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After how long after starting relationship did you become less attracted sexually to them (if at all)?

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Contributor: Kazooie Kazooie
I find myself less attracted to my boyfriend at times. its been almost a year.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Less than 3 mo
Sinfully , aliceinthehole , Chunkubus
3  (7%)
After 4-6 mo
After 7-11 mo
Like a year after
Sangsara
1  (2%)
A few years
NEVER!
meitman , Master DarkWolf , bayosgirl , ciderspider , DreamWolf , indiglo , Peggi , Antipova , Gunsmoke , Feisty , Loriandhubby , tiggle biddies , Geogeo , K101 , Fawkes , Ilovelingerie , darthkitt3n , Poophammer , BlooJay , PropertyOfPotter , mpfm , Ansley , P'Gell , Kitten has left the site , SMichelle , js250 , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , BG529 , ejrbrndps , Beck , sunkissedJess , Starkiller87 , Llahsram , gloomybear , Ms. N , Mamastoys , solitudinarian , oldman , Mistress Sassy
39  (91%)
Total votes: 43
Poll is closed
05/21/2012
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Contributor: meitman meitman
Married almost 9 years and been together longer than that. I seriously think I get more attracted to her every day. I'm definitely blessed!
05/21/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
I am still very much attracted to my husband, even though he has put on some weight over the years (OK, we both have.) To me it's about love, not about what he looks like. Now if he REALLY let himself go and got to 300 pounds, that'd be a bit of a problem, but a few pounds here and there don't matter.
05/21/2012
Contributor: Master DarkWolf Master DarkWolf
NEVER, love my Baby!
05/21/2012
Contributor: Sinfully Sinfully
I feel guilty cause I have felt this way about my bf lately.
05/21/2012
Contributor: DreamWolf DreamWolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Master DarkWolf
NEVER, love my Baby!
Me either, LOVE MY LOVE MY LOVE MY ONLYMASTER, NYUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU UU, WEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEHHHHH HHH WEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE EEHHHHHHH!!!!!!
05/21/2012
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
I guess I can't properly say "never" because I haven't been with the same person for 15+ years or anything, but I've never experienced this so far!
05/21/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
22+ years and I'm more attracted and in love than ever!
05/21/2012
Contributor: Feisty Feisty
never!
05/21/2012
Contributor: Loriandhubby Loriandhubby
in july it will be 18 years for us. I am not attracted to him now than I ever have been. Gotta love mid life crisis..
05/21/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by Kazooie
I find myself less attracted to my boyfriend at times. its been almost a year.
At times? If you're only attracted to him "at times" maybe you need to reconsider? I've been with mine for 6 years and haven't ever lost my attraction for him or lost sight of what qualities I've loved about him. Same with him. We aren't all PDA like a new couple, but you'd never know we've been together for 6 years. We're still really playful and none of the sweet, fun has gone away and I think it's because we actually love each other. When you lose sight of why you even cared for the person, I could see things dimishing quickly. There are times where I'm wondering why the hell he does weird things or I am upset with him, but I'm never just unattracted to him.
05/22/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
I am still very much attracted to my husband, even though he has put on some weight over the years (OK, we both have.) To me it's about love, not about what he looks like. Now if he REALLY let himself go and got to 300 pounds, that'd be a bit ... more
I TOTALLY agree/feel this way too. We've changed over these past 6 years too, but you're right. When you already love someone, you really don't see a big ol' lump of snot. Lol. Yea, I would be concerned about mine's health if he got that large, but I don't mind some weight. I like him to be manly and NATURAL not something fake like you see in the men's thong section here on EF. That is not sexy to me, but someone real and realistically built. I like that my partner's like that.
05/22/2012
Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
Quote:
Originally posted by Kazooie
I find myself less attracted to my boyfriend at times. its been almost a year.
I am still very attracted to my fiance(we've been together 3 years and change)
05/22/2012
Contributor: Sangsara Sangsara
depends on the guy but usually either we have it or we don't. relationship wise though 10 months seems to be the point where problems first start to occur for me.
05/22/2012
Contributor: Poophammer Poophammer
Been with the wife for almost 2 years now and she still gets the blood flowing in the right direction lol so I don't think that I'll ever be less attracted to her.
05/22/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Never. There are moments when the way he treats me makes it harder, but I don't think my attraction will ever change.
05/22/2012
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
Still sexually attracted to her and it's been years.
05/22/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
My Man and I have been together more than 20 years. Of course, over a long period of time, having children, getting in each other's way. living through illnesses etc. there are times when desire wanes slightly, but it always perks back up quickly.

I still think he is incredibly attractive and love him more than ever.

Of course, it's never static, love is dynamic, always changing. But, we always go back to wanting each other as much as ever as soon as possible.
05/22/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
Sexually--after 16 years I am always still sexually attracted. Emotionally--depends on how he is treating me and what I am going through at the time. No matter what, though, we always reconnect and cannot picture our lives without the other person. We truely love each other and when the going gets tough and I have had it with him, there is always that special something we share that brings us back to reconnecting. Changes are made and we continue to grow. I will always be glad for the sexual attraction--that has saved our marriage more than once by allowing us another chance to grow and reconnect emotionally.
05/22/2012
Contributor: ejrbrndps ejrbrndps
never....been together for almost 6 years and I still want to rip her clothes off every time I see her!
05/22/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
Sexually--after 16 years I am always still sexually attracted. Emotionally--depends on how he is treating me and what I am going through at the time. No matter what, though, we always reconnect and cannot picture our lives without the other person. ... more
This is what I was going to comment. Only thing is we have been together for 6 years.
05/22/2012
Contributor: Starkiller87 Starkiller87
If you find yourself unattracted to your mate maybe its time you find a new mate.
05/22/2012
Contributor: gloomybear gloomybear
my relationship was the exact opposite i started out not being attracted to him at alll it was like a pitty date i wouldnt even tell my friends we were dateing and after a while i started likeing him alot and now we r engaged and happier than ever
05/22/2012
Contributor: Mamastoys Mamastoys
We just celebrated our 28th anniversary and I love him more each day. We have been through so much together that I can't imagine being with anyone else. We have both changed over the years but definitely for the better. He is my soul mate and my best friend...just wondering what the next 28 will be like!
05/22/2012
Contributor: solitudinarian solitudinarian
If anything, I get more attracted over time.
05/22/2012
Contributor: Modern^Spank^Anthem Modern^Spank^Anthem
interesting question
05/24/2012