Back-up plan...fail.

This is more of a statement rather than a question or discussion topic.

Have you tried using it with him. Try to surprise him and introduce it on one of your regular lovemaking sessions. You should take control and masturbate him with it, to show him what is he missing. Also, continually reassure him, it's ok to use when you can't have sex.

As I found out with my wife, sometimes surprising your partner with toys does not go as planned. I agree with Onanist, give him oral sex, and maybe part way, pull out the toy and see where it goes from there.

The only way I get my man to try new things is if I do them with him. If your man doesn't want to try it, then I would turn the lights off, give him oral, and then lube that baby up and see how he reacts. That is just my opinion. He might thank you for it.

I guess the big question is how you feel about the reaction. It's just a toy, so remember he isn't rejecting you. It might be that he feels that using the toy would be a rejection of you.

If you don't mind giving him oral or handjobs then I'd say go ahead with those. Perhaps talk about the toy and find out about why he doesn't want to use it, but don't push too hard.

I can't support "sneaking" it into play unless you know how he will react. He might feel a bit betrayed because you haven't dealt with the reason he doesn't want to use the toy.

My guy is the same. I have had him try things but he is more traditional. He enjoys my manouvers more than the pocket pussy we have. I have been debating whether or not I should get one of the fleshlights since I find them so f'in awesome. I talked to him about it and he said that he would throw it away if I dared buy it. So I haven't.

Wow, Christmastime and birthdays must be stressful for you guys!

I bought myself a Fleshlight while my girlfriend was out of town for a while, but I can tell you that there is a sort of odd emotional dynamic when it comes to these things. I'd absolutely prefer anything she does over using the Fleshlight, but sometimes she's just busy, or menstruating, or out of town.

The thing with your men here may be that they feel as though you're buying the Fleshlight because you don't want to be bothered with them. If my girl was like "hey, look, I bought you this: now I don't have to worry about getting whiplash once a month", I would not have a favorable impression of the product either. Still, if you treat it like a couples' toy, I don't see any reason he ought to be against it.

There's also a sort of machismo tied up in it. Some guys might think it's weird or pathetic to use something like a Fleshlight, and there's really no getting around that. Still, if you make it about you, and tell him it's something you want to try because it turns you on, he might open up to it.

awhh. i'm sorry about that. =/

I think there have been some great suggestions so far, including trying to incorporate it into oral sex with him. It also may be the machismo thing, which might be eased if you showed him porn where they were used or even showed him this site - so he could see how many men from all walks of life love toys!

If all else fails though it's a nice gesture and I hope he at least appreciates that. If he really doesn't want it then make sure you gift it to a friend that will appreciate it!

I got my guy a Fleshlight which he hasn't used yet as well. It isn't that he thinks it's wrong... but he doesn't want to go to the trouble of cleaning it before and after. He's too lazy, sigh...

regift? lol

Get him to read some of the glowing reviews where guys praise it as a life-changing toy?

well if he doesn't like it, you can always send it to me haha
lol jk jk
but in seriousness this is an amazing fleshlight i would like to get my hands on. He'll really like it once he tries it!

yeah you prolly have to give him oral lol

Showers work equally as well!

Is he using enough lube? That's often the reason for discomfort using a Fleshlight.