Im a 26 year old mother of three and I have a friend who is older than me by a lond shot, 42 years old. I like him a lot I just dont know?
Is 40 years to old?
04/12/2011
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I think you left out the no portion. No, it's not too old if you like the guy and he respects you, your values and your children.
Though, it's an interesting insight I've gained lately. Sixteen year olds are too young to own vibrators and explore their sexuality privately (according to some) but yet a person who was sixteen when another person was born has too much life experience (according to some). Quite the paradox, there.
I'd say as a twenty-six year old woman with three children, you probably have as much life experience if not more than he does. If the two of you click and it's something you both are into then give it a shot. It's your life and you have to make the best decisions for you and your children.
Though, it's an interesting insight I've gained lately. Sixteen year olds are too young to own vibrators and explore their sexuality privately (according to some) but yet a person who was sixteen when another person was born has too much life experience (according to some). Quite the paradox, there.
I'd say as a twenty-six year old woman with three children, you probably have as much life experience if not more than he does. If the two of you click and it's something you both are into then give it a shot. It's your life and you have to make the best decisions for you and your children.
04/12/2011
No, I don't think it's too old.
04/12/2011
What's the question? Did he express interest in dating? Or were you in a casual thing and he wants it to be serious? Did he ask for marriage? How long have you know each other? Is he good to the kids - if he even knows about them? How mature/responsible is he? Are you attracted to him and intend to pursue him? Are you going to be on birth control so you won't have any more kids if you do decide to be with him?
These questions are more important than "How old were you when I was born?" What I've learned about people is - wisdom and experience don't necessarily come with age, so pay attention to him as a person. The age thing simply doesn't matter.
These questions are more important than "How old were you when I was born?" What I've learned about people is - wisdom and experience don't necessarily come with age, so pay attention to him as a person. The age thing simply doesn't matter.
04/12/2011
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What she said! all good questions to ask yourself.
Originally posted by
Chilipepper
What's the question? Did he express interest in dating? Or were you in a casual thing and he wants it to be serious? Did he ask for marriage? How long have you know each other? Is he good to the kids - if he even knows about them? How
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What's the question? Did he express interest in dating? Or were you in a casual thing and he wants it to be serious? Did he ask for marriage? How long have you know each other? Is he good to the kids - if he even knows about them? How mature/responsible is he? Are you attracted to him and intend to pursue him? Are you going to be on birth control so you won't have any more kids if you do decide to be with him?
These questions are more important than "How old were you when I was born?" What I've learned about people is - wisdom and experience don't necessarily come with age, so pay attention to him as a person. The age thing simply doesn't matter. less
These questions are more important than "How old were you when I was born?" What I've learned about people is - wisdom and experience don't necessarily come with age, so pay attention to him as a person. The age thing simply doesn't matter. less
04/12/2011
Do you know how to type no? Cause there is another thread of yours without a no option too.
If there is no 'no' - how can we respond properly to your threads.
If there is no 'no' - how can we respond properly to your threads.
04/12/2011
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I think you left out the no portion. No, it's not too old if you like the guy and he respects you, your values and your children.
Though, it's an interesting insight I've gained lately. Sixteen year olds are too young to own vibrators and explore their sexuality privately (according to some) but yet a person who was sixteen when another person was born has too much life experience (according to some). Quite the paradox, there.
I'd say as a twenty-six year old woman with three children, you probably have as much life experience if not more than he does. If the two of you click and it's something you both are into then give it a shot. It's your life and you have to make the best decisions for you and your children.
I agree. Love doesn't count age-it only counts the wonderful time you spend together
I think you left out the no portion. No, it's not too old if you like the guy and he respects you, your values and your children.
Though, it's an interesting insight I've gained lately. Sixteen year olds are too young to own vibrators and explore their sexuality privately (according to some) but yet a person who was sixteen when another person was born has too much life experience (according to some). Quite the paradox, there.
I'd say as a twenty-six year old woman with three children, you probably have as much life experience if not more than he does. If the two of you click and it's something you both are into then give it a shot. It's your life and you have to make the best decisions for you and your children.
I agree. Love doesn't count age-it only counts the wonderful time you spend together
04/12/2011
Age doesn't matter between adults. if the feelings are there and he is good to your kids then go for it!
04/12/2011
I don't think that age should make a difference unless you personally feel that it is hindering things.
04/12/2011
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Agree! I am 48 and my SO is 21, bigger age difference, but we click so well and have so much respect for each other that is does not matter to us. If you have open and honest communication, you have a chance to make it. Note, others who you encounter may not be so happy to see the age difference between you two. We have had this experience multiple time in public and also with our individual social circles. You need to decide if your relationship can handle these issues or not. Best wishes!
Originally posted by
Linga
Age doesn't matter between adults. if the feelings are there and he is good to your kids then go for it!
04/13/2011
as long as they make you happy its fine
04/13/2011
Age doesn't matter. Personal experience and maturity matters.
