who should be more attractive: you or your partner?

who should be more attractive: you or your partner?

Timaree Timaree
who should be more attractive: you or your partner?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
me: that way i feel more secure
Shellz31 , Trashley , Valentinka , arewehavingfun?
4  (4%)
them: i want some eye candy
Chilipepper , YoungCouple , Kinky Skier , TheCleansing , iceman681 , Lif3sambiguity , Phoenix713 , Nothere , sjclayton2912 , xxSuzakuxx
10  (10%)
we need to be comparable
Lady Venus , Gunsmoke , 00 , trios , ToyTimeTim , Kindred , Sammi , MuffysPinguLove , Not here , GNGenie , ...... , Airen Wolf , LittleBoPeep , petite-n-sweet , Envy , NightNight , deadpoet , Alura Une , Pleasure Piratess , VieuxCarre , PassionQT , crazypao , OhMy! , jakjak , sextoygeek , Polyserena , sexysweetieshan , Liz2 , LikeSunshineDust , Lime , Madeira , lovehurts , Selective Sensualist , wondertoes , Lonewolf , CheerfulLoner , Danielle1220 , Lummox , Sebmissive , plnzg , The Girl With No Name , lamira , Latsyrc728 , lilly555 , Naughty Student , ToyGeek , Kimbertrees , Adriana Ravenlust , leatherlover , LavenderSkies , darthkitt3n , CanMan , The Curious Couple , ac0313 , MarkShivr , 724-6924 , potstickers , Ash1141 , mudpie , oldman , Jaimes , Ms. Spice , Apirka , freda , hall5885 , joja , Howells , Lover of Leather , Ly-Ra , PropertyOfPotter , Marcianpro , Raigne , mlmac , delta117 , Love Obsessed , ejrbrndps , Vegan Silk , mpfm , CadmiumKitty , Chami , tiggle biddies , bayosgirl , Rory
83  (86%)
Total votes: 97
Poll is closed
08/19/2010
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Lady Venus Lady Venus
My guy and I, IMO, make a good match. Looks and personality wise. This may be bias but I call us a good looking couple! hehe!
08/19/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
My wife really works hard at the looking good thing - I'm pleased to be the beneficiary of that effort - me on the other hand am more a 'natural' - just clean and well groomed. It works for us.
08/19/2010
gone77 gone77
It's irrelevant to me. *shrug*
08/19/2010
Chilipepper Chilipepper
Even though I'm not much to look at, it'd be nice to have some eye candy for once ... my ex-husband described himself as a 'troll' and he wasn't exaggerating too much. Mulder was nice-looking, but he didn't stick around long enough. Feh. I deserve some eye candy after all these years.
08/19/2010
Sir Sir
How about neither, or the obvious, IT DOESN'T MATTER?!

Looks, appearance, do not matter to me. Looking well put together, sure, that's important, and looking professional too, but facial features, body..as long as they're healthy and clean, then how the two of us look does not matter.
08/19/2010
Kayla Kayla
Quote:
Originally posted by Sir
How about neither, or the obvious, IT DOESN'T MATTER?!

Looks, appearance, do not matter to me. Looking well put together, sure, that's important, and looking professional too, but facial features, body..as long as they're healthy ...
I'm kinda the same way. Are we only allowed to date someone who we feel superior to or feel like they're great eye candy? I'm really confused by this poll.
08/19/2010
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
We look good together, that is all that matters. Sure I like it when she gets all dolled up or wears a sexy outfit but she likes it when I 'suit' up also.
08/19/2010
Sammi Sammi
We should each be attractive to each other, and we are
08/19/2010
Wayne Kerr Wayne Kerr
Looks being only a small part of the equation, I'd say both partners need to be equals. I think "going slumming" is predatory and lazy, and settling for a slum bum for a mate is an obvious sign of character defects.

As a person, I can never reach my full potential with a mate who doesn't challenge me. I want to be fully in love and lust with a person who feels exactly the same way about me. Otherwise, we are not equals and our relationship will be doomed to failure or dysfunction.

I've only been married for 18 years and have only raised one valedictorian, so my opinion is only that of an idealistic youth. Y'all go ahead and lower the standards to raise the average. All you're giving up is what(who)you could someday be. And remember, if the odds are good...the goods are odd.

