This week we got a little holier-than-thou on a reader about her failure to use condoms with a new, fairly casual sexual partner. Having an advice column tends to increase one's preach factor, but then again, with issues as important as sexual health and safety, we see no reason to be lax or laissez faire. Of course, we can speak in ideals. What's the reality like for you? How good (or bad) are you about using condoms correctly every time with new sexual partners?
How Strict of Lax Are You About Using Condoms? - from Em and Lo
03/10/2011
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I have to say I was never a condom user. In my defense, I chose my partners very well and since I intended to stay with them, children were never a concern to me. I also had very few partner throughout my life. Now, I'm taken for life.
Originally posted by
Em & Lo
This week we got a little holier-than-thou on a reader about her failure to use condoms with a new, fairly casual sexual partner. Having an advice column tends to increase one's preach factor, but then again, with issues as important as sexual
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This week we got a little holier-than-thou on a reader about her failure to use condoms with a new, fairly casual sexual partner. Having an advice column tends to increase one's preach factor, but then again, with issues as important as sexual health and safety, we see no reason to be lax or laissez faire. Of course, we can speak in ideals. What's the reality like for you? How good (or bad) are you about using condoms correctly every time with new sexual partners?
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03/10/2011
I don't think I've ever been casual about choosing my partners either, but I'm absolutely pedantic about using condoms. First time, every time - even when we've been together for years. I just don't go bareback at all.
But I had a family member who died of AIDS. I think that's probably contributed to me taking the matter REALLY seriously.
But I had a family member who died of AIDS. I think that's probably contributed to me taking the matter REALLY seriously.
03/12/2011
We never use them. We've been together 18 yrs and he had a vasectomy 16 yrs ago or so. No need for them.
Before we were together, always!
Before we were together, always!
03/12/2011
I'm married, so we don't use condoms. Although, I never really did used them before I was married, either. I'd attempt to be a good girl the first few times with a new partner, but after that I'd pretty much just say "fuck it(pun not intended)". As my hubby told me when we were dating; "Having sex with a condom is like eating candy with the wrapper still on." It may be a flippant attitude to have, but it's true.
03/12/2011
I've always been super strict about condom use after a close friend contracted an incurable std when we were in our teens. Since then unless its a strictly monogamous relationship of 6 months+ I've always used condoms with guys... my downfall has always been not practising safe sec with other women
03/12/2011
I'm not a fan.
But I don't sleep around and when I do finally sleep with a partner, it's cause I know I can fully trust them.
But I don't sleep around and when I do finally sleep with a partner, it's cause I know I can fully trust them.
03/12/2011
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if it's not my bf, and there's no condom, i won't do it. we're in a um....very rarely open relationship? we can..very rarely...have a one night stand with someone. i know he is serious about this too, and we both get tested regularly. we've been together since we were 14, [Hint* we're much older now] so i trust him. it's others i don't. plus...i don't want any more kids!!!
Originally posted by
Em & Lo
This week we got a little holier-than-thou on a reader about her failure to use condoms with a new, fairly casual sexual partner. Having an advice column tends to increase one's preach factor, but then again, with issues as important as sexual
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more
This week we got a little holier-than-thou on a reader about her failure to use condoms with a new, fairly casual sexual partner. Having an advice column tends to increase one's preach factor, but then again, with issues as important as sexual health and safety, we see no reason to be lax or laissez faire. Of course, we can speak in ideals. What's the reality like for you? How good (or bad) are you about using condoms correctly every time with new sexual partners?
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03/15/2011
My partner and I don't use condoms anymore, since he had a vasectomy. I am very fertile and got pregnant early on in our relationship.
Since we are swingers, we always use condoms with others....always. It has created performance problems with some men thou, most couples don't use them and have problems when they swing. We never make exceptions with other people.
Since we are swingers, we always use condoms with others....always. It has created performance problems with some men thou, most couples don't use them and have problems when they swing. We never make exceptions with other people.
