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Contributor: Silverdrop Silverdrop
My partner is getting a vasectomy in a few days, and I'm writing about the experience for #SexisSocial. Getting the Snip, part one talks about how we made the decision that vasectomy was the right form of birth control for us.

Is it something you've ever considered? Why or why not? (If you're female, you can answer the poll on behalf of your partner.)
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
I've already had one (or my partner has)
Sammi , amazon , RonLee , Checkmate , Stagger13 , leanright69 , padmeamidala , EastCoast36 , robertk2380 , naturegirl
10
It's something we've considered, but aren't sure about
- Kira - , The Mother of a SiNner , Alyxx , tortilla , Beck , Ryuson , Ciao. , HydrogenBondage , ththpup , sjclayton2912
10
I'm planning on getting one
meitman , BlooJay , SecretKinksters
3
I still need condoms for safer sex, so what's the point?
mp3me , HydrogenBondage , Trysexual
3
I'm gay, so I don't have to worry about accidental pregnancy
No. It looks painful!
Trysexual
1
No. I worry that it might change my semen or my sexual experience
Trysexual
1
No. My partner has been sterilized, so it's not necessary
Gunsmoke , iabicpl09
2
No. It's too permanent
gehuwd , Chou Wang , JoshJosh123
3
Heck no, we're trying to conceive!
Other
travelnurse , Intrepid Niddering , edeneve , HannahPanda , Breas , sexxxkitten , Gdom , LAndJ , Geogeo , skeeterlynn , xxSuzakuxx , MistressDandelion
12
Total votes: 45 (42 voters)
Poll is closed
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Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
We've had the discussion a few times. I'm scared of how permanent it is, but then we don't ever plan on having another child so it makes sense to do. I'm on Implanon now which expires in about six months. We'll be discussing it again soon I'm sure.
11/05/2012
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
We discussed it, and after our second child was a few years old, we did it. The experience was...interesting - I stayed in the room with him during the procedure - but we're both glad we had it done.
11/05/2012
Contributor: amazon amazon
I'm all for it!
11/05/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
I didn't feel the options applied completely, we've discussed it. We've agreed it's the best way to go about things, but we haven't set a date or even a time period of when we're actually going to have it done.
11/05/2012
Contributor: travelnurse travelnurse
Honestly from a medical professional and perspective, if you are sure that you are done it is so much easier for the male to have a vas then a female to have her tubes tied. My husband was looking at getting one when I blew out one of my Fallopian tubes with an ectopic pregnancy so while they were in there they just took both of my tubes.
11/05/2012
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
I had it done back while I was still in the Army after my son was born. The procedure itself wasn't really a big deal at all. I just had to go to two different Army doctors, the first one said with only one child he wouldn't do it. The second doc agreed that as an adult, I was thirty six, I could decide for myself.
11/05/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
I can't rely on having a long-term partner - relationships aren't that durable - so I took care of my own permanent birth control.

My father had one done not long after my brother was born (1980), since it was a much easier procedure than having mom go through tube-tying, and my parents were through after having two kids. My mom's brother had his at 17 (1975) by a friend of his who was a licensed doctor - he never wanted kids, and never regretted having it done.
11/05/2012
Contributor: The Mother of a SiNner The Mother of a SiNner
Quote:
Originally posted by Silverdrop
My partner is getting a vasectomy in a few days, and I'm writing about the experience for #SexisSocial. Getting the Snip, part one talks about how we made the decision that vasectomy was the right form of birth control for us.

Is it ... more
we thought about it then iwent threw the change
11/05/2012
Contributor: Intrepid Niddering Intrepid Niddering
I don't have a partner, but I'd be all for it. It's a quick procedure. It's much more difficult for a woman to have her tubes tied.

My dad got a vasectomy when my mom was pregnant with my youngest sister. He had testicular cancer at the same time and before he went in for the operation to remove the tumor, my mom asked them, "So, whilst your down there, can you just give him a vasectomy, too?"
11/05/2012
Contributor: Alyxx Alyxx
We've talked about it. We don't want kids, but for now I have an IUD and I really like it, so I'll probably stick with that even if he does end up getting one. I like the reduced periods. But we honestly aren't even sure if he is fertile, he had a really severe infection in his testicles when he was born, and his parents were told the damage could make him sterile.
11/05/2012
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
when I was married my husband & I considered it now & then.
11/05/2012
Contributor: Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by Silverdrop
My partner is getting a vasectomy in a few days, and I'm writing about the experience for #SexisSocial. Getting the Snip, part one talks about how we made the decision that vasectomy was the right form of birth control for us.

