Enchanted Crystals or a traditional slimline, like the JimmyJane Iconic Smoothie The enchanted crystals is not extremely powerful, and it's discreet and adorable in any color you'd decide on. The slimline is I think the best for starting out, because it gives you the option of internal or external stimulation and it has variable speeds that can be strong or mild! You can always buy a bunch of cheap toys in different styles, then when you decide what you like, go for a better quality one.

I would recomend the brand Toyfriend. They're approachable and fun. They're not intimidating, mostly. Edenfantasys has some available. Toyfriend's least expensive collection features only one speed, and use n batteries, which are not very common. Their other collections go up in price, need the more commonly required batteries, and are multispeed along with vibration modes I think. They are silicone over plastic. I own the mystic and rebel from the least expensive collection, and they are both one speed. They're not very strong. I would recommend the multispeed ones that are a bit pricier. Probably the starlet.