I wouldn't buy one for her unless she asked me, but I certainly wouldn't judge her on it. I would prefer a child of mine masturbating to experimenting with a partner before they were ready to handle the potential consequences.
Would you buy your daughter a vibrator?
04/04/2012
No I wouldn't, unless she asked us for one
04/04/2012
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Would you buy your sons a fleshlight or similiar masturbator?
Originally posted by
Beck
I definitely would, should I have a daughter. I have two boys.
04/04/2012
NO. If I had a daughter,(I have 2 daughter-in-laws), I could talk to her about vibrators, if she wanted too. But I could never personally buy her one. Just like I don't like to talk about sex with my sons. That was hard enough to do when they were growing up.
04/04/2012
Not sure. Having kids changes alot of things. I wouldn't, but depends on their age and maturity level...
04/04/2012
If the situation arose naturally I would make it clear that there was nothing shameful about masturbation/sex toys, and if I was asked directly I would allow my child to buy a sex toy online or get one for them. I would not present one to them as an initiation rite without prior discussion.
I'd like to think if my child came to me before they had sex with another person that I'd use that opportunity to encourage them to explore their sexuality with toys beforehand... It would really be dependent on the kid, the situation, and the dynamics of our relationship.
I'd like to think if my child came to me before they had sex with another person that I'd use that opportunity to encourage them to explore their sexuality with toys beforehand... It would really be dependent on the kid, the situation, and the dynamics of our relationship.
04/04/2012
I have a very young daughter and this question came up during a conversation a while ago. I am still not sure.
I think I would direct this to a close family member such as an aunt I knew was comfortable to discuss and help her with this purchase.
I think I would direct this to a close family member such as an aunt I knew was comfortable to discuss and help her with this purchase.
04/06/2012
I would buy her one. I mean I'm not going to just get her one and be like "here ya go!" but I hope that talking about sex with my kids can be as easy as talking about what to eat for dinner. If she came to me and asked. I would do it. I wouldn't even second guess it either.
04/06/2012
I don't see anything wrong with it.. sure
04/07/2012
I probably would depending on how old she was and what the situation was. My mother bought me my first (upon request) when I was in my upper teens so I wouldn't have a problem if I had a daughter and she put me in the same situation. But I guess we'll see if that happens if and when the time comes.
04/08/2012
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No, it'd be too uncomfortable for them I'd think to receive that from their parents and I would rather not know what they do or don't do.
Originally posted by
vanilla&chocolate
I'm 19, and pretty far from having kids, but lately I've been thinking about this. I would never have asked my mom for a vibrator even though I really wanted one, so when I was 18 I simply went to the local sex shop and got one. Before that,
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I'm 19, and pretty far from having kids, but lately I've been thinking about this. I would never have asked my mom for a vibrator even though I really wanted one, so when I was 18 I simply went to the local sex shop and got one. Before that, I used the showerhead, my fingers, etc. If I'm a parent with a daughter at some point in the future, I will most likely buy her a vibrator when she is 16 or so. I am wondering how many people here have done this or would do this?
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04/08/2012
I'd rather teach her about it safely than her possibly getting into all sorts of trouble trying to get her own.
04/09/2012
Wow! This has generated more discussion than I thought it would. I have loved getting to know everyone's opinions.
04/09/2012
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I don't have kids, and don't plan on it. But I wouldn't buy them a vibrator unless they were an adult, meaning over the age of 18 and only if they asked
Originally posted by
vanilla&chocolate
I'm 19, and pretty far from having kids, but lately I've been thinking about this. I would never have asked my mom for a vibrator even though I really wanted one, so when I was 18 I simply went to the local sex shop and got one. Before that,
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I'm 19, and pretty far from having kids, but lately I've been thinking about this. I would never have asked my mom for a vibrator even though I really wanted one, so when I was 18 I simply went to the local sex shop and got one. Before that, I used the showerhead, my fingers, etc. If I'm a parent with a daughter at some point in the future, I will most likely buy her a vibrator when she is 16 or so. I am wondering how many people here have done this or would do this?
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04/11/2012
I wouldn't by my daughter,if I had one,a vibrator because I would be to embarrassed to.When I was a teenager I remember how difficult it was to buy and hide a vibrator so if I had a daughter I would tell her not to be embarrassed about buying one but,I wouldn't buy it for her.
04/11/2012
I wouldn't go vibe shopping with or for my (maybe someday) kids, but I would give them money to get their own stuff.
04/11/2012
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I don't know... only if we talked about that sort of thing... I wouldn't want to just walk up to my daughter(if I had one) and say"Here, its a vibrator, have fun" lol, but if she acted like she wanted one or hinted around... possibly
Originally posted by
vanilla&chocolate
I'm 19, and pretty far from having kids, but lately I've been thinking about this. I would never have asked my mom for a vibrator even though I really wanted one, so when I was 18 I simply went to the local sex shop and got one. Before that,
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I'm 19, and pretty far from having kids, but lately I've been thinking about this. I would never have asked my mom for a vibrator even though I really wanted one, so when I was 18 I simply went to the local sex shop and got one. Before that, I used the showerhead, my fingers, etc. If I'm a parent with a daughter at some point in the future, I will most likely buy her a vibrator when she is 16 or so. I am wondering how many people here have done this or would do this?
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04/11/2012
maybe i would if we could talk about sex, but if it would make her uncomfortable if wouldint.
