How to decide on a vibrator?

A toy in the bedroom can be fun but, letting it in should be on your own terms. Talk to your boyfriend about and share your worries with him maybe you'll have nothing to worry about at all.

reliant? it is just for fun. Me and my partner have a lot of toys and sometimes we do not use them at all, because it is just the mood thing

There's really no such thing as vibrator "addiction" as such. i love my vibes and my Partner and i have plenty of toys and, like Bofen, sometimes we use them but, honestly, most of the time Wwe don't. i'd say that about 80% of my solo masturbation sessions involve a toy of some kind but certainly not all. i'd estimate that maybe 50% of Oour partnered sex sessions involve a toy. The worst that can happen from frequent, powerful vibe usage is that your clit may become somewhat less sensitive but this is a totally temporary effect. Stop using the vibe and your sensitivity will come right back. Toys in partner sex can be a lot of fun, even just a little vibe to use on your clit during PIV sex, or something to tease you during foreplay. In my opinion, if you're having satisfying, enjoyable toyless sex now, you won't have any problem having satisfying, enjoyable toyless sex once you own a toy, you'll just have the option to alternate toyless sex with toy-assisted sex and have more variety in your sex life. But, that said, toys aren't for everyone and, even for those that do use them, how and when to incorporate them into sex life and/or masturbation routines will vary widely from person to person and couple to couple and is totally your choice. Personally, i see little to no downside in giving it a try. Like darkr says, communication with your boyfriend is key. That and, if you do decide to look into buying a toy, do your research, read reviews, learn about materials, safety, lube compatibility, lube ingredient safety, etc. I recommend the guides posted by a reviewer here on the forums called Kira. She posted a Guide to Buying Your First Sex Toy on her blog which is an excellent resource, and her reviews are also stellar. Good luck!

They are definately worth a try. Nothing to lose!

Vibrators are fun to use and I would definitely recommend buying one. For me, vibrators don't replace the experience of being with another person, which I favor. However, clitoral simulators would be a great toy to initially incorporate into foreplay. Most importantly, go at your own pace and do what you feel comfortable with.

My honest opinion is that while yes you can desensitize your clitorus from vibrators and yes you can sensitize it again by not using a vibrator for a while (maybe a while means weeks but I think for most people it probably means several months - but again this is just my opinion based on my personal experience), the potential problem is that once that horse is out of the barn, you're going to find it really hard to put it back in the barn hahaha. It IS addictive - but not in any dangerous or permanent way. Just too tempting to pull it out for a quickie! I don't think most other toys - ones that aren't mainly for clitoral stimulation - will desensitize you - there's no problem there. I mean yeah it's fair to say some really big internal toy could stretch you out a little but I doubt enough to be a real concern. But it's so NICE to be able to get off so intensely and quickly when you want to...so it's a tough decision! I'd say go for some fun toys but don't use the clitoral ones all the time unless the trade-off or little losses are worth it for you. Also if you can get off from something your boyfriend does all on his own, like oral sex (a lot of people can't reach orgasm easily), you might not need any help! I'd kill to be able to reach orgasm quickly without toys, so I'm a little biased cause of my envy! Human contact is pretty awesome!!