisely because I wanted to give her more pleasure. In fact, seeing how turned on she got with the sleeve got me more turned on. So it’s pretty much a win win situation. Needless to say, we started using the sleeve again, though not as often as we’d like, since we have kids in the house and the sleeve definitely makes her more loud. Most of the time we don’t use it, unless upon her request. We even have a nickname for it now, we call it “my friend”, so whenever she wants me to use it she whispers in my ear “invite your friend.”
Well hope my experience helps anyone out there who might be going through the same situation. Having a bellow average penis is not the end of the road. There are ways to satisfy your women, just be open minded and be willing to listen to your girl and have open conversations about this stuff.
06/01/2019
Hi, thank you so much for giving us this update! I am so glad you decided to talk to her about this. Being open and honest about this sort of thing is so important in a relationship. And I'm really happy for you both that it has worked out to your benefit. Your wife asking you to "invite your friend" sounds so super hot! I may even ask my fiance about doing something like this, not with a sleeve because he is already so thick, I think that could be uncomfortable... But perhaps with our Feeldoe? Hmmm... I am getting off-track. Again thank you for the update!
06/01/2019
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Thanks for sharing! It certainly would be helpful for many people! There are some men and women who are worried about their partners would prefer sex toy to them so much, that afraid to talk over it and clear the issue up. I don't know anyone who would like to have sex just with a toy more than with a partner. Sex toys as an additional tool to partner sex are incredible, but intimacy with a real human is a completely different story.
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RyM08
Thanks to everyone who responded, you’re advice was appreciated.
Here’s my long due update:
So following the advice I received here, I brought up the conversation with my wife as to why she didn’t want me to use sleeve anymore. I asked ... more
Here’s my long due update:
So following the advice I received here, I brought up the conversation with my wife as to why she didn’t want me to use sleeve anymore. I asked ... more
Thanks to everyone who responded, you’re advice was appreciated.
Here’s my long due update:
So following the advice I received here, I brought up the conversation with my wife as to why she didn’t want me to use sleeve anymore. I asked her to be completely honest and assured her I would not get upset no matter what she told me. She absolutely denied my suggestion that it reminded her of an ex or that she’d be tempted to cheat. However, she did admit sex with the sleeve was incredible, that it made her feel sensations she had never felt. She said it didn’t feel like plastic or anything like that, but rather it felt totally natural. She had two boyfriends prior to me who were of average size, so having a “penis” of this size was a new experience, a great experience, according to her. Now, as I stated in my first post, it was evident she was enjoying this new sensation, as she was moaning and talking dirty like I had never seen her before (which I totally loved). It was this reaction on her part that made her feel uncomfortable, not for her but for me. She was afraid she would hurt my feelings by making it evident she enjoyed more this “bigger penis” than mine, and according to her that is the last thing she’d want to do. I must admit though that hearing this did hurt my ego a little bit. My wife was basically telling me a bigger penis makes sex feel better. But in a weird way, it was kind of a turn on listening to her admitting this stiff. And at the same time, I felt good knowing she was having this new experience with me. Nonetheless, I assured her that her pleasure in no way would ever make me feel uncomfortable. I reminded her the reason I bought the sleeve in the first place was precisely because I wanted to give her more pleasure. In fact, seeing how turned on she got with the sleeve got me more turned on. So it’s pretty much a win win situation. Needless to say, we started using the sleeve again, though not as often as we’d like, since we have kids in the house and the sleeve definitely makes her more loud. Most of the time we don’t use it, unless upon her request. We even have a nickname for it now, we call it “my friend”, so whenever she wants me to use it she whispers in my ear “invite your friend.”
Well hope my experience helps anyone out there who might be going through the same situation. Having a bellow average penis is not the end of the road. There are ways to satisfy your women, just be open minded and be willing to listen to your girl and have open conversations about this stuff. less
Here’s my long due update:
So following the advice I received here, I brought up the conversation with my wife as to why she didn’t want me to use sleeve anymore. I asked her to be completely honest and assured her I would not get upset no matter what she told me. She absolutely denied my suggestion that it reminded her of an ex or that she’d be tempted to cheat. However, she did admit sex with the sleeve was incredible, that it made her feel sensations she had never felt. She said it didn’t feel like plastic or anything like that, but rather it felt totally natural. She had two boyfriends prior to me who were of average size, so having a “penis” of this size was a new experience, a great experience, according to her. Now, as I stated in my first post, it was evident she was enjoying this new sensation, as she was moaning and talking dirty like I had never seen her before (which I totally loved). It was this reaction on her part that made her feel uncomfortable, not for her but for me. She was afraid she would hurt my feelings by making it evident she enjoyed more this “bigger penis” than mine, and according to her that is the last thing she’d want to do. I must admit though that hearing this did hurt my ego a little bit. My wife was basically telling me a bigger penis makes sex feel better. But in a weird way, it was kind of a turn on listening to her admitting this stiff. And at the same time, I felt good knowing she was having this new experience with me. Nonetheless, I assured her that her pleasure in no way would ever make me feel uncomfortable. I reminded her the reason I bought the sleeve in the first place was precisely because I wanted to give her more pleasure. In fact, seeing how turned on she got with the sleeve got me more turned on. So it’s pretty much a win win situation. Needless to say, we started using the sleeve again, though not as often as we’d like, since we have kids in the house and the sleeve definitely makes her more loud. Most of the time we don’t use it, unless upon her request. We even have a nickname for it now, we call it “my friend”, so whenever she wants me to use it she whispers in my ear “invite your friend.”
Well hope my experience helps anyone out there who might be going through the same situation. Having a bellow average penis is not the end of the road. There are ways to satisfy your women, just be open minded and be willing to listen to your girl and have open conversations about this stuff. less
I'm glad you had an open discussion with your wife which led you to more close, intimate and passionate relationships
06/04/2019
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