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Contributor: SecretToyLover2 SecretToyLover2
No need to offend anyone here. So excuse me if I do. I went grocery shopping with hubby and we actually came across his mother and father. His mother, who is 52, was dressed like she was16. No joke, no lie. Wearing the lowest cut sports shirt I have ever seen and the shortest shorts on earth. She isn't in BAD shape, and she did get her breasts done about a year ago. But to me, her job is too professional as is her public status for her to be dressed that way. She even bleached her hair.

Mid-life crisis? My hubby and his father both want ME to confront her and make her stop. I don't even know where to begin.
12/04/2012
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Contributor: Supervixen Supervixen
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Originally posted by SecretToyLover2
No need to offend anyone here. So excuse me if I do. I went grocery shopping with hubby and we actually came across his mother and father. His mother, who is 52, was dressed like she was16. No joke, no lie. Wearing the lowest cut sports shirt I have ... more
I don't think it's your place or anyone else's to tell a grown woman how to dress. She'll probably take offense, because women generally don't like to be told that they are too old to dress a particular way. If I were you, I'd let her be. If her manner of dress is making your husband and her husband uncomfortable, then they can approach her about it; it sounds like they want you to do it because they don't want to deal with a confrontation. They're adults too, so let them approach her if they can't handle it.
12/04/2012
Contributor: *Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
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Originally posted by Supervixen
I don't think it's your place or anyone else's to tell a grown woman how to dress. She'll probably take offense, because women generally don't like to be told that they are too old to dress a particular way. If I were you, I'd ... more
I agree with this, also how would you feel if someone told you how to dress?! If she feels sexy,has the confidence and can embrace it an carry herself well in the outfits who cares!!! If her husband has an issue with it then he should say something, the ONLY time I have had a guy I have been with tell me I need to cover up is because they were jealous an didn't want other men starring at me. I say let her wear what she wishes whether she is a career professional or not.
12/04/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
I see it all the time in Florida (Beach Body Capital), and nobody thinks anything of it. It's only odd looking if she's been tanning so much that she looks like a leather suitcase of 70 when she's only 45.

And tell the guys to deal with it - they're the ones with the issue. Dragging you into it is only making you out to be the enemy ("younger woman telling me what to do") while keeping them smelling like roses ("you guys would never do that to me").
12/04/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by Chilipepper
I see it all the time in Florida (Beach Body Capital), and nobody thinks anything of it. It's only odd looking if she's been tanning so much that she looks like a leather suitcase of 70 when she's only 45.

And tell the guys to deal ... more
Agreed!
12/04/2012
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
Honestly, I kind of envy her confidence! It would be a shame to make her feel bad, and if it is something really actually inappropriate, definitely better to let her husband be the one to talk about it with her, quietly, than her daughter-in-law.
12/04/2012
Contributor: WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
I completely agree with everything said thus far.
12/04/2012
Contributor: Supervixen Supervixen
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Originally posted by Chilipepper
I see it all the time in Florida (Beach Body Capital), and nobody thinks anything of it. It's only odd looking if she's been tanning so much that she looks like a leather suitcase of 70 when she's only 45.

And tell the guys to deal ... more
Yes!

You need to be careful with what sounds like a potential conflict or offending your mother in law. I don't know what your relationship is like with her, but an older woman doesn't want to hear from a younger woman (her daughter in law, no less) that she needs to "dress her age." That's a huge slap in the face, and you don't want to be the one in that position.
12/04/2012
Contributor: tami tami
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Originally posted by SecretToyLover2
No need to offend anyone here. So excuse me if I do. I went grocery shopping with hubby and we actually came across his mother and father. His mother, who is 52, was dressed like she was16. No joke, no lie. Wearing the lowest cut sports shirt I have ... more
it is not your job to confront her and if she thinks she looks good then what the hell why not let her be? It would probably create hurt feelings and some hostility between the two of you if anyone says anything then it should be her husband not you be very careful if you do suggest she wear age appropriate clothing.
12/09/2012
Contributor: novanilla novanilla
I don't think it is anyone's right to confront her, not even her husband. She can do whatever she wants.

I take issue with the suggestion that she should not dress a certain way in public because of her profession. Does anyone complain that businessmen go into public in torn jeans and a sweatshirt? I sure haven't heard that complaint. Everyone seems to get mad about a woman who wears something with no holes and stains and shows off a body.

If by chance she is having a "mid life crisis" that's not even an excuse to bother her. Let her live out her "crisis" until she feels better.
12/09/2012