So I bought my wife a Hitachi magic wand for Valentines day. She'd only ever had a couple orgasms before that. We'd never really tried a toy before, except the small condom/cockring vibrator deals from trojan. Those were nice, but didn't seem to do a lot for her, and tended to stimulate me too much. The hitachi has been great. She doesn't really like anything but me inside her so far, so we haven't used the attachments much. The problem with the Hitachi is size... when we use it while making love, the pressure of me pushing against it leaves her satisfied, but very sore afterwords, so she's not up for sex for a few days.

Anybody have any recommendations? I'm thinking something softer and smaller. But I've heard that the softer materials tend to be less safe as far as bacteria, etc. go.