I know cumminiction is important and trust me I have been cumminacting with my wife. We use to enjoy each other several times a week and at any give time she may initiate it or it may be me. But for the last 6 months she has gotten cold. If I say something then she will do something but I think its only because I have said something. I have asked her what wrong but she simply says she is just too busy with the house. I am trying to help as much as possible, I do half the cooking all the dishes, all the floors, take the laundry to the basement. She sorts the laundry but I do a large part of it and always put away my laundry and my sons. I take care of all outside yard work and all the bills. We both work about the same. I am out of ideas, and would luv to here any ideas someone may have, maybe there is something I have overlooked.
The wife has lost interest
08/17/2011
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I'm so sorry. Sometimes it takes a ton of conversations to get the truth out of someone, especially if that person feels the truth will hurt a loved one in the end. At this point--- if it were my relationship--- I would point blank ask what the deal is. Does he/she not love me anymore? Have I done or am I doing something that makes me less attractive or sex unattractive? Is there a possible medical condition we need to get checked out? Do they just have no interest in sex at all? Is there something on their mind? And I wouldn't stop until I either got the real answer or they told me to just leave them alone. The latter would tell me more than an answer to any of the above.
Without knowing you or seeing how you interact or knowing exactly what is on your spouse's plate, I can't really give you a definitive avenue to walk down to resolve the issue. But, I do wish you the very best of luck in regaining intimacy with your wife.
Without knowing you or seeing how you interact or knowing exactly what is on your spouse's plate, I can't really give you a definitive avenue to walk down to resolve the issue. But, I do wish you the very best of luck in regaining intimacy with your wife.
08/17/2011
This has happened to me before (I am female) with my previous boyfriend. The sex was good and frequent for the first few months, then less and less until rarely at all. I would practically pester him until about a year into our relationship he finally admitted to me that he had an addiction to porn. I tried to make suggestions but he never liked my ideas and never bothered to come up with any of his own. Then he started playing World of Warcraft and THAT became his addiction. Among other problems, this one was a pretty good example of our relationship. I would communicate with him that something bothered me, and he would care and listen and apologize (and come up with excuses) but never put forth any effort to work on things with me. So I broke up with him. I know this is a different situation than what you're going through, I just thought it may be comfort you to know that a lot of women have the same problem with their men.
08/17/2011
I don't know what age group you're in, sometimes age affects the libido in some women. Your wife might be telling you the truth, you can't imagine how many things women have to tend to in a household, there's tons of unnoticeable little chores that needs to be done everyday. My husband helps out a lot too. but there's always more things that needs to be taken care of. I'm in my forties, and I haven't been too crazy about having sex like when I was younger. I've just started taking Damiana Leaves in the capsule form, it helps balance the hormones and boosts the libido, it seems to be working for me. Maybe you can have your wife try them. If your problem is not age related, then try to probe even deeper when you're communicating with her. Sorry I'm not able to help out much here!
08/17/2011
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I'm going to look up the Damiana Leaves. I love herbal solutions to natural problems!
Originally posted by
Rossie
I don't know what age group you're in, sometimes age affects the libido in some women. Your wife might be telling you the truth, you can't imagine how many things women have to tend to in a household, there's tons of unnoticeable
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I don't know what age group you're in, sometimes age affects the libido in some women. Your wife might be telling you the truth, you can't imagine how many things women have to tend to in a household, there's tons of unnoticeable little chores that needs to be done everyday. My husband helps out a lot too. but there's always more things that needs to be taken care of. I'm in my forties, and I haven't been too crazy about having sex like when I was younger. I've just started taking Damiana Leaves in the capsule form, it helps balance the hormones and boosts the libido, it seems to be working for me. Maybe you can have your wife try them. If your problem is not age related, then try to probe even deeper when you're communicating with her. Sorry I'm not able to help out much here!
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08/17/2011
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I should thank Miss Debauchery for introducing the Damiana Leaves on a different thread, it really helps in a lot of ways!
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AngelvMaynard
I'm going to look up the Damiana Leaves. I love herbal solutions to natural problems!
08/17/2011
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How about playing WoW together? That's what my GF and I did
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LaLaLouise
This has happened to me before (I am female) with my previous boyfriend. The sex was good and frequent for the first few months, then less and less until rarely at all. I would practically pester him until about a year into our relationship he
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This has happened to me before (I am female) with my previous boyfriend. The sex was good and frequent for the first few months, then less and less until rarely at all. I would practically pester him until about a year into our relationship he finally admitted to me that he had an addiction to porn. I tried to make suggestions but he never liked my ideas and never bothered to come up with any of his own. Then he started playing World of Warcraft and THAT became his addiction. Among other problems, this one was a pretty good example of our relationship. I would communicate with him that something bothered me, and he would care and listen and apologize (and come up with excuses) but never put forth any effort to work on things with me. So I broke up with him. I know this is a different situation than what you're going through, I just thought it may be comfort you to know that a lot of women have the same problem with their men.
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12/06/2011
What is WoW?
12/08/2011
I'm sorry to hear that. Marriage takes a lot of work. Love is a lot of work. With everything else you have to do, it won't be easy. I would 86 the little things. A little gesture of love will be loved a little. Go for the big show this time around. Surprise her with a vacation (even if it's just for the weekend) or a passionate kiss that literally sweeps her off her feet. Then, the little things will start to add up.
12/08/2011
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