I used to prefer harnesses to strapless strap-ons; however, with time and practice, these are now less tricky to use.

What works for me is the proper position. Doggy and missionary with you on the top are somehow challenging for beginners. The best position is when your partner is on top, with you lying on the back. In such a position, you can hold the dildo with legs that helps keep it in place while your partner rides on you. You take care of the dildo to stay in place and your partner controls the depth, intensity, and rhythm of riding.

And training your pelvic muscles is a must.

It doesn't work unless you have extremely strong muscles to hold it in and can you really enjoy it for long if it's like a workout. Most strap-on experts will tell you there in no such thing as a strapless strap-on. Although Meg's advice is good and have your partner on top. The only position that ever worked for us.

We have the Fun Factory Share.Did a review on it many years ago. At first I was able to keep it in for the short time. As I got more excited it would start slipping. Bah, no fun. Had to hold it in , no fun. Perhaps for anyone not able to hold it in try the spooning position