Is it ... more
We were done having kids. It was the simplest solution to the birth control question-Nothing to forget.
11/06/2012
Contributor: Silverdrop Silverdrop
Quote:
Originally posted by The Mother of a SiNner
we thought about it then iwent threw the change
I have an uncle who exists because grandmother thought she had gone through menopause.
11/06/2012
Contributor: HannahPanda HannahPanda
I tend to shy away from permanent procedures mentally because there is that sense of "What if I change my mind?" I think condoms suck a big fat one, but at the same time, having children is something I so very wish I could do with my partner and if we were man and woman, I don't think I'd ever wanna give it up permanently, anyway. I understand the notion though, since if you're sure you don't ever want children or any MORE children, it can feel amazing to know it's probably not going to happen if you choose to get one done.
11/06/2012
Contributor: tortilla tortilla
wish hubby would just do it
11/06/2012
Contributor: leanright69 leanright69
After our 5th child was born it was an easy choice. However, I had a complication as a result. Will explan further if you would like a summation of the reaction to the "cat-gut" suture.
11/06/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
We've been discussing this. He went to get the referral, but hasn't went to the urologist. We don't want anymore children. We have decided that him getting fixed is the better option. He just has to set the actual date.
11/06/2012
Contributor: padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by Silverdrop
My partner is getting a vasectomy in a few days, and I'm writing about the experience for #SexisSocial. Getting the Snip, part one talks about how we made the decision that vasectomy was the right form of birth control for us.

Is it ... more
my husband got a vasectomy. We've had a few regrets about it but it is very good birth control. Just be sure you want to get it done because it's hard to reverse.
11/06/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
After our second child my wife and I decided we were done. She had her tubes tied before leaving the hospital.
11/06/2012
Contributor: EastCoast36 EastCoast36
We planned to have her tubes tied after our second child, but her doctor sort of talked us out of it. I did have the vasectomy, and it has worked out pretty well for us.
11/06/2012
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
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At 19 we've talked about it, but it's a LONG time in the future. My boyfriends sister (only lived a month), mother, and grandmother all had really bad birth defects. My mum, grandma, and great grandma all had HELLP syndrome, and my mum actually died and had to be resuscitated DURING HER C-SECTION.

Needless to say we're leaning towards adoption, but it's still a long ways away.
11/06/2012
Contributor: robertk2380 robertk2380
Got mine about five years after my son was born. We talked about it at length and decided that we'd stick with one child. Glad I did. My wife didn't take well to oral birth control and condoms were a drag for me. I have no regrets about doing it and if anything it improved our sex life. Procedure was simple and relatively uncomfortable. Only regret? Not listening to my wife who suggested staying home the next day. I toughed it out and went to work. Not a good idea.
11/11/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
We've talked about it. My man's brother had it done (then they changed their minds and had it reversed) so we know it isn't a bad procedure and isn't necessarily permanent.

At this point, I have to stay on the birth control pill for my major period problems, so we don't need anything else. I don't see that changing, and I've already spoken to my OB/GYN who assured me I can easily stay on my pill until I hit menopause - so that's my plan. If things stay that way then he'd never need to get a vasectomy.
11/11/2012
Contributor: Gdom Gdom
The idea doesn't particularly scare me, but I don't think it'll happen anytime soon. First, quality condoms really aren't too bad, so I don't feel I'm losing too much by not getting snipped. Second, I'd rather avoid unneeded medical expenses. And third, while vasectomies are sometimes reversible, that's not always the case. In the spirit of keeping my reproductive options open, I'll go without for now.
11/11/2012
Contributor: LAndJ LAndJ
We're not trying to conceive yet, but we will someday. We're way too young to even consider.
11/11/2012
Contributor: Chou Wang Chou Wang
I'm a bit unsure if I want to get castrated... Sorry for the rudeness of course but this is how I think about it. This measure is too permanent in our changing world and given the fact that a male can produce children almost through all his life - it's not an option. And doing it for the partners sake, I mean after the menopause it becomes pointless...
12/07/2012
Contributor: Ciao. Ciao.
We're still in the midst of making family, so it's not really something that we'd pursue right now, but we've discussed it and it's entirely possible we'll go that route once we are in a position to consider long-term birth control options again.
12/07/2012
Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
Quote:
Originally posted by Silverdrop
My partner is getting a vasectomy in a few days, and I'm writing about the experience for #SexisSocial. Getting the Snip, part one talks about how we made the decision that vasectomy was the right form of birth control for us.

Is it ... more
It's something I would consider in the future
12/07/2012
Contributor: naturegirl naturegirl
Phil had it done 12 months after the birth of our second and it was the best thing ever! No more diaphragm/spermicide, spontaneity, you name it, it was all improved! Plus, he get to come inside, which I like, without worry of mishap. (now I'm 55 that risk is gone anyway, but for the first few years it was so good!)
12/09/2012