When did you decide you were ready to have a baby?
Having a baby - when did you decide?
01/25/2013
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Decided I will never be ready.
01/25/2013
Still deciding, lol 3 kids later We knew we wanted kids eventually we just never knew when we would be financially ready, so we decided we may never be so we'll just do it. I don't regret it what so ever.
Babies are awesome, hard work but so worth it.
Babies are awesome, hard work but so worth it.
01/26/2013
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We waited until we thought we would be OK financially if we had one. We made it a point to not be on food stamps while having the baby, or after. And thankfully, we are doing ok. She is 4 months old now!
Originally posted by
froggygal91
When did you decide you were ready to have a baby?
My son however, is 8 years old LMAO.
I definitely think you aren't ever ready, but you can be close to it. we decided to not go get another depo shot, and within 6 months I was pregnant. Crazy.
01/26/2013
I've never wanted any, although I'm now in an "indecisive" phase for the first time in a decade-and-a-half. I hate feeling like I'm not "normal" for not having maternal feelings. I never took it for granted that I'd have kids when "I'm older", they just never crossed my mind. I've never had that burning need to have children.
I feel like I've found The One, and he wants kids and I don't, so he's going to have to be "the one that got away". I won't fuck with an innocent human life just to keep a guy.
I feel like I've found The One, and he wants kids and I don't, so he's going to have to be "the one that got away". I won't fuck with an innocent human life just to keep a guy.
01/26/2013
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This.
Originally posted by
Kissy
Decided I will never be ready.
01/26/2013
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In my early 20's I decided that I was ready to have a baby and got pregnant at 22 with my first child.
Originally posted by
froggygal91
When did you decide you were ready to have a baby?
01/26/2013
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We decided there was no amount of money that would ever make us feel comfortable financially and that we could still enjoy our lives (travel, be adventurous) even with a baby. 1 1/2 years later we are loving it
Originally posted by
froggygal91
When did you decide you were ready to have a baby?
TabooWhispersBlog
01/26/2013
Met my husband at 20, and caught the baby bug around 22. I'm 23 right now, and we are thinking about it, but we are still young and want a little bit longer to enjoy being a couple without kids!
01/27/2013
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I decided never to have a baby around age 11.
Originally posted by
froggygal91
When did you decide you were ready to have a baby?
18 years later, I still haven't changed my mind.
01/27/2013
It sound bad but I didn't decide I was ready to have a baby until about 4 months into my completely accidental pregnancy. I'd never wanted kids before that.
01/28/2013
Oh gosh. I was ready at 18, I think. However, my life has always been dedicated to kids in my work, schooling, etc (Child development and education) so it's no surprise I'd like a houseful of kids.
That said, hubby was not interested in having kids until much later. He always wanted them, he just wasn't sure when. I ended up having my first a year ago, at 25 (I always imagined I'd be done by 26, not just barely started!)
I'm glad we waited though, finances were in order, our relationship was in a great place (this is HUGE, maybe even more than money or anything else - if things are rocky now, 99% of the time baby will only make it much worse, and it will be MUCH harder to cope with all that comes with a baby). We were kind of where we wanted to be to bring baby into the world, so we just went for it.
I don't know if you'll ever feel totally ready - if you know you want them, and life is as close to as ideal for you as it will be in terms of being able to care for one the way you want to (it was important to me that I could stay at home and we could make it work financially) then you might just have to take that leap if nothing big is stopping you. We tried for 6 months to get pregnant and I still freaked out once I saw that positive test, lots of doubts and what ifs - but I cant even remember life without her now, and I don't want to, so it all definitely worked out!
That said, hubby was not interested in having kids until much later. He always wanted them, he just wasn't sure when. I ended up having my first a year ago, at 25 (I always imagined I'd be done by 26, not just barely started!)
I'm glad we waited though, finances were in order, our relationship was in a great place (this is HUGE, maybe even more than money or anything else - if things are rocky now, 99% of the time baby will only make it much worse, and it will be MUCH harder to cope with all that comes with a baby). We were kind of where we wanted to be to bring baby into the world, so we just went for it.
I don't know if you'll ever feel totally ready - if you know you want them, and life is as close to as ideal for you as it will be in terms of being able to care for one the way you want to (it was important to me that I could stay at home and we could make it work financially) then you might just have to take that leap if nothing big is stopping you. We tried for 6 months to get pregnant and I still freaked out once I saw that positive test, lots of doubts and what ifs - but I cant even remember life without her now, and I don't want to, so it all definitely worked out!
01/29/2013
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love this-you put it perfectly!
Originally posted by
Munko
Oh gosh. I was ready at 18, I think. However, my life has always been dedicated to kids in my work, schooling, etc (Child development and education) so it's no surprise I'd like a houseful of kids.
That said, hubby was not interested ... more
That said, hubby was not interested ... more
Oh gosh. I was ready at 18, I think. However, my life has always been dedicated to kids in my work, schooling, etc (Child development and education) so it's no surprise I'd like a houseful of kids.
That said, hubby was not interested in having kids until much later. He always wanted them, he just wasn't sure when. I ended up having my first a year ago, at 25 (I always imagined I'd be done by 26, not just barely started!)
I'm glad we waited though, finances were in order, our relationship was in a great place (this is HUGE, maybe even more than money or anything else - if things are rocky now, 99% of the time baby will only make it much worse, and it will be MUCH harder to cope with all that comes with a baby). We were kind of where we wanted to be to bring baby into the world, so we just went for it.
I don't know if you'll ever feel totally ready - if you know you want them, and life is as close to as ideal for you as it will be in terms of being able to care for one the way you want to (it was important to me that I could stay at home and we could make it work financially) then you might just have to take that leap if nothing big is stopping you. We tried for 6 months to get pregnant and I still freaked out once I saw that positive test, lots of doubts and what ifs - but I cant even remember life without her now, and I don't want to, so it all definitely worked out! less
That said, hubby was not interested in having kids until much later. He always wanted them, he just wasn't sure when. I ended up having my first a year ago, at 25 (I always imagined I'd be done by 26, not just barely started!)
I'm glad we waited though, finances were in order, our relationship was in a great place (this is HUGE, maybe even more than money or anything else - if things are rocky now, 99% of the time baby will only make it much worse, and it will be MUCH harder to cope with all that comes with a baby). We were kind of where we wanted to be to bring baby into the world, so we just went for it.
I don't know if you'll ever feel totally ready - if you know you want them, and life is as close to as ideal for you as it will be in terms of being able to care for one the way you want to (it was important to me that I could stay at home and we could make it work financially) then you might just have to take that leap if nothing big is stopping you. We tried for 6 months to get pregnant and I still freaked out once I saw that positive test, lots of doubts and what ifs - but I cant even remember life without her now, and I don't want to, so it all definitely worked out! less
02/01/2013
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