*raises hand* I'm not on much for it and unfortunately I've noticed that since developing it I get muscle spasms in my back almost every time I orgasm. I brought this up with one of my doctors and she wasn't too concerned. Well, I'm certainly concerned. D:

I also have FMS.
As I said here: link
"Oddly enough, or maybe not, I've always been a very horny person ever since childhood and I think the endorphins and every "feel good" hormone I can feel kills the pain, at least for a few minutes, or a few seconds. Yes, there are days where I'm so tired I'm atrociously passive, but it doesn't mean I don't enjoy myself (and my husband enjoys it anyway). It's almost an addiction... "

I regulate pain with opiates because I'm intolerent to most recommended drugs (I puked for 5 hours straight upon taking my first Cymbalta pill, Lyrica removed my ability to think, etc). I'm also a very severe case that was deemed untreatable after I tested way too much pills.

And yes, Fibro does impact on all life aspects. But I've had it since I was around 5 so I don't really remember how it was to be completely ok.

I do think the depression that comes with fibro kills my drive, tho.

Oh. And codeine/morphine sex is great. Just saying. Amazing.

I also have a very low libido, ever since I have bin dinosed with fms, but before that I never had a problem, I'm on savella neurontion, tramodal and a bunch more.

The Dr put me on Lyrica for Fibromyalgia and it was making me crazy. I would panic at everything and then I would have trouble focusing. Hopefully when i go back to the Dr we can try something else. It worked but the side effects were horrible

My girlfriend has Fibro and it certainly doesn't lower her sex drive, she is just in pain frequently, so we have to have sex carefully more than anything else. If she is having a really bad flare this is harder, but it's never been impossible. She takes Dopamine, Gabapentine, What is basically prozac, and Ambiene for sleep. I have no idea what these things affect her sex drive but we regularly have sex at least three times a day. So, I don't know. I'll have her post in this forum it'll likely help more.

Hey, Geekkink's girlfriend here. I take dopamine, gabapentin, prozac, ambien, and tylonel with codeine 3. All of them are a pretty low dose except the gabapentin. The prozac at a higher dose destroyed my sex drive, but since scaling it back my sex drive is off the charts.

Neurontin wasn't an option for me because I had bad reactions to similar drugs. All of my research and my doctor's research points to issues with the brain chemicals, so that is what he is treating which has been super helpful.

I have fibro, and it can cause problems since chronic pain never really helps when it comes to anything. However, sexy things often distract from it, so I tend to seek out that sort of thing.

I have fibro as well as diabetes, so I have severe nerve damage from both. Not to mention two back surgeries and the pain that comes from that. However, I have a great pain mgmt. Dr.

As for the fibro pain, Lyrica is fabulous! It is the best medication I have ever taken for nerve pain. My insurance bc/bs required a medical necessity authorization from my dr, but had no problem getting it approved. It is really a great medicine for nerve damage.

FMS is ruining my sex life.

I've suffered with Fibro/M.E for over seven years now and it did impact on my physical relationship with my last partner. I wasn't taking any medication for pain however, so I'm guessing it wasn't that severe.

Sex tips with Fibro?

Gently does it. Lots of foreplay so your body relaxes and gets your blood circulation going without tiring you out too much.
Most of the time, my partner topped because of my health, so most of my tips are to do with that.

*Prop yourself up with some soft pillows (duck feathers are great and also hypoallergenic if you suffer with that too) great places to put them are behind your knees, in the small of your back, behind your neck (the slight tilt of your head will pool nice bits of oxygenated blood in your brain and intensify orgasm if you manage to get there) and sometimes just above the elbow if your joints are stiff there.

The knee ones will reduce strain on your hips and thighs, the small of the back will stop that god awful ache so soon and help tilt your hips to a great angle with some experimentation and the arm ones just help with pain.

*Oral sex = winner. Less cardio intensive and gentler on the joints. And let's be honest, who doesn't like a bit of tongue time?

*TALK with your sexual partner. My god this is so important because half the time they won't know what positions hurt you. It's great to experiment and find new things and trying different positions is always fun if you take it slow. Don't be afraid to say STOP if things get too painful. Sex doesn't always have to end in orgasm.

*Have water on hand. Even if you're not topping, pain can make you breathless, and being dehydrated makes it harder to come AND makes pain more severe. As long as you pee before sex you should be able to be totally relaxed and hydrated and feel amazing for it. If you're not sweating enough- you need some water.

More of a topper?
Water is EVEN MORE IMPORTANT.

*Pillows again are amazing. Pillows on your knees will be a godsend. It's also great to have a pillow or cushion either side of your partners torso in case you need a break and need something soft to lay down on without worrying about winding your partner.

*Snuggly sex is great. Don't be afraid to get close. Supporting each other physically as well as emotionally during sex makes sensations so much more intense.

*Take breaks. Switch around with some oral or kissing and touching while you focus on your breathing to take the edge off the pain. Your partner will love the pace change and will make their experience more intense for the switch up.

*Again, don't be afraid to say you have to STOP. Sometimes bad days are just too bad and your partner will understand. They might even help get you off to release those great endorphins that'll take the edge off the joint and muscle pain

Before sex, make sure you've eaten and drunk well during the day. Milk is GREAT for muscle pain as it helps drain away lactic acid build up. You've gotta feed your body, especially if it's a little fragile.

Avoid alcohol. It'll make the pain so much worse.
A warm bath or ice packs depending on the type of pain beforehand might be great too- also a GREAT post sex thing to do together. Bathing- helping wash each other is great for bonding and really ties up the whole experience brilliantly.

Finally, again, communication is key, sometimes you'll be damn frustrated but the more you stress the harder it'll be. You'll find something you can both enjoy and try to just make the most of the experience at the time rather than worrying about if you'll be able to make you SO orgasm.