I'm curious about this, too. I had a high drive when I was a teenager but was not sexually active until my 20s (now) and have little to no drive. I'm wondering if it was my bc pills (off them now), how my body/genetics is, if it's a common thing, etc etc.

I'm sure it's different for every woman and depends on a lot of outside factors too, such as what kind of meds they're on, what their stress levels are, etc., etc. For me personally, the drive was very high in my early twenties, diminished to nearly nothing in my mid twenties to early thirties, and then went absolutely insane after 35 almost to the point of nymphomania. Unfortunately for my husband, that shows no sign of slowing yet.

One thing I am thinking is that, as women grow older, they tend to lose some of those expectations placed upon them by society. We learn that the madonna/whore complex is ridiculous. It's okay to like sex and many women become more open expressing that which can make sense more enjoyable, thus more frequent. It certainly doesn't cover every instance but I think mindset and growing up may be the actual change rather than sex drive, sometimes.

I would say mine was highest in my 20's and now again at 50. During my 30's and especially during my 40's my sex drive was pretty dead.

My sex drive has always been high, with the exception of a few years in my mid twenties. This coincided with the birth of my child and all the hormonal issues/lack of time/sleep deprivation that tends to come with the package.

I really don’t believe it is the same for any two women. Like Alan & Michele said there are many outside factors that can dramatically change your sex drive. For me at 41yrs I’m just becoming more open and enjoying sex more so therefore I want more. Much like Airen, that has a lot to do with how I see myself. Thanks to EF and this community I’m becoming more open and have found a place to ask all the questions I have regarding sex. So having the right information helps a lot also. I have a long way to go and have more discovering to do.

I would pick two - in my 30s and 40s. Actually, my late 30s to early 40s. I'm not sure exactly if it's hormones, or being more open, or what caused it, but currently my sex drive is almost uncontrollable.

For my wife - it's definitely her 40's - so far. In her late 20s it was about having kids, in her 30's it was about keeping quiet 'they might hear us'. Now (in her 40's) it's 'The kids are out - let's have some fun!'

I'm 27 but even now it seems to be increasing from 5 and 10 years ago, so let's hope it keeps going!

I said the thirties - I'm 37 now. But I think it depends on a lot of other factors, too. In my teens, I knew nothing about sex or how it SHOULD be so I spent all that time faking it. In my twenties and early thirties, I was in an unhappy marriage. Now I'm in a "better" relationship - or at least it was - and then my sex drive was high. As in - once every 3 months or so with my ex and at least twice a week with my husband. BUT that changes based on stress level and how our relationship is going on an emotional level - which right now isn't great. So my sex drive has entirely left for the time being.

I do think as women get older and we find out what is truly normal (as in, most of us don't climax in 2 minutes and need clitoral stimulation and toys are good) and when we are comfortable enough with ourselves and our partners to open up about it and talk about it, it makes a huge difference in our sex lives. I can live without the initial excitement and intense passion when I have the strong emotional connection and communication instead. It makes sex so much better and more satisfying - which in turns, makes me want to do it more.

I have found that my sex drive goes up and down. I was pretty horny as a teenager and that dropped in my 20s. I did indeed experience a upsurge of desire in my early 30s and this continued into my early 40s.

I think I hit a peak for few months in my early 40s. I have NEVER felt that horny in my life! And for no real reason. Lol. Unfortunately, that was followed by a rather noticeable drop. I am now 45, and I can say it is very up and down.

So, I would say my peak years were probably my 30s. At least terms of consistent horniness. Supposedly, women experience a drop off in estrogen around the thirties that unmasks the effects of testosterone.

My sex drive has really taken off in my late 30's and I find myself needing much more then in my earlier years. I'm 38. Not sure what it will be like in the future but right now I'm on a serious sexually needing high.

Teen years was about pleasing him. Twenties was about children. Thirties I'm relaxed and ready all the time.

I have found my sex drive has gone wild since I hit 30 - Im almost 32.

I've always been a very sexual person with a high drive, but since I've gotten close to 30 (I'll be 30 in 2 months) it is out of control! Seriously, I can't get enough! I believe I'm hitting my prime!

I'm only in my late 20's. Thus far I was at my highest point in my early 20's

It'd probably be higher now if it weren't for being so exhausted because of kids.

I don't think I'm old enough to tell as I'm only 29..but my sex drive has gotten higher as I've gotten older. Well, hrm I guess that's not really true...I guess I've always had a high sex drive. I guess what it is is that I've become more orgasmic and can have stronger orgasms and have started to get more g-spot orgasms/pleasure as I have gotten older. Especially in this last year I'd say.

I am curious about this as well, I am still in my mid to late twenties and my sex drive has absolutely decreased. I have two small children, only one of which is in school and I am sure that this has much to do with my decline. When I was in my early twenties I was good to go between 3 and 7 times a day, possibly more. Since having children I can go up to a month with no desire for any type of sexual stimulation whatsoever.

Ours is better than ever at 40+.

I'm so interested in this thread. I've always wondered that and I hope my sex drive never goes down, only up.. :] Thanks for giving a girl faith, guys!

Well according to my bf (who's 48) "women go crazy in their 30's"

Things that I have read say late 20's is peak for women, but others have written early 30's, so who knows? I am 27 and not ready to begin the decline. I think so much pleasure depends on the person's attitude and willingness to grow sexually.
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