Do you think sex and sexual exploration has gotten better as you age?

Do you think sex and sexual exploration has gotten better as you age?

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Inquisitor Inquisitor
Interesting question... I can honestly say from my perspective, both yes and no. Why? Now I'm old enough to both inquire and practice any sexual activity or oddity I want while when I was younger it was taboo. Being a guy has its perks.

On the No side, others, more specifically single women in general, are still looked down on if they wish to either try something "different" or improve their sex lives in any way. The might be called "Sluts", "Whores", "Thots", etc by others. The double standard is very real.

I'd also like to answer for my partner. I think she would agree with my point of view.

I'd like to add that the older you get, the less anyone cares about what you do unless you are in a position of power.
08/26/2016
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
For us when we were younger much too busy with working, caring for kids etc. Didn't have time for exploration.

The evolution of the internet has done a lot for learning and exploration. Reading and seeing what others do opens new chapters in one's love/sex life. Some things we thought were really kinky turn out to be more common than we thought.
08/26/2016
sassy and sexy sassy and sexy
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Originally posted by Inquisitor
Interesting question... I can honestly say from my perspective, both yes and no. Why? Now I'm old enough to both inquire and practice any sexual activity or oddity I want while when I was younger it was taboo. Being a guy has its perks. ...
I agree with you about the double standard being very real.

I've learned with age to finally accept and love my body. I can finally relax, enjoy, and be in the moment. When I was younger, I was very self conscious. My mind would be focused on what flaws I believed I had. I couldn't just be in the moment.

Now that I'm older, I do a lot of reading and research on our anatomy, different and new ideas to try, and of course toys! The internet is a great tool in learning all of it. My family was never open about sex and you didn't learn much in health class. As you said, it was all very taboo!

Thank you so much for posting! I'm new on here so I'm trying to figure this whole program out.
08/27/2016
sassy and sexy sassy and sexy
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
For us when we were younger much too busy with working, caring for kids etc. Didn't have time for exploration.

The evolution of the internet has done a lot for learning and exploration. Reading and seeing what others do opens new ...
I completely agree that the evolution of the internet has done a lot for learning and exploration! I know its helped us out. I love researching.

We've just really started exploring more over the past couple of years. We have 4 kids. 2 from my previous marriage and 2 from his. Our kids are older now and drive so they're all about hanging out with friends a lot or they're at the other parents home. We get a little more us time now and we can reconnect.

Thank you for posting! I'm new on here and am trying to figure this program out and will hopefully do a great job.
08/27/2016
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by sassy and sexy
I completely agree that the evolution of the internet has done a lot for learning and exploration! I know its helped us out. I love researching.

We've just really started exploring more over the past couple of years. We have 4 kids. 2 from ...
You are doing fine ! I / we like the discussions you are starting and hope to see a lot more of them.
08/27/2016
Inquisitor Inquisitor
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
You are doing fine ! I / we like the discussions you are starting and hope to see a lot more of them.
Agreed! Another voice in the conversation is always welcome.
08/28/2016
mfmtrios mfmtrios
I think that it has gotten more mundane and regular. Before things were new and exciting. Now that I am in my mid 40's, with wife of 14 years, my interests of waned. Wife never had a big libido to begin with, and she likes a narrow window of things. The internet desensitizes me, at least, and I find it harder to get interested in anything anymore. We have tried toys and like some, some not. Or maybe its hormones that have diminished. Anyways, stay young, or at least youthful!
08/28/2016
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Our sex life had definitely gotten better. Until about 40 my wife was pretty ambivalent about sex, but for unknown reasons she decided to embrace her sexuality and my adventurous ideas.

For a number of years things kept getting better - but since I turned 60 my ability too perform sexually has diminished substantially. Viagra and Cialis are great for helping achieve and sustain erections, however my issue is that I can not achieve orgasm more than 1-2x a week.

