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Contributor: Love Bites Love Bites
I know that under the law, you have to tell your partner you have a STD.

So, if you had an STD, when would you tell the person you were in a relationship with? Would you stay with someone if they told you that they had an STD, or would it depend on what kind? Like, would you still be involved emotionally and sexually with someone once it was out in the open? I also wonder what you would do if you gave your partner an STD, or if your partner gave you an STD.
09/16/2011
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Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
Our situation is a little different because we're in a LTR, but Alan & I have talked about it during discussions about bringing in playmates. The same things would apply if I were single though.

I'd ask that we both go for STD testing as soon as conversations about the possibility of having sex started happening. That way there'd be no surprises for either of us.

If I found out that I was in a relationship with someone who had an STD, I'd never have sex with them but would be willing to remain friends.

I wouldn't put my partner at a risk for getting an STD from me, and if he gave me an STD he'd get dumped. I see no point in keeping a partner who would gamble with my health and put me through all of that.
09/17/2011
Contributor: Ghost Ghost
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Originally posted by Alan & Michele
Our situation is a little different because we're in a LTR, but Alan & I have talked about it during discussions about bringing in playmates. The same things would apply if I were single though.

I'd ask that we both go for STD ... more
Exactly! If I knew I had an STD, I would tell my partner immediately and deal with the consequences. I would expect the same treatment from my partner.
09/17/2011
Contributor: WierdAl WierdAl
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Originally posted by Ghost
Exactly! If I knew I had an STD, I would tell my partner immediately and deal with the consequences. I would expect the same treatment from my partner.
I agree with Both of you completely.
09/17/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
this has never came up in our relationship, as we have only been with each other. If one of us gave the other a STD, there would be some problems. I could never be with someone who had cheated on me, and would not expect her to stay with me either.
09/18/2011
Contributor: ScotchIrish ScotchIrish
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Originally posted by Alan & Michele
Our situation is a little different because we're in a LTR, but Alan & I have talked about it during discussions about bringing in playmates. The same things would apply if I were single though.

I'd ask that we both go for STD ... more
The next to perfect reply. I implore you. You are a wonderful person. I hope after 21 years with my X2B and 4+ years of abstinence I find a great gal just like you. Ps. Would you consider cloning? lol
09/20/2011
Contributor: ScotchIrish ScotchIrish
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Originally posted by Love Bites
I know that under the law, you have to tell your partner you have a STD.

So, if you had an STD, when would you tell the person you were in a relationship with? Would you stay with someone if they told you that they had an STD, or would it ... more
I agree, as soon as you are talking about sex; in the 1st hour sex talk is common and quick. Or in a month of sundaes. Don't get left out in the cold from learning about someone before you develop the best aspects of being together. And, I know for a fact that people lie, hide and don't have the ethics or morals to tell the truth. And, if it is about a fact; what about when they are telling you a story. Stories grow, facts are concise and controlled.
09/20/2011
Contributor: geliebt geliebt
I have no interest having sex with someone without getting tested first, honestly. It's just not a risk I'm at all willing to take, no matter how much I trust the person! If I found out later, it would depend on the disease. If it was something like herpes, I just wouldn't be able to stay with them. I mean.. I don't want herpes. I do want to have sex. I'm really not willing to work around that.
11/24/2011