04/13/2011
I think there are a lot of other variables to factor into the equation with this particular situation than just age alone. Personally, no, 40 is not too old in and of itself, however, all aspects of the situation must be taken into account. Because from your 20's to your 40's can be a huge difference... or not... depending.
04/13/2011
40 is not too old. He's suppose to be more mature and has more experience in everything. I believe mature guys usually are better lovers than the younger ones.
04/13/2011
It really depends on the maturity level and other parts of the relationship. Age doesn't really matter on its own.
04/13/2011
If you two are suited to one another and your long-term goals are compatible, go for it. My grandparents are 15 years apart (second marriage for both of them) and have had a long, successful marriage. Just make sure that you both know what you want/expect from each other/in a partner. You came of age at different times (late 80s-early 90s vs late 90s-early 2000s) and that could affect your expectations.
04/14/2011
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Ok If your having a problem answering my questions, dont be rude and just keep the negative comments to yourself Im new here and just trying to get the hang of things, God bless
Originally posted by
CarmenGore262
Im a 26 year old mother of three and I have a friend who is older than me by a lond shot, 42 years old. I like him a lot I just dont know?
04/18/2011
I don't think it is, the questions that others have mentioned already are more important than age.
04/19/2011
This is a hard one but ultimatly you are the one that has to decide what is best for you and your family and if you and your friend are on the same page about your long term goals.
04/19/2011
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I don't really think that age is a determining factor. I believe its just a number anyway. My wife and I are in our early 40's and we are having the time of our lives. Doing things that we only talked about when we were in our 20's and 30's. This guy might have some really great experience that he can share with you and your kids.
Originally posted by
CarmenGore262
Im a 26 year old mother of three and I have a friend who is older than me by a lond shot, 42 years old. I like him a lot I just dont know?
04/19/2011
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Thanks I agree
Originally posted by
MontereyJak
I don't really think that age is a determining factor. I believe its just a number anyway. My wife and I are in our early 40's and we are having the time of our lives. Doing things that we only talked about when we were in our 20's and
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I don't really think that age is a determining factor. I believe its just a number anyway. My wife and I are in our early 40's and we are having the time of our lives. Doing things that we only talked about when we were in our 20's and 30's. This guy might have some really great experience that he can share with you and your kids.
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04/20/2011
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Thanks
Originally posted by
MontereyJak
I don't really think that age is a determining factor. I believe its just a number anyway. My wife and I are in our early 40's and we are having the time of our lives. Doing things that we only talked about when we were in our 20's and
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I don't really think that age is a determining factor. I believe its just a number anyway. My wife and I are in our early 40's and we are having the time of our lives. Doing things that we only talked about when we were in our 20's and 30's. This guy might have some really great experience that he can share with you and your kids.
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04/20/2011
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ok thanks
Originally posted by
MontereyJak
I don't really think that age is a determining factor. I believe its just a number anyway. My wife and I are in our early 40's and we are having the time of our lives. Doing things that we only talked about when we were in our 20's and
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I don't really think that age is a determining factor. I believe its just a number anyway. My wife and I are in our early 40's and we are having the time of our lives. Doing things that we only talked about when we were in our 20's and 30's. This guy might have some really great experience that he can share with you and your kids.
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04/20/2011
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thanks
Originally posted by
MontereyJak
I don't really think that age is a determining factor. I believe its just a number anyway. My wife and I are in our early 40's and we are having the time of our lives. Doing things that we only talked about when we were in our 20's and
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more
I don't really think that age is a determining factor. I believe its just a number anyway. My wife and I are in our early 40's and we are having the time of our lives. Doing things that we only talked about when we were in our 20's and 30's. This guy might have some really great experience that he can share with you and your kids.
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04/20/2011
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ok thanks
Originally posted by
Fuck it.
I don't think it is, the questions that others have mentioned already are more important than age.
04/20/2011
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Ummm you forgot HELL NO! My lifepartner is 26 this year (I am 40) and he is perfectly happy with me...and we are well matched. Age isn't a real problem unless you make it a problem.
Originally posted by
CarmenGore262
Im a 26 year old mother of three and I have a friend who is older than me by a lond shot, 42 years old. I like him a lot I just dont know?
04/23/2011
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Best answer.
Originally posted by
Linga
Age doesn't matter between adults. if the feelings are there and he is good to your kids then go for it!
So long as he's good to and for you, then go for it.
*thumbs up*
04/25/2011
No, definitely not too old. My girlfriend is 44 while I am 32. It works just fine. We've been together for 6 years now, and so long as the spirit and the body are willing, what does age really have to do with it?
05/01/2011
05/01/2011
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I agree.
Originally posted by
MontereyJak
I don't really think that age is a determining factor. I believe its just a number anyway. My wife and I are in our early 40's and we are having the time of our lives. Doing things that we only talked about when we were in our 20's and
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I don't really think that age is a determining factor. I believe its just a number anyway. My wife and I are in our early 40's and we are having the time of our lives. Doing things that we only talked about when we were in our 20's and 30's. This guy might have some really great experience that he can share with you and your kids.
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05/10/2011