Thanks to our wide variety of toys my wife has 3-6 orgasms every time we have sex. I'm a little jealous - but it's fun to be together and intimate.
08/29/2016
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by mfmtrios
I think that it has gotten more mundane and regular. Before things were new and exciting. Now that I am in my mid 40's, with wife of 14 years, my interests of waned. Wife never had a big libido to begin with, and she likes a narrow window of ...
Is it possible you two have already run the gamut of sex ? We found something way out there a few yrs ago. It has made our sex life more exciting... at least for the time being.

Yeah, it's a drag getting older. Too bad we can't go back to when we were 15 yrs old. Everything was new, fresh exciting then. Not to mention we were tired-less then.
08/29/2016
symbiasin symbiasin
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Originally posted by Inquisitor
Interesting question... I can honestly say from my perspective, both yes and no. Why? Now I'm old enough to both inquire and practice any sexual activity or oddity I want while when I was younger it was taboo. Being a guy has its perks. ...
True on the double standard......geesh. Dare to have a vivid imagination and this is the thanks? Imagination does not necessarily mean ok with it, and will do it in a heartbeat, it is just thinking of possibilities, with a maybe to do.
08/30/2016
symbiasin symbiasin
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Our sex life had definitely gotten better. Until about 40 my wife was pretty ambivalent about sex, but for unknown reasons she decided to embrace her sexuality and my adventurous ideas.

For a number of years things kept getting better - but ...
That's the perks of women in their 40's. That decade was interesting to me too.
08/30/2016
mfmtrios mfmtrios
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Is it possible you two have already run the gamut of sex ? We found something way out there a few yrs ago. It has made our sex life more exciting... at least for the time being.

Yeah, it's a drag getting older. Too bad we can't go ...
What did you find that made it more exciting...do tell!!
08/30/2016
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by mfmtrios
What did you find that made it more exciting...do tell!!
Prob too scary for you my friend. Look at our current avatar and read some of our more risque reviews. That should keep you busy tonight.

It's not something a couple can jump into. We started in steps and took 6-8 months before actually doing it. There are baby steps a couple can try and see how that goes first.
08/30/2016
sigian sigian
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Prob too scary for you my friend. Look at our current avatar and read some of our more risque reviews. That should keep you busy tonight.

It's not something a couple can jump into. We started in steps and took 6-8 months before actually ...
Speaking of, and not to hijack, I haven't seen any chastity devices on EF. Now that's an area that might be up for consideration, BDSM/Femdom and such seem to be on the rise lately. In the past twenty years its been amazing to watch the internet spring to life and bring societies together. Its amazing how open and freely people interact and to see what drives them, interests them, and sastisfies them.
09/04/2016
Sugarfina Sugarfina
Mostly I would say yes. I dont have the time to give you the long complicated answer I want to, but mostly yes.
09/13/2016
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by Sugarfina
Mostly I would say yes. I dont have the time to give you the long complicated answer I want to, but mostly yes.
How about telling us another day when you have more time.
09/13/2016
missymery missymery
I feel as though mine has. I think when I was younger, I was fairly scared of a lot of things. I didn't want to be seen as weird, and I didn't want to get hurt, either. Now, I am very open to a multitude of different acts, toys, and I am willing to try almost anything once.

Once I experienced more things, I became more understanding of my limits, so it helped me branch out.
09/18/2016
mfmtrios mfmtrios
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Prob too scary for you my friend. Look at our current avatar and read some of our more risque reviews. That should keep you busy tonight.

It's not something a couple can jump into. We started in steps and took 6-8 months before actually ...
I looked on your site, but not sure what you are talking about!
09/20/2016
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by mfmtrios
I looked on your site, but not sure what you are talking about!
Sorry, I change avatars often. So the clue was gone few days later. That one is the most risque and I don't leave it up for long. I guess you will need to skim thu our reviews.