Wayne.
08/19/2010
Not here Not here
I don't so much think that a couple needs to be cute together for other people's benefit, but it is important that both members of a partnership find the other very attractive, not only physically but mentally as well. I think my man and I make a cute pair, we have similar features but don't look like brother and sister. But I think mentally and emotionally (and of course sexually!) is where we click the most. We have the same set of morals, the same goals for ourselves, and we have similar personalities in some aspects, but very different in some. The contrast of our personalities is what makes us work so well though!
08/19/2010
...... ......
I would say my husband and I are pretty equal in the looks department. I know one thing, we sure made some beautiful children!!! They have the best of both of us.
08/19/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by ......
I would say my husband and I are pretty equal in the looks department. I know one thing, we sure made some beautiful children!!! They have the best of both of us.
See? To me that's what matters! The three of us are attractive to each other but we made some beautiful children!
08/19/2010
...... ......
Quote:
Originally posted by Airen Wolf
See? To me that's what matters! The three of us are attractive to each other but we made some beautiful children!
Yep! I completely agree. Isn't it so neat when you see parts of yourself or your partner in them?
08/19/2010
Coralbell Coralbell
It doesn't matter to me, as long as they weren't at the very farthest ends of the spectrum. If someone was ridiculously gorgeous I would get self concious and if they were ugly enough that I was actually turned off by their appearance that would obviously be a problem too. I don't meet very many people that fall into either category.
08/19/2010
NightNight NightNight
When my hair was shorter I was frequently told my husband and I looked just alike. I think that makes us "comparable"? I think he's a little more attractive than me but he argues just the opposite.
08/19/2010
Envy Envy
I think about the same. Why should one look better than the other?
08/20/2010
Alura Une Alura Une
Quote:
Originally posted by NightNight
When my hair was shorter I was frequently told my husband and I looked just alike. I think that makes us "comparable"? I think he's a little more attractive than me but he argues just the opposite.
Sounds a lot like us! But our hair is waist length and nearly the same exact color.

I think we are comparable in attractiveness, but I don't come off as a nerd (though I am), but you can take one look at him and know. Still, some days I think he's the better looking one. I will tell him that he is the prettier one and he might strongly disagree. But when he dresses up, he is terribly handsome and I feel frumpy beside him.

I kind of don't like the idea of who "should" be more attractive. :/
08/20/2010
Pleasure Piratess Pleasure Piratess
mmm... eye candy is always nice, though I did read an article recently that did a study and said relationships tended to last longer when the woman was the more attractive partner. They theorized men were less likely to stray and more likely to work hard to keep the woman around. And women tended to feel less threatened.
08/20/2010
PassionQT PassionQT
Rather than being "comparable" we need to be "compatible", but I chose the last choice.
08/20/2010
NightNight NightNight
Quote:
Originally posted by Alura Une
Sounds a lot like us! But our hair is waist length and nearly the same exact color.

I think we are comparable in attractiveness, but I don't come off as a nerd (though I am), but you can take one look at him and know. Still, some days I ...
I have brown hair and he has blonde... but I'm planning on bleaching my hair and cutting it again sometime soon. Then we'll be even more like creepy twins!!
08/20/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Pleasure Piratess
mmm... eye candy is always nice, though I did read an article recently that did a study and said relationships tended to last longer when the woman was the more attractive partner. They theorized men were less likely to stray and more likely to work ...
Except even beautiful women feel threatened and selfconscious and men cheat just as often on 'beautiful' as they do on 'unattractive' ones.
08/23/2010
Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
As long as I find him attractive and he finds me attractive, that's all that matters.
08/23/2010
Timaree Timaree
You need to maintain that equilibrium, but there is some advantage in hetero relationships to the woman being better looking. here's some evidence: link
08/27/2010
iceman681 iceman681
i'm not looking at myself during sex
09/14/2010
null null
I don't think it matters very much at all in a relationship. I don't really care who's more attractive, it's a non-issue.
10/11/2010
Madeira Madeira
I like being comparable, but be happy dating someone who's "hotter" than me, because seriously, if they think I'm pretty I'll feel pretty.
10/11/2010
Shellz31 Shellz31
Me - so he has something nice to always look at and show off. I go for personality so a partners looks arent a huge factor for me.
10/11/2010
Shellz31 Shellz31
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Except even beautiful women feel threatened and selfconscious and men cheat just as often on 'beautiful' as they do on 'unattractive' ones.
Thats soooooo very true! Most cant be trusted.
10/11/2010
Trashley Trashley
I don't mean it the way it sounds! LOL I've always been attracted to people with unusual beauty. I don't like commonplace things or obvious attractiveness... but then I end up dating all these people who all my friends say are, well, not up to par. I think everyone I date is sexy as fuck, but I can never find someone to agree with me.. I may just be sick in the head.
10/14/2010
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