04/11/2012
She is only 3 so lets see how I feel say 15 years from now haha
04/12/2012
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I think I'd mention vibrators while giving the sex talk and if she asked, I'd get her one. I started getting interested in that stuff at like 13, so that's probably my cut-off point.
Originally posted by
plaidvulva
I think age would matter to me. If my ten year old daughter asked me for a vibrator, I'd probably say no. But, if my 16 year old daughter asked for one, I'd probably buy her one for her birthday or something. "Instead of a car,
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I think age would matter to me. If my ten year old daughter asked me for a vibrator, I'd probably say no. But, if my 16 year old daughter asked for one, I'd probably buy her one for her birthday or something. "Instead of a car, here's THIS!"
lol, I have no problem with getting a daughter it, she just has to ask. I'm not going to assume. less
lol, I have no problem with getting a daughter it, she just has to ask. I'm not going to assume. less
04/12/2012
Yes. I would let her pick it out though, and without me. I like the gift card idea.
04/12/2012
I'm also too young to have kids. But I think that should I have a daughter in the future, I would discuss sex and masturbation with her. I feel that it's better to be open about sexuality and have her learn the right things rather than have her discover for herself through friends and the internet. If she ever openly asks for a vibrator or dildo, I would probably buy her one.
04/12/2012
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Maybe
Originally posted by
vanilla&chocolate
I'm 19, and pretty far from having kids, but lately I've been thinking about this. I would never have asked my mom for a vibrator even though I really wanted one, so when I was 18 I simply went to the local sex shop and got one. Before that,
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I'm 19, and pretty far from having kids, but lately I've been thinking about this. I would never have asked my mom for a vibrator even though I really wanted one, so when I was 18 I simply went to the local sex shop and got one. Before that, I used the showerhead, my fingers, etc. If I'm a parent with a daughter at some point in the future, I will most likely buy her a vibrator when she is 16 or so. I am wondering how many people here have done this or would do this?
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06/23/2012
My oldest daughter just turned 6, so I'm pretty far from that. It would depend on her maturity whether or not I got one for her.
06/23/2012
I'm a man, and I have a grown daughter, and I couldn't have bought her a vibrator. I know that she had at least one, and as a young adult, her mom and she went to a sex toy party. But I couldn't have bought her one. I HAVE bought my wife many!
06/23/2012
I'm really not sure. Maybe, if my daughter (or son) asked me when she was 16 or something. It really depends on our relationship. But I wouldn't force her to get a toy unless she actually wanted one.
06/25/2012
I don't have any kids yet, so who knows.
I've thought maybe putting a simple one in some sort of puberty care-package for a future daughter. But then maybe that would be too young to be given one. Not sure what age it would actually be appropriate though.
I've thought maybe putting a simple one in some sort of puberty care-package for a future daughter. But then maybe that would be too young to be given one. Not sure what age it would actually be appropriate though.
06/25/2012
Im so sure i would
06/25/2012
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Interesting perspective, I agree.
Originally posted by
ValerieRayne
I honestly thought it was a major rite of passage to buy my first sex toy. Just like the first time you're legally allowed to have a drink. I also enjoyed the change over of the maturity in my masturbation. Like the OP, I used the more
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I honestly thought it was a major rite of passage to buy my first sex toy. Just like the first time you're legally allowed to have a drink. I also enjoyed the change over of the maturity in my masturbation. Like the OP, I used the more rudimentary methods to masturbate (and sometimes still do). I just think that's an important part of becoming a woman, taking control of your sexuality.
I have kids and I don't know if I would buy my daughter a vibrator. She's currently 7 and while I would say that I'm more open about sexuality with her than I've ever heard of any parent being before, I'm not sure I would give her a vibrator before she was legally allowed to buy them herself.
If I had to make the transition from pre-historic to new-age sexuality (hands vs. vibrator), then so should she. I think maybe there's just a line that parents can cross for kids, when it's no longer "Oh thanks Mom" but instead becomes "I've been in therapy for 20 years thanks to my Mom". Being open and honest and communicating about sex with your kids is wonderful, but buying them sexual gifts just seems a little weird to me. less
I have kids and I don't know if I would buy my daughter a vibrator. She's currently 7 and while I would say that I'm more open about sexuality with her than I've ever heard of any parent being before, I'm not sure I would give her a vibrator before she was legally allowed to buy them herself.
If I had to make the transition from pre-historic to new-age sexuality (hands vs. vibrator), then so should she. I think maybe there's just a line that parents can cross for kids, when it's no longer "Oh thanks Mom" but instead becomes "I've been in therapy for 20 years thanks to my Mom". Being open and honest and communicating about sex with your kids is wonderful, but buying them sexual gifts just seems a little weird to me. less
06/25/2012
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I'm not sure and I'm really glad I'll never have to find out because I have boys.
Originally posted by
vanilla&chocolate
I'm 19, and pretty far from having kids, but lately I've been thinking about this. I would never have asked my mom for a vibrator even though I really wanted one, so when I was 18 I simply went to the local sex shop and got one. Before that,
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more
I'm 19, and pretty far from having kids, but lately I've been thinking about this. I would never have asked my mom for a vibrator even though I really wanted one, so when I was 18 I simply went to the local sex shop and got one. Before that, I used the showerhead, my fingers, etc. If I'm a parent with a daughter at some point in the future, I will most likely buy her a vibrator when she is 16 or so. I am wondering how many people here have done this or would do this?
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06/25/2012