My periods are getting shorter and lighter and the gap between them seems to have gone up to 30-32 days. I'm only 42, but both my mother and grandmother had early menopause. I'm wondering if that's what this is.

Of course even if it is, I can't really think of anything to do differently. I won't stop using birth control, and I'm already using lube. I don't take calcium supplements, but I eat a lot of dairy. My sex drive is all over the place, but it's not consistently really high or really low, so I don't worry about it. If I'm not in the mood one day, I will be another.

I guess I'm just curious. Any advice from women who have been through the menopause?