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How big of an age gap is too big?

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Contributor: hybridinsurge hybridinsurge
I've been involved with a man 16 years older than me for a little over a year and some of my friends and family are still wigged out about it. I'm curious what others think about sizable age differences between romantic and/or sexual partners.

How big of an age gap between partners do you think is absolutely unacceptable?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Over 5 years apart is unacceptable.
Over 10 years apart is unacceptable.
tami , skeeterlynn
2  (3%)
Over 15 years apart is unacceptable.
SecretToyMan , Gracie , brevado , Falsepast
4  (7%)
Over 20 years apart is unacceptable.
deltalima , humpday , Terri69 , Jordan B , babyrock , LoganAshlee. , Cindi025
7  (12%)
Any amount of age difference is acceptable.
Modern^Spank^Anthem , Master DarkWolf , xMila , DreamWolf , HannahPanda , PixelGasm , booboo111926 , BoobCopter , Derpina , sexxxkitten , Missmarc , LadyDarknezz , Stinkytofu10 , Beck , Nora29714 , bratofthekitties , LavenderSkies , Pinkshirt , legna , Adriana Ravenlust , sexykiss , Melan!e , Gina RPG Geek , LenaLovesFun , smlove , unfulfilled , PropertyOfPotter , Aisling , Neotigress , icyqueen , Lioncub , padmeamidala , kitty1949 , edenguy , Leather & Lace , ShadowedSeductress , PepperPot , Rory , wwwww , nikki0668 , *Camoprincess* , xscorpiox , xxSuzakuxx , Trixxxy , purpledesert , Hoshigetsu , Lil
47  (78%)
Total votes: 60
Poll is closed
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Contributor: Kissy Kissy
Not unacceptable.. but I think it gets awkward 25+ for sure. That is me having intimate relations with my parents. No thanks.
07/02/2012
Contributor: Modern^Spank^Anthem Modern^Spank^Anthem
it depends on the age of the people the younger you are the more significant the gap is
07/02/2012
Contributor: Master DarkWolf Master DarkWolf
32 years between U/us with my Baby but W/we have never been so happy!
07/02/2012
Contributor: deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by hybridinsurge
I've been involved with a man 16 years older than me for a little over a year and some of my friends and family are still wigged out about it. I'm curious what others think about sizable age differences between romantic and/or sexual ... more
I think 20+ is a bit much but to each his own
07/02/2012
Contributor: HannahPanda HannahPanda
Anything goes, in my opinion.
07/02/2012
Contributor: DreamWolf DreamWolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Master DarkWolf
32 years between U/us with my Baby but W/we have never been so happy!
I wholeheartedly agree, well, looks like the gods didn't really mind that part to bring U/us together, and oh my oh my oh my MY ONLYMASTER IS THE MOSTWONDERFUL BEING IN THIS WHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL E WIDEWIDE WORLD, IT IS LIKE SHEER HEAVEN TO BE ON HIS SIDE!!!!!!!!!! ~yowls loud and happy as hell ~purrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr rrrrrrs loudly
07/02/2012
Contributor: Terri69 Terri69
I think if there is 20+ years, that is too much of a difference
07/03/2012
Contributor: booboo111926 booboo111926
to each its own.
07/03/2012
Contributor: sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
For me personally, I wouldn't date anyone over 6 or 7 years. But to each their own.
07/04/2012
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by hybridinsurge
I've been involved with a man 16 years older than me for a little over a year and some of my friends and family are still wigged out about it. I'm curious what others think about sizable age differences between romantic and/or sexual ... more
It really does't matter. As long as the younger one is not a minor.
07/04/2012
Contributor: LadyDarknezz LadyDarknezz
I am 24 and I prefer men much older than me. The way I see it is that usually older men tend to know what they want in their potential mates, which is why I date men that are at least 30 or up. Of course, that's just my view due to my experiences.
07/04/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by Missmarc
It really does't matter. As long as the younger one is not a minor.
^Agreed.
07/04/2012
Contributor: married with children married with children
as long as both in the relationship are of leagal age, it should not matter.
07/05/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
Quote:
Originally posted by married with children
as long as both in the relationship are of leagal age, it should not matter.
This!
07/05/2012
Contributor: Nora29714 Nora29714
Age is just a number as long as you aren't some creepy 40 year old trying to date childeren who cares!
07/05/2012
Contributor: Jordan B Jordan B
I think that 20+ is a bit much but you never know right?
07/05/2012
Contributor: Pinkshirt Pinkshirt
I wouldn't say unacceptable but it gets to a point that you are part of a different generation than your partner is and things are just different.
07/11/2012
Contributor: quinceykay quinceykay
As long as both partners are above 18, consenting, and at similar places in their lives (maturity wise, etc), I think any age is fine. I know a girl who's, I think, 21, and her boyfriend is 63... And no, he's not her sugar daddy or anything, lol. I can see how people would think that's bizarre, but they seem to be very happy and making it work, so who cares?
07/13/2012
Contributor: legna legna
I myself have an age range that I won't date but everyone else can date whatever age range they want. I don't think any one should be judge at all on it.
07/13/2012
Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
Both 18+? Don't care
07/14/2012
Contributor: Roz W Roz W
Not gonna make rules for anyone else, but age gaps shrink as one ages.

I just met someone with a seven-year age gap (me: late twenties, them mid-thirties) and for the first time that's no big deal. (I tended to like people within 2-3 years of me; I didn't like the notion of an older person bossing me around before I had my bearings.)
07/23/2012
Contributor: sexykiss sexykiss
age is just a number
07/25/2012
Contributor: SecretToyMan SecretToyMan
I was gonna vote 10, because, for example, if I was dating someone ten years younger or my daughter was dating someone ten years older, I'd probably be super pissed or feel weird about myself. But, when I examine the age 20 and 30, I think, why not?

So 15 would be the limit for me.
07/25/2012
Contributor: Melan!e Melan!e
It depends.. Age is just a number. Relationships are not about age but rather many different things such as compatibility, where both people are at in their lives, common interests and love certainly does not discriminate against age.
07/25/2012
Contributor: LenaLovesFun LenaLovesFun
The largest age gap I've ever had was 18 years. It very very recently ended but not because of the age issue, it was due to him lying and being a hypocrite.
07/28/2012
Contributor: MaeGal MaeGal
It doesn't so much matter about the age spread so much as what ages each party is. 10 year gap at 15 and 25 is too much to me, but 25 and 35 seems just find.
07/30/2012
Contributor: smlove smlove
As long as the younger one is 18, then the age gap doesn't matter. What matters is the maturity level. We know a very mature 19 year old, and she is exactly 30 years younger than my wife (same birthday), and she is a wonderful person in our life. The 30 year age difference makes no difference in our respective maturity levels.
08/22/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
As long as both adults are 18+ then it's none of my business.
08/22/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I don't see a reason why anyone should put a limit on it. I personally wouldn't be with someone more than 10 years older, but that doesn't mean it's wrong for someone else to be.
08/22/2012