Help? I'm really confused...

Contributor: Nothere Nothere
Okay, I have a confession to make. I've tried to ignore this, but I really can't because I feel like I'm missing out on something.

Here goes nothing... I can't figure out how to enjoy clitoral stimulation (without penetration)! Aside from my Hitachi, I don't own a single clitoral only vibrator. Furthermore, besides my hitachi (again) I don't actually have a clit vibe that I actually use on a regular basis.

Let me explain. Me and clitoral stimulation have an odd relationship. My clit is both not sensitive and too sensitive at the same time. The only way that I've ever orgasmed from direct clit only stimulation is from putting pressure to my clit, indirectly--something I've done since childhood. I close my legs and grind against a table edge. The only time I've experienced the same feeling is with the hitachi, and that's not even always consistent.

Direct stimulation to my clit either is uncomfortable or it's numbing and I can't feel anything. If I use my hitachi directly on my clit or a really strong bullet I feel the need to urinate, but I don't feel any pleasure from it.

I don't know what I'm doing wrong and I'm at a loss for what to do next. I've enjoyed quite a number of lovely dildos to stimulate my g spot, and in doing so I've felt the need to manually stimulate my clit as well for a
'release'. Because of this I've decided to renew my clit vibe search and to find a vibrator that is enough to satisfy me clitoraly.

Does anyone have any suggestions or vibrator suggestions?
12/16/2011
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Contributor: Ghost Ghost
I never use anything on my clit unless it's through the clitoral hood (never directly contacting the clit), and I need a lot of pressure. I find it best to vibrate above or below the clit, and I really like it when the vibration runs from below the clit all the way to the urethra. I'll warn you, though, that some people HATE urethral vibration and find it painful. I've had no such reaction and I LOVE it.
12/17/2011
Contributor: Chirple Chirple
Have you experimented with different placements ?

Have you used "buzzy" or "rumbly" ones other than the Hitachi ?

Have you used other toys with larger or smaller heads ?


I can't directly touch my clitoris - it's owchie and hurty if I do. The placement I like to use is on the side of it, pressing against the "stem" through the base of the hood.

But this depends on your anatomy and taste. Different people like different things and you have to find what works for you. The technique and are that works so well for my partner does absolutely nothing for me.

Using your hands, which areas feel good ? This might help you figure out what shape / type of toy you might enjoy.

Have you tried toys with rounded / broad head ? Pinpoint ones ? How did they work ?
12/17/2011