04/11/2011
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I don't use condoms with my husband/partner. He has had a vasectomy and he hates to use condoms so we don't. We've also both been tested for STD's also. I do use a condom with any new sexual partners (I'm poly) but there hasn't been anyone else in my life for over a year now.
Originally posted by
Em & Lo
This week we got a little holier-than-thou on a reader about her failure to use condoms with a new, fairly casual sexual partner. Having an advice column tends to increase one's preach factor, but then again, with issues as important as sexual
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more
This week we got a little holier-than-thou on a reader about her failure to use condoms with a new, fairly casual sexual partner. Having an advice column tends to increase one's preach factor, but then again, with issues as important as sexual health and safety, we see no reason to be lax or laissez faire. Of course, we can speak in ideals. What's the reality like for you? How good (or bad) are you about using condoms correctly every time with new sexual partners?
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04/11/2011
My first guy we used condoms for vaginal sex. I was already on the pill, but you can't be too careful about unwanted pregnancy. For oral we did not use condoms, we were both virgins and trusted each other.
My current guy and I are discussing whether he'll use condoms on his coming visit. He wants to use them for everything, but I think he's mainly worried about me being nervous about not using them (that's not a correct sentence, is it?). He admits that it feels loads better without. We're both gonna get STD tests to show each other I think? Just one of those "I trust you but if we were lying to each other it'd be really bad" type deals. And we've got a few months to think about it
I'm hoping we can go without condoms on this visit. I know he'd enjoy it more, and oral with a condom is a little awkward-feeling.
My current guy and I are discussing whether he'll use condoms on his coming visit. He wants to use them for everything, but I think he's mainly worried about me being nervous about not using them (that's not a correct sentence, is it?). He admits that it feels loads better without. We're both gonna get STD tests to show each other I think? Just one of those "I trust you but if we were lying to each other it'd be really bad" type deals. And we've got a few months to think about it
I'm hoping we can go without condoms on this visit. I know he'd enjoy it more, and oral with a condom is a little awkward-feeling.
04/11/2011
hornypoet69
I never use condoms for oral. For intercourse though, it is definitely a must. Though in all honesty I have never had intercourse, so I have never had an opportunity to enforce that rule.
04/11/2011
100% of the time, but I am not promiscuous in any sense of the word. I'm a serial monogamist. Each new partner would be tested very shortly after a mutual attraction was established.
04/11/2011
Not an issue at all with me. Don't use them at all. My partner and I have been together for 5 years and have always been strictly monogamous (by choice!) So we don't have 'new partners' we've both been tested and still get tested regularly, even though I'm sure neither one of us would EVER even dream of cheating, but I still think regular exams are important for everyone's health. Children aren't an issue for us either since I'm unable to become pregnant. But we do have 3 beauties who aren't ours biologically, but still ours! Lol. We really don't have anything to worry about there. If I were to have new partners, I'd probably not even agree to sex until they went themselves and got tested no matter what and no mattter how many times they "promise they were just tested last month." I wouldn't sleep with a new partner ever, but if I wasn't already with my partner, there's not a chance I'd get in bed with anyone who wouldn't get tested first. I'd do the same for them. I also would make sure to use condoms even after though.
07/18/2011
I always use a condom for intercourse, always. I tend to be pretty lax when it comes to oral sex but I want to get better about that. I spent too long not worrying about STIs that I could have gotten from someone.
07/18/2011
When I wasn't on the Pill with my ex, very strict. I let him guilt me into bareback twice... both times on my period, for only a few moments, and I had a freakout after both times.
With new guys in my life, if I end up sleeping with either of them, and I'm not on birth control, they must wear a condom. If I am on birth control, then they must have a clean STD test.
With new guys in my life, if I end up sleeping with either of them, and I'm not on birth control, they must wear a condom. If I am on birth control, then they must have a clean STD test.
10/03/2011
I've been married 8 years and we do not use condoms anymore.
10/03/2011
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