What do you think when someone dates someone much older?

I think that they must have a lot in common, but really I usually don't think about it unless someone asks my opinion of the couple.

I'm in a relationship with a guy that's 5 years older than me(I'm a sophomore in college and he's a graduate student); that's enough of an age to bother my parents and make his friends judge both of us. It's unfair but I've gotten used to it.

It isn't about either of them in my books, I am 14 years older then my girlfriend, it is about being with someone that truely gets you. You are able to be yourself and not judged because of it. Doing what needs to be done when it needs to be done. Learning from each other, as well as learning new things together.

Personaly I think too many people put too much importance on age differences, there are times that it is a problem, but if the couple is true to themselves and eachother, can grow together, can push each other to continue to improve themsleves.... what is the big deal. They need to be honest with each other first and always, end of story!

I wonder how they met, how they started dating, what attracted them to each other. I wonder how they make their relationship work, if they're happy together, or if they have regrets. I wonder what life experiences the older partner has introduced the younger partner to, and I wonder if the younger partner feels like they're missing out on something. I wonder what they fight about, I wonder if they have a future in mind.

And, like I wonder with any couple, I wonder how the sex is.

I'm +11 on my bride. For the last 20+ years it's been fantastic - but I use to worry occasionally about the future until a 49 year-old friend dropped dead leaving his 49 year old wife a widow - it can happen at any age - so I just do everything I can to stay in shape and enjoy every moment we have together.

I never even thought of dating younger girls - it seemed wrong or unnecessary - but by the time I was in my mid 30s the opportunity presented itself on a frequent basis. Although I dated them, I never thought of marrying young - that is until my wife came along - by far the youngest I ever dated.

It all came down to compatibility - we just had so much in common that age became a non-issue. After 20+ years age remains nothing more than a quick jab or joke as we happily go about our wedded bliss!

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I think it's great! Love is love, you know? But there is one girl I know who dates older guys just for the attention and presents, and walks around our parties scowling at our friends and mumbling shit about how "immature" we all are compared to her. Skeezy bitch..

I don't think about it much at all, personally. I know some people must think something about it because people will definitely give my boyfriend and I looks when we're out and we're 14 years apart and it's somewhat obvious. I do think some of them think I must be a gold digger or something like that but in reality he's far from rich but the sweetest man I've ever met and we're remarkably compatible. I always figure people are together for reasons like compatibility and happiness and never think much further past it. As for the looks my man and I get, I just tell myself they're jealous because the gorgeous man next to me is MINE and I'm not letting him go

Different people means different kinds of relationships.

I have a friend who married a guy that is roughly 40 years older than her bcs of her religious values. They are quite inlove.

I guess at first I was shocked but once you see there is nothing to be shocked about then you get over it. I guess thats is especially the case of they have a good mutual relationship.

I also know of someone else who dated someone 15 years older than her and it was not so bad bcs they were both young but it didnt work out bcs they were in different places in their lives and wanted different things.

The hubby is 14 years older then i am. Most don't even realize. We have so much in common, love at first sight, we are truly 2 peas in a pod.

I know it's awful of me, but I sometimes wonder if the older one is emotionally immature and can't interact properly with other adults (because my ten years older ex-husband was quite emotionally immature). I'm not against younger-older couples at all, just my own thing about my own situation.

if you're between 14-25, it's weird to have a big age difference, but after that it's not too bad.