Good toy for him to use on me?

Good toy for him to use on me?

kittycatgirl kittycatgirl
I am trying to get my man into the idea of using toys on me. He's done it a few times, but he seems to feel awkward doing it. What's a good toy that is user friendly and not intimidating, AND provides great stimulation? Suggestions??
04/10/2012
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P'Gell P'Gell
That could be any toy on the site. "Not intimidating" is in the eye of the beholder. My Man isn't intimidated by any toy, I am not either, so that depends on the person.

Why not pick out a dozen or two dozen toys you like and show him the site? My husband loves to go toy shopping with me. It ends well.... I get toys and we both get laid.
04/10/2012
Sugarfina Sugarfina
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Originally posted by P'Gell
That could be any toy on the site. "Not intimidating" is in the eye of the beholder. My Man isn't intimidated by any toy, I am not either, so that depends on the person.

Why not pick out a dozen or two dozen toys you like and ...
Great suggestions, P'Gell! I think showing your boyfriend a selection of toys he and you might both agree on would be a good idea.
04/10/2012
Kissy Kissy
That is a good idea! Make a wish list together!
04/10/2012
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
It's all about attitude - P'Gell has the best idea - but he may not go for it. I never succeeded in getting my wife to participate in the acquisition process.

I hope it works for you - if not, be persistent. Greater familiarity with the toys will wear away at the discomfort - especially when he sees how well it works for you.

One last suggestion - my wife always goes out of her way to tell how much she enjoys conventional PIV and other non-toy sex play. I believe she thinks it dispels any fear that I could be replaced by the toys. I have no such fear - but her enthusiasm is still welcome affirmation.
04/11/2012
Ryuson Ryuson
Well, it really depends. If you're going with something insertable go with SILICONE! It's flexible so that he can't bruise you (a possible outcome with a plastic or glass toy) and it's 100% body safe unlike jelly and such. I personally really like the Harmonia by Close2You. (Out of stock right now, but should be back soon!)

If you're looking for something to use externally during intercourse go with something like the Bgee Deluxe or something else with a long neck/body. This serves as a handle so that it doesn't get in the way during sex and is easy to maneuver.

If you're looking for something to be used externally as foreplay, I would recommend something like the Eden bullet or the Birthstones by Evolved. One is corded and more powerful, the other is cordless and a bit weaker.

Something to keep in mind is that I wouldn't want to spend over $50 on a toy in case he freaks out and tosses it in the trash or off a cliff or something. Similarly, you don't want to get anything too cheap or made out of ucky materials. Some nice balance in the middle!
04/11/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
I think something that can be slipped on his finger for clitoral stimulation would be small and unintimidating.
04/11/2012
K101 K101
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Originally posted by kittycatgirl
I am trying to get my man into the idea of using toys on me. He's done it a few times, but he seems to feel awkward doing it. What's a good toy that is user friendly and not intimidating, AND provides great stimulation? Suggestions??
Depends. There are things like small, cute bullets that would probably be a good idea for beginners as far as introducing toys into the rel.

I happen to stick with vibrators only and of average/less than average size. This is mostly because we're a couple too and we prefer him using them on me as foreplay. Bullets are really basic and probably will be the best bet, but there are other things too that I think are nice for beginners. Vibrating panties or something wireless like some of the wireless bullets are a good option because he can control it and you have the bullet in your pants. That usually is fun to men.
04/11/2012
kittycatgirl kittycatgirl
I ended up getting a few things. I showed him some of the videos for the products and he got all excited watching them, so now he can't wait for the order to arrive lol! I like the wireless idea, Kendra! I think I might look at that for my next order!
04/11/2012
GS500 GS500
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Originally posted by kittycatgirl
I ended up getting a few things. I showed him some of the videos for the products and he got all excited watching them, so now he can't wait for the order to arrive lol! I like the wireless idea, Kendra! I think I might look at that for my ...
keep us updated!
04/11/2012
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