What's the biggest age gap you've experienced with a partner?

Contributor: Timaree Timaree
What is the biggest age gap you've ever had between you and a partner?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
<5 years
78  (28%)
<8 years
54  (19%)
<12 years
48  (17%)
<15 years
31  (11%)
<20 years
25  (9%)
>20 years (please explain how that went)
42  (15%)
Total votes: 278
Poll is closed
08/23/2010
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Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Our life partner is almost exactly 15 years our junior.
08/23/2010
Contributor: removedacnt removedacnt
I dated a guy 8 years younger for a short while. I've never been one to be especially interested in men that are a lot older than me.
08/23/2010
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Mental/emotional maturity should be more important than chronological age. I was married to a man ten years older than me (we met when I was 21 and he was 31), and in the decade we had been together, he had not grown in ANY way - he was mentally the same man I married when we separated (me at 32 and him at 42). He was POLITELY described by family and friends as 'childish', 'immature', 'passive-aggressive', and 'juvenile'. (Yes, these were the polite ways he was described; the impolite ways would have me banned for excessive profanity.)

So, yeah. Age doesn't matter - emotional maturity does. And it doesn't necessarily come with age, either.
08/23/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I've got 11 years on my bride and work very hard to stay in shape to please her. I never dated younger until I met my wife. I was 34 - she was 23 - but we were so compatible it never really mattered. With this much of a difference there is a risk of me preceding her by some years - we'll see.

Here's to many more years of wedded bliss
08/23/2010
Contributor: MsTryska MsTryska
I've never dated a man over 30. Ever. And I'm 38. Well actually I lie - my bf will be turning 30 this year so he's all grown up and stuff. I certainly didn't plan it this way - I just don't seem to get hit on by guys my age or older - it's always the 20-somethings. Well I get hit on by older gay guys a lot, but it's usually because they want a baby.
08/23/2010
Contributor: trios trios
My first girlfriend was when I was 24, she was 42! We were a couple for 3 years.
08/23/2010
Contributor: NightNight NightNight
The age difference I've experienced is something like 2 years both older and younger.
08/23/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I made a guess at 15+ years, but it could have been 20 or more. I never did know how old he was for sure. I dated a professor I had in college (after I finished two of his courses, I wasn't legally "his student" anymore) and he was around 20 or so years older than I was. It didn't last long. I was in my late teens and simply wasn't mature enough for him. He had a PhD (two actually) and a house, and bills to pay, and a full time job and was writing a book, and doing research, and all I did was my college work, a part time job for some money and PARTY! (OK, I had one research project in the works, but it was diddly compared to the very seriously taken, peer reviewed published work he did regularly.) He said I had enough brains for him, but not enough intent. Whatever that meant.

My Man is a bit older than I am, but not as old as this man was. Now that I think about it, now, this other man would be in his 60s! It never occurred to me before......
08/24/2010
Contributor: JEM JEM
My husband and I have a 6 year gap and it works great for us. Oddly, I am surrounded and mostly hang out with people who were born in that year. My best friend is also 6 years older as well as my very close cousin...must be something about good ole 1974!
08/24/2010
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
We've got a 15 year age gap, which is a first for Alan but not for me.
08/24/2010
Contributor: PassionQT PassionQT
I usually stick around my same age. Hubby and I are a year apart. His bf is 6 years older than he.
08/24/2010
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
I've dates up to about 20 years older than me and my current boyfriend is 14 years older. I've never had a good relationship with someone close to my age for whatever reason.
08/24/2010
Contributor: Hannah Savage Hannah Savage
My current partner is 21 years older than me (exactly twice my age this year).

Do I like it? No. But I love him. Our age difference didn't stop me from wanting to be with him, obviously, because he doesn't act his age whatsoever. Sometimes I feel like I might as well be dating someone YOUNGER than me.

We've been together for a little over two years. We've had a lot of problems, a lot of arguments and very little trust. Our age difference is becoming an issue as I am going back to school, along with other things. His birthday is the hardest time of the year for me. We'll see how it goes.

Would I do it again? No.
08/24/2010
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
My first Dominant partner is 29 years older than me and, to this day, he and I are still friends. We had excellent chemistry, but the age gap was something that I couldn't get over since I want to grow old with someone and he was already there :/
08/24/2010
Contributor: Valyn Valyn
Biggest gap was 4 years for me
08/24/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
4-5 years for me, and I'm always the oldest.
08/24/2010
Contributor: Timaree Timaree
Here's a great column on dating older women or younger men link
08/24/2010
Contributor: Jenn (aka kissmykitty) Jenn (aka kissmykitty)
My ex was five years older than me.
08/24/2010
Contributor: Red Vinyl Kitty Red Vinyl Kitty
There is a 14 year age gap between my husband and me.
08/24/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Dating...my current partner is 3 years old
One time sex partner- I think it was 8 years. It wasn't weird because he only seemed a year or two older.
08/25/2010
Contributor: deltalima deltalima
My partner is 19 years older than me and it works great. We both have our lives that don't conflict with each other.
08/25/2010
Contributor: Waterfall Waterfall
My last partner was 16 years older than me and it didnt seem like a problem during our relationship, because we had the same maturity level, whether that is a good or a bad thing lol. I am open to older and younger men but, I lean toward those who are my age or older
08/25/2010
Contributor: Persephone's Addiction Persephone's Addiction
21 years for me - and it's going really well. Granted, I don't catch his references to Watergate, but he doesn't get my references to Fraggle Rock, so I think we're even. Most of the time, the age difference is inconsequential because the reason we're together is not because of shared pop culture references but because of everything else.
When everything else just clicks, I'd be a fool to let this go just because of age.
It's almost a family tradition, relationships with big age differences - my dad is 16 years older than my mom, one brother is 18 years older than his wife. It's not that I set out to date an older man - but he just smelled so right... lol
08/29/2010
Contributor: SexyySarah SexyySarah
Well my hubby is 18 years and 10 months my senior and I LOVE being with an older man! He takes care of me and it's not about "him"! He's had his rombs and he's done with all that and now loves to take care of me!
08/29/2010
Contributor: Pandahb Pandahb
Older guys are good, very good, but the young ones are good too!
09/02/2010
Contributor: beautifulpierced beautifulpierced
my husband is 8 years older than me.
09/02/2010
Contributor: Liz Liz
The oldest I've gone is 4 years older; youngest is 1 year younger.
09/05/2010
Contributor: silversnowleopardess silversnowleopardess
I normally attract younger men. The largest gap was 21 years. He was 19 and not very mature, so that ended quickly.

My husband is 16 1/2 years younger than me, but we get along wonderfully. We don't argue...we'll occasionally get irritated with each other, but it never lasts longer than a few minutes because we talk about everything. It probably helps that we were friends first before we entered into a relationship.
09/06/2010
Contributor: Destri Destri
Quote:
Originally posted by Timaree
What is the biggest age gap you've ever had between you and a partner?
My husband is 21 years younger than I. This sunday is our 6th anniversary, and we are happier every day.
09/10/2010