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Contributor: TiffanyW TiffanyW
My husband and I have been married for 4 years. We have a 3.5 year old son and are wanting another one soon. We are both overweight, and have been trying for almost a year and nothing is happening.

I feel sad. But part of me is happy.

I went into labor at 26wks with my son, and it was the scariest thing I have ever been through.... I don't want to go to through that again....

I have mixed feelings about getting pregnant right now.
06/03/2013
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Contributor: js250 js250
Have you talked to your husband about your fears? Does he share them as well? I can understand the feeling of sadness, children are very special. The little happy, 'whew' you get every time you realize you aren't pregnant is also not such a bad thing...maybe part of you is not ready to have another child and you need a bit more time before you can make the final decision? Talk it over with your husband and see if he shares your feelings. If he doesn't, then you two might be able to work out a compromise that you both can relax and be happy with. Sometimes when you stress about getting pregnant, it can delay the pregnancy from happening.
06/03/2013
Contributor: TiffanyW TiffanyW
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Originally posted by js250
Have you talked to your husband about your fears? Does he share them as well? I can understand the feeling of sadness, children are very special. The little happy, 'whew' you get every time you realize you aren't pregnant is also not such ... more
I don't really know what I want. We moved to a different state about 7 months ago, and I am having a hard time with that. I know he wants another one and I do too. We are doing the "see what happens" thing. So if it happens it happens, if it doesn't it doesn't kinda thing. But at the same time I get sad every time it's negative. So many mixed feelings on the whole thing.
06/04/2013
Contributor: pixiedustVixen pixiedustVixen
That is scary going through that and im glad to hear that your son made it through that but I am not a skinny girl myself and havent ever been able to concieve. I havent really tried either but I think when god wants me to have a kid a kid will come and if not than its just not meant to be. Most of the problems with conception are stemming from all these chemicals around us. They find womens bodies toxic who are pregnant even. It is scary wanting a child with that in mind so I personally am not worried but maybe try to detox your body and it might help. Being heavy really hurts the period too and then your body doesnt want any extra stress. I would try to loose weight before even considering just for health reasons not because you arent beautiful!
06/04/2013
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
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Originally posted by TiffanyW
I don't really know what I want. We moved to a different state about 7 months ago, and I am having a hard time with that. I know he wants another one and I do too. We are doing the "see what happens" thing. So if it happens it happens, ... more
If you're testing that often, it's more like you're 'trying' than not. Don't test each month. Work hard on getting fit and healthy and and just do what you do. If your period is really late or you're having symptoms, test then. Otherwise, focus on bettering yourself and allow things to just naturally happen.
06/04/2013
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
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Originally posted by TiffanyW
My husband and I have been married for 4 years. We have a 3.5 year old son and are wanting another one soon. We are both overweight, and have been trying for almost a year and nothing is happening.

I feel sad. But part of me is happy. ... more
I can understand that. I had severe preeclampsia and almost had a stroke with my first (and only) pregnancy. I've had a couple of times when I considered having another one, and I have even been in a relationship where we tried briefly. However, I always back out because it's terrifying!
06/06/2013
Contributor: ICEE ICEE
as long as your stressed and when your over weight that will contribute you the difficulties of getting pregnant plus with the stress of the fact you just moved and with the problems that you had with your first and with your doubts maybe it would be best if you waited a year until you get settled into your new home, find a great ob dr that you like and trust and sit down and talk to the dr about your concerns and bring your hubby with and when you do take the kid to a babysitter so you can concentrate on the subject at hand. maybe talk to a shrink about it also. make sure you have talked to hubby about your concerns. he needs to know how you feel in this also after all your the one that carries the baby for 9 months.
06/22/2013
Contributor: Tiffany Pollard Tiffany Pollard
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Originally posted by TiffanyW
My husband and I have been married for 4 years. We have a 3.5 year old son and are wanting another one soon. We are both overweight, and have been trying for almost a year and nothing is happening.

I feel sad. But part of me is happy. ... more
Maybe you should lose weight?
06/22/2013
Contributor: dontbackdown02 dontbackdown02
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Originally posted by TiffanyW
My husband and I have been married for 4 years. We have a 3.5 year old son and are wanting another one soon. We are both overweight, and have been trying for almost a year and nothing is happening.

I feel sad. But part of me is happy. ... more
The best thing to do is go to a doctor be fore you begin trying to get pregnant, get everything checked out make sure you are healthy enough to try. Also make sure things are right for you to make babies. Then don't stress over making one I've heard that only makes it harder to happen when couples stress over it.
08/03/2013