I really have to agree with the answers given, it all depends on what else is going on within the contex of the relationship. I feel that masturbation with each other or doing it to one another, can be a great alternative to full blown sex at times. The natural drug release of dopamine, the reward hormone; prolactin, the hormone of satiation; oxytocin, the cuddle hormone, and levels of androgen receptors, all play their parts. It is possible for a person to get addicted to this feeling as well.

To me, I see a few things though that would stand to error on the side of caution. Now if the guy is outright masturbating and not having sex, I would want to know how often... all the time, some of the time, what? We don't really have any grounds to go on, "More Often" leaves a lot to the imagination. If masturbation has taken over his life, then I would say the guy needs to come to terms with it. Whether it is lack of feeling from intercourse, the hassle, time constaints... Heck stress from life could have him as well, and it is just easier to beat off, then to have sex...! Who knows!

On a seriouse note tho, the wife should do what ever she can to get him to talk about it, perhaps he is addicted to the high he gets from the orgasm. If the guy is 35 or older, it wouldn't be a bad idea if his next check up looked at T levels, lack of T could be the case as well. Over all I think she needs to get him to open up and talk.

Here is a link that shows the break downs, it might give some an insight to what really happens at the point of orgasm.

Masturbation is amazing. I say no.

Since we don't live together and are technically long distance for three to four months every year, I naturally masturbate more than engage in partner sex with my boyfriend. I assume that it's the same for him. In some other couples, it could definitely be a sign of something else going on, but that depends on context and requires straightforward communication to figure out. Just because a guy masturbates more than engaging in partner sex doesn't necessarily mean that you need to worry.

All I can really say here is: Context, context, context. Which, really, is how most questions regarding relationships and sexual habits can be answered satisfactorily.

I think, that if he's masturbating in place of sex, then, yes, that is an issue. If he's just got a higher libido and their sex life is satisfactory otherwise, then there's not an issue.

i hope not

I think this masturbation should only ever become an issue when it is interfering with having a healthy sexual relationship. If it is in place of sex, then it can become an issue, if pornography is an issue with a jealous partner than that needs to be discussed, and in what I am sure is a less common situation when it poses problems during normal sex. I was in a situation with a partner whos constant masturbation was interfering with his ability to climax during normal intercourse, when he started masturbating less frequently the problem stopped.

I don't think one can masturbate too much. There are times I would personally rather masturbate than have sex since I get more intense orgasms that way. Then there are times I just want sex.

If the person regulary chooses solo fun over offered sex, then yes thats a problem. That would certainly bother me and I'd be looking for someone new.

My husband doesn't like it when I use my sex toys at all, even when he's sick-He has IBS....Is that a bad thing? Because I wish I could use them more often! I feel sad that he's so jealous of them.

I agree that it completely depends on the context. If the relationship is suffering because of it, sure, it's too much.