Have you ever tried vibrators for clitoral stimulation ? How far did those get you ?

Have you ever tried a wand massager ?


I had my first orgasm a little while ago, at 22. I'm on some medication, but I'm unsure if it's effecting me or not. I've never come close from just manual stimulation. Vibrators changed that for me and gave me something I'd never thought I'd experience. However, not just any vibrator will work. The first one I ever had was so weak that it was just a frustration and upset me to the point I didn't look at toys again for a few years.

Can you / do you feel physically aroused ? When using a vibrator, does it produce that feeling at all ?


I wouldn't give up. If anything, you could talk to your doctor or see a sex therapist to see what the problem might be and what your options are. If it IS related to medication, they can give you a much clearer idea of what you're looking at, chemically.

I had a loss of sex-drive due to birth control at one point, and changing the medication seems to have helped, even if I'm not how I was when I was younger. I don't know how much of that is the medication and how much is just getting older. Other than hormonal BC, I'm not sure how other medication effects sex-drive, though I'm sure it can.

I think that each person is different but for me orgasmic is a very mental process as well. Just because you haven't had one yet doesn't mean you can't and just try to relax and be mentally aroused as well as physically.
Medication can play a huge part in this struggle but don't be discouraged!
Good luck hun and take it slow, you have been through a lot and I hope you can find what you want : )

I agree with Katelyn. I think mental stimulation is key. I'm on lots of medications myself and they make it difficult to orgasm. Try reading an erotic story first or watch some porn if you're into it. It'll help get you into a sexier, relaxed mind set.

You should speak with your doctor about it. If you take a lot of different kinds of drugs, and have for a while, then it certainly could effect your ability to orgasm. I've been on antidepressants in the past that made it nearly impossible for me to reach orgasm, when before, it was no problem.

And yes, it could be a mental block as well. Keep exploring, keep trying new techniques, and above all, be patient with yourself. I used to have trouble reaching orgasm with partners, no matter how turned on I was or how much I wanted it. I couldn't relax completely and just let myself go, and every time I told myself, "this time is going to be different!" I'd just psych myself out and get frustrated when I couldn't quite get there. It helped to STOP focusing on reaching an orgasm and just enjoy the different sensations as they happened, let them wash over me and not think of having an orgasm as the goal that must be achieved. Eventually, I relaxed and learned to appreciate the experiences as they came, and once I did that, well, I came! Don't get frustrated. Just enjoy the things that you feel, and it will open up door after door for you.

Also, don't think of yourself as defective. Everybody's body works differently, which is why you need to familiarize yourself with your own and explore it. I didn't find my g-spot until a couple of months ago, and believe me, I searched for it for forever! I've been masturbating since I was ten (my first orgasm as well), and am 26, and I constantly discover new things about my body and my sexual response. When you think of your sexuality like, "well, I guess this is it..." then you limit yourself. There are layers to sexuality and sometimes, it just takes time and perseverance to unlock all of it.

Good luck!