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You tried to speak their language to make them feel more comfortable and to aid understanding...just as if you spoke highschool french and some native speakers came in. THAT is endearing to anyone and it doesn't matter if you completely flub up what you are saying you TRIED and that is all that matters. I have a massive attraction to "foreign" speakers especially slavs which could be considered a disability in an english speaking country. So I can see what you are saying. Liking someone because of a perceived disability is a bit ick but being attracted to an enguaging person who is made more special by the difficulties they have overcome is hot. Either way I still say the original poster was simply wondering about the different sensations a deaf person would feel during sex...I believe that he was simply attempting to be empathetic rather than sick. Having had sex with a deaf person I can say it is subtly different in exactly the ways he was wondering. The vocalization is different and facial features become a better guideline.
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Dame Saphir
I think there's nothing wrong with it, as long as you have reason other than "he's deaf, it's cute." That's offensive. But if you can give reason showing why you have an attraction because of things that exist in the
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I think there's nothing wrong with it, as long as you have reason other than "he's deaf, it's cute." That's offensive. But if you can give reason showing why you have an attraction because of things that exist in the relationship or communication that may not be there if he wasn't deaf, rather than saying you find him attractive BECAUSE he's deaf. There is no problem with it.
I work as a waitress and at the end of a long night, my last table came in which included a family with two deaf men about my age. After the struggles of one boy trying to sign his order to his grandmother, who then spoke it to me, and the other simply pointing to the menu for me, I had the desire to show enough respect to ask the two men questions directly and pulled out my old high school ASL. The entire family stopped and their mouths dropped open when I asked if one man wanted gravy on his mashed potatoes. At first I thought they were offended but then their gasps melted into smiles and I was bombarded with questions about how I learned to sign.
I began a friendship with one of the men that night and communicate with him pretty regularly. I find him attractive based on the changes and adaptations that both of us had to make to be friends. I find him attractive based off of features that would not exist if he were not deaf or impaired in some other way, but not because of the soul fact that he is deaf. He spoke to me right before he left that night, and that was extremely becoming to me. He spoke, knowing that he can't hear himself, but also knowing that he probably sounds different than everyone else does, and yet he spoke to me and opened himself up in the slightest, and THAT was attractive. And I believe he probably found my attempts to communicate with him and his brother, my fumbled attempts at remembering how to sign, attractive as well, not because I'm NOT deaf, but because I was putting myself out there to speak with him and become friends with him, not knowing exactly -how- silly I might have looked trying to sign to them, but I still knew it wouldn't be perfect and it wouldn't be the same as how they sign to each other and to their ASL fluent family members.
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I work as a waitress and at the end of a long night, my last table came in which included a family with two deaf men about my age. After the struggles of one boy trying to sign his order to his grandmother, who then spoke it to me, and the other simply pointing to the menu for me, I had the desire to show enough respect to ask the two men questions directly and pulled out my old high school ASL. The entire family stopped and their mouths dropped open when I asked if one man wanted gravy on his mashed potatoes. At first I thought they were offended but then their gasps melted into smiles and I was bombarded with questions about how I learned to sign.
I began a friendship with one of the men that night and communicate with him pretty regularly. I find him attractive based on the changes and adaptations that both of us had to make to be friends. I find him attractive based off of features that would not exist if he were not deaf or impaired in some other way, but not because of the soul fact that he is deaf. He spoke to me right before he left that night, and that was extremely becoming to me. He spoke, knowing that he can't hear himself, but also knowing that he probably sounds different than everyone else does, and yet he spoke to me and opened himself up in the slightest, and THAT was attractive. And I believe he probably found my attempts to communicate with him and his brother, my fumbled attempts at remembering how to sign, attractive as well, not because I'm NOT deaf, but because I was putting myself out there to speak with him and become friends with him, not knowing exactly -how- silly I might have looked trying to sign to them, but I still knew it wouldn't be perfect and it wouldn't be the same as how they sign to each other and to their ASL fluent family members.
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