Has anyone looked at any recent figure on the life expectancy of men and women? Most women live 5-10 years longer than men. So why is it that women date men who are older than them? Doesn't that equate to the woman being alone for longer? Why not just do what the cougars do and date younger men?
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09/02/2010
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The simplest answer - in my opinion - is that women date who they're attracted to. In some cases, the person they're attracted to happens to be older. Some women (like myself) simply prefer older men for various reasons. I don't think choosing someone to be with is necessarily about how long they're going to live, but that you simply want to be with that person for who they are.
09/02/2010
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09/11/2010
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Heh me too, I have one of each! Sigel is my age (40) and Arch is (25).
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softkkisses
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09/11/2010
I think a lot of us who met our men when we were young married or partnered to older men because men DO mature more slowly than women. Most 17 year old woman are more mature than more 25 year old guys, as I see it. (Ducks from everyone from Dwtim, to JR, to Gary to Kindred to Sir etc)
Also, like it or not, a lot of us are attracted to men who are able to support us, (financially and emotionally) especially if we decide to have children. Men older than us are more likely to have a solid means of support, while we, as young women are looking for a man. I know that, in addition to falling in love with the Old Man, had a lot to do with it. "This man is solid. He can keep a job. He works hard. He can fix stuff. He'll take care of myself and our young." I actually think like this.....
Although younger guys tend to flirt with me, I don't think I've ever dated a man younger than myself. I don't quite know why. I've been told I'm kind of "intimidating" so that may have something to do with it, they look, but don't touch, the younger guys.
Also, like it or not, a lot of us are attracted to men who are able to support us, (financially and emotionally) especially if we decide to have children. Men older than us are more likely to have a solid means of support, while we, as young women are looking for a man. I know that, in addition to falling in love with the Old Man, had a lot to do with it. "This man is solid. He can keep a job. He works hard. He can fix stuff. He'll take care of myself and our young." I actually think like this.....
Although younger guys tend to flirt with me, I don't think I've ever dated a man younger than myself. I don't quite know why. I've been told I'm kind of "intimidating" so that may have something to do with it, they look, but don't touch, the younger guys.
09/11/2010
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Woman, you have the best of both worlds. Twentyfive? (P'Gell's eyes glaze over in reverie....and she drools just a little bit)
Originally posted by
Airen Wolf
Heh me too, I have one of each! Sigel is my age (40) and Arch is (25).
09/11/2010
Since I'm 11 years older than my wife, this is a pertinent issue for us. I probably worry about it more than she seems to. It is common in her family for the man to be older - but as we've seen, life's vagaries do not guarantee that she will be a widow for a long time - indeed any longer than if we we're the same age.
The best I can do is take good care of myself - and her - and do what I can to make sure that upon my leaving that she is able to take care of herself.
The best I can do is take good care of myself - and her - and do what I can to make sure that upon my leaving that she is able to take care of herself.
09/11/2010
I'm 43, and my husband will be 27 in December, so I'm already doing the "cougar" thing.
Even before we met, I've always attracted younger guys for some reason.
Even before we met, I've always attracted younger guys for some reason.
09/13/2010
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Yup and both of them are freakin sexpots. I R lucky woman! He was 22 when we started this whole thing...I've known him since he was just turned 18. He says it was easy for him cause his Mom is his Dad's second wife and 14 years his junior. So he just decided not to wait for Sigel to be out of the picture.
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P'Gell
Woman, you have the best of both worlds. Twentyfive? (P'Gell's eyes glaze over in reverie....and she drools just a little bit)
09/13/2010
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Damn ur my hero!Although Im 36 Im about to marry a very old soul 20-something.He's super hot,serious(not in the bedroom),career minded,and so much fun to b with!The young ones r so eager to try new things and open minded.I have alot of younger friends and they seem to b able to keep up w/me which is another plus
Originally posted by
silversnowleopardess
I'm 43, and my husband will be 27 in December, so I'm already doing the "cougar" thing.
Even before we met, I've always attracted younger guys for some reason.
Even before we met, I've always attracted younger guys for some reason.
01/16/2011
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I agree.
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Tori Rebel
The simplest answer - in my opinion - is that women date who they're attracted to. In some cases, the person they're attracted to happens to be older. Some women (like myself) simply prefer older men for various reasons. I don't think
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The simplest answer - in my opinion - is that women date who they're attracted to. In some cases, the person they're attracted to happens to be older. Some women (like myself) simply prefer older men for various reasons. I don't think choosing someone to be with is necessarily about how long they're going to live, but that you simply want to be with that person for who they are.
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I just like older men and they seem to be (so far) the guys that I have been attracted to.
I don't think about the 'women living longer' thing when I'm drawn to a guy. It's just not a consideration.
01/17/2011
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At present, woman live, on average 24 years longer then men. That is a HUGE difference.
Originally posted by
Pandahb
Has anyone looked at any recent figure on the life expectancy of men and women? Most women live 5-10 years longer than men. So why is it that women date men who are older than them? Doesn't that equate to the woman being alone for longer? Why not
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Has anyone looked at any recent figure on the life expectancy of men and women? Most women live 5-10 years longer than men. So why is it that women date men who are older than them? Doesn't that equate to the woman being alone for longer? Why not just do what the cougars do and date younger men?
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06/07/2011
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That's a gross exaggeration: link
Originally posted by
Bignuf
At present, woman live, on average 24 years longer then men. That is a HUGE difference.
The difference in life expectancy between men and women in the United States dropped from 7.8 years in 1979 to 5.3 years in 2005, with women expected to live to age 80.1 in 2005.
Where did you ever come up with a number 4x greater than reality. Since the average life expectancy for a woman is about 80 - that means that men would die at 56! Absurd!
06/08/2011
Not sure why, but I've really never been attracted to younger men. Not intentionally, it just happens that way. Luckily, my husband is only three years older than me, so it's not a big age difference.
06/08/2011
Cougars are all good in my book.. If that's what they're into leave it at that.. Just make sure they're not dating someone under the age of 18.
06/10/2011
The fact that my husband is 15 years younger than me does reassure me in that respect. Both my parents died before I turned 30 and I've had a number of other people die on me, so the fact that, barring accident, my husband should live longer than me is real comfort. I know that it is selfish to be glad that he'll outlive me, because he will be left mourning my death. But he is a much stronger person than I am and will undoubtedly be able to cope with my death better than I would cope with his.
06/10/2011
I suppose it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved due to an age difference. I just hope it's worth it
06/10/2011
Life expectancy has nothing to do with my preference for older men - their emotional maturity has everything to do with it. But, as I had learned when married, wisdom and maturity do not always come with age.
06/10/2011
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My lover never told me his exact age for years. By the time I knew how old he was, I'd already surrendered to being in love with him. So his age was never a factor for me. Reading through a few responses, it strikes me as strange to consider age when forming long-term relationships if you're already attracted to the person; after all, isn't it the individual themselves that you want to be with, not what utilities they can offer you?
Dunno; I think it's odd to 'select' a partner based on age, career, ability to hold a job, etc. Not enough love in such a pragmatic view for this romantic.
Dunno; I think it's odd to 'select' a partner based on age, career, ability to hold a job, etc. Not enough love in such a pragmatic view for this romantic.
06/10/2011
Well, my mother certainly prefers younger men. xD I don't think that has anything to do with it, though, I think it's more of a wanting to feel younger, mid life crisis type thing...or maybe they just feel young and get along better with the younger guys.
06/30/2011
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