Or maybe the two of you have already been engaging in this couples activity.
Here's a hint: The yellow one is her.
09/22/2016
Gr8pumpkin Gr8pumpkin
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Originally posted by sassy and sexy
Sweeter with age
Our sex life is kind of stuck in neutral, I often think of trying to bring up ideas to spice things up, but I get the feeling she is not exploratory. Actually, when we were first together things were kind of hot, but we have reached that boring stage of matrimony, and just muddle along comfortably.
12/16/2016
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by Gr8pumpkin
Our sex life is kind of stuck in neutral, I often think of trying to bring up ideas to spice things up, but I get the feeling she is not exploratory. Actually, when we were first together things were kind of hot, but we have reached that boring stage ...
Maybe try some role play ? We just got a sexy nurse costume for her. Go to my page and check out the review on it. And maybe some of the other toys we use to spice things up.
12/16/2016
Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
I think it's more a matter of the relationship you're in than it is your age. I agree however that less people care what you do once you're an adult, particularly after you've hit about 23 to 27. I think I've also gotten to the point that I don't care as much about what people think of it - it works for me and my boyfriend, that's all that matters.
12/27/2016
poetprincess poetprincess
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Originally posted by sassy and sexy
Sweeter with age
I have always been a very sexual person and I have learned as I get older I want it more and I want to try so many new things... I am close to 40 and I think that I am going to rock my 40's with some amazing sex...
12/28/2016
Brianne Brianne
I was married at 22 and divorced at 50. Sex was great for years, but it eventually cooled down and I willingly admit that it was mostly my fault. Looking back, I think for reasons unrelated to sex, I stopped loving and desiring him. After the divorce, I focused on my children (also barely noticed going through menopause). UNTIL...out of the blue, a boyfriend from my youth tracked me down by phone. For me it was the perfect time and he was the perfect person to remind me that sex could be very good! We met when I was 17 and he was 22, and fell head over heels into "puppy love!" My experience was limited, but he knew what he was doing. At age 55 the memory of when he asked if he could "go down" on me can still give me that warm feeling in the pit of my tummy (remember, this was the early '70's!). So after three months of talk, we met for a weekend and found we were still sexually compatible! When my birthday came around, he sent me my first vibrator (now deceased, but replaced with other toys!). When I discovered he wasn't as free as I'd been lead to believe, we were done. But overall it was a positive thing. It gave me the courage to look up my last love, before getting engaged and moving several states away. While I was in college, he was in a rock band. Our relationship spanned four years, but was always open because, well, he was in a rock band. But when I called two years ago, we talked six hours. We're still talking, sexting and enjoying a webcam sex life. At age 59, I feel sexier than ever and we're looking forward to a possible future together. For me, it's better because of a change of partners!
12/29/2016
poetprincess poetprincess
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Originally posted by sassy and sexy
Sweeter with age
yes, I think sex has gotten better the older I have gotten..
12/31/2016
LovinThisLife LovinThisLife
18 years of marriage and we are just starting to really rock the bedroom, and we thought we were doing it all along.
Mar 3, 12:54 pm
OpenMindedGuy OpenMindedGuy
I find that my sexual exploration has gotten better over the years, as I've gone a little further than in the past. I'm 45 and still exploring, but am unable to do some of the things I want to just yet. As soon as the opportunity presents itself, I will take advantage of it. I find exploring my bi side to be facinating and exciting. I love women and couldn't live without them, but am also attracted to men. It's fun having a dirty little secret, lol.
Jul 24, 3:24 pm
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Yes things getting better and kinkier. My wife is starting to explore her Dominant side - wondering aloud why spanking me makes her pussy wet!

I have to laugh - as a young woman she would never consider anal sex, now we talk about it casually and engage in it frequently. The same thing for pegging - she enjoys it enough to orgasm pounding me with her 'big dick' - and believe me its BIG!

She's also gotten into showmanship - she'll cuff me to the door and make watch as she gets off several times.

Other times she'll blindfold me and rely on auditory clues to make sure that I know she's getting off.

Her latest endeavor is gushing - although she has done it sporadically in the past, she's now embraced it as a goal of sorts. Last night she must have fingered herself to 5-6 gushes - plus some others during sex. She especially likes to gush during anal sex.

Let me just say that none of this happened when she was in her 20s or 30s. The level of self-acceptance, exploration and playfulness has skyrocketed for her - starting at about 45.
Jul 24, 6:52 pm
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