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Safe sex words and respect

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Contributor: fizzygato fizzygato
Have you ever had someone not listen to your safe word/ safety signal (i.e. if you were gagged but had another signal)?

Does this qualify as rape/ does rape always have to be sexual? i.e. What if it were someone putting more hot wax on your back, even after you called your safety word?
02/09/2013
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Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
We're not into this scene - but it would seem to me that if someone violates an agreement like that, it's time end it and move on.

It may indeed be rape - but it would be very hard to prove. I would just move on and find someone who you can trust.

Good luck.
02/10/2013
Contributor: LeeBee LeeBee
If you play a safeword or a safe symbol, you're essentially revoking consent (at least temporarily). Ignoring it would be sex without consent, so yes, sexual assault or rape.
05/26/2013
Contributor: Ayumi Ayumi
I have never had my safeword/symbol violated, but if some violation occurred within the context of a sexual act it could be considered "sexual assault" not rape in the scenario you described. If you are concerned about this though, you should research your state's definition of sexual assault because it varies from state to state.
06/02/2013
Contributor: KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
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Originally posted by Ayumi
I have never had my safeword/symbol violated, but if some violation occurred within the context of a sexual act it could be considered "sexual assault" not rape in the scenario you described. If you are concerned about this though, you ... more
This is what I was going to say.

Beyond that, it isn't ok in any way for any one to do that.
06/02/2013