In this community where most of us tend to educate ourselves about safe sex and may or may not have adventurous lifestyles, I was curious as to how many people have been affected by STD/STI? Do you think we are more as risk because we are more sexual, or less at risk because we are more knowledgeable?
How many people have been affected by STD/STI?
08/13/2010
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I overheard a conversation recently between my fighting parents that made me vote "I have never had an STD, but I know someone who has."
Originally posted by
Pleasure Piratess
In this community where most of us tend to educate ourselves about safe sex and may or may not have adventurous lifestyles, I was curious as to how many people have been affected by STD/STI? Do you think we are more as risk because we are more
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In this community where most of us tend to educate ourselves about safe sex and may or may not have adventurous lifestyles, I was curious as to how many people have been affected by STD/STI? Do you think we are more as risk because we are more sexual, or less at risk because we are more knowledgeable?
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To quote the latest Savage Love column: People, if you’re going to cheat on your partner, please use protection. It’s quite literally the least you can do.
08/14/2010
I've never been affected my one, but I have a family member who has one.
08/15/2010
I have a friend who has one, but I don't have anything thankfully.
08/15/2010
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My sister has an STD, but I've never had one. But that's because she's been with over 30 people. I've only been with one.
Originally posted by
Pleasure Piratess
In this community where most of us tend to educate ourselves about safe sex and may or may not have adventurous lifestyles, I was curious as to how many people have been affected by STD/STI? Do you think we are more as risk because we are more
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In this community where most of us tend to educate ourselves about safe sex and may or may not have adventurous lifestyles, I was curious as to how many people have been affected by STD/STI? Do you think we are more as risk because we are more sexual, or less at risk because we are more knowledgeable?
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08/15/2010
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The number of partners doesn't matter. A person can get an STD their first time or never after having 100 partners.
Originally posted by
Sera
My sister has an STD, but I've never had one. But that's because she's been with over 30 people. I've only been with one.
A person just has to be smart about it.
08/15/2010
Agreeing with JR, I actually know several people that lost their virginity to assholes that never shared that they had warts or genital herpes.
08/15/2010
Some STD's can't be completely protected against, even with a condom, so being "smart" about it can reduce your chances, but it's not failproof. Same with the number of partners. Having more partners certainly ups your chances of getting an STD/STI, that's just a simple probability problem, but at the same time, that doesn't mean that having a "one and only" partner makes you safe. No matter what your chances are, it's always 100% for the person who gets it.
Let's face it: Sex can be risky! Kinda like eating fugu fish
Let's face it: Sex can be risky! Kinda like eating fugu fish
08/15/2010
I've had a scare or two, but it ended up being nothing. THANK GOD.
I do know several people who has gotten them. One who has HIV. Eep.
I do know several people who has gotten them. One who has HIV. Eep.
08/15/2010
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Charlotte, I'm sure you didn't mean it as rudely as you did. But, I'm agreeing with JR here, you can only have one partner and still get something. And even if you use a condom, they do slip off. Though, you do have a higher risk of having something like that happen with multiple partners, it can also happen with just one or 2 as well. Trust me.
Originally posted by
Sera
My sister has an STD, but I've never had one. But that's because she's been with over 30 people. I've only been with one.
08/19/2010
Never had one, and I plan to keep it that way! I've known a couple people casually that got a case of the clap, but nothing more serious than that. Protection is very important to me, and since my man and I are looking to broaden our horizons to MFF threesomes, it has become even more of a priority. Most people don't realize the majority of STDs are transmitted orally, and don't protect for that.
Recently, my man and I had a "date" with another couple (when we were looking into swinging, before we decided on 3somes) and wanted to get dental dams so we could be as safe as possible, should it go down that route. I live in CT, and we literally went to 15 pharmacies and 3 sex stores and came home with nothing. Most of the people we asked had no idea what we were talking about, except for a man at one of the sex stores who said he normally carried them but was out of stock at the moment. We were absolutely disgusted with the lack of self protection options offered.
Recently, my man and I had a "date" with another couple (when we were looking into swinging, before we decided on 3somes) and wanted to get dental dams so we could be as safe as possible, should it go down that route. I live in CT, and we literally went to 15 pharmacies and 3 sex stores and came home with nothing. Most of the people we asked had no idea what we were talking about, except for a man at one of the sex stores who said he normally carried them but was out of stock at the moment. We were absolutely disgusted with the lack of self protection options offered.
08/19/2010
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Mmmmmhmmm I thought the same until my one and only sex partner told me about the hundreds of times he cheated on me behind my back. He has never gotten an STD neither have I, but my sister was given gonorrhea and chlamydia by her one and only sex partner husband who got both before he committed to her.
Originally posted by
Sera
My sister has an STD, but I've never had one. But that's because she's been with over 30 people. I've only been with one.
You aren't safe just because you are with only one person, you are safe because your only person is truthful and honest about who and what he's doing.
08/19/2010
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I totally agree!
Originally posted by
El-Jaro
The number of partners doesn't matter. A person can get an STD their first time or never after having 100 partners.
A person just has to be smart about it.
A person just has to be smart about it.
There are ways to lessen the risks, but the risks are always out there.
08/20/2010
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Well said!!
Originally posted by
Airen Wolf
Mmmmmhmmm I thought the same until my one and only sex partner told me about the hundreds of times he cheated on me behind my back. He has never gotten an STD neither have I, but my sister was given gonorrhea and chlamydia by her one and only sex
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Mmmmmhmmm I thought the same until my one and only sex partner told me about the hundreds of times he cheated on me behind my back. He has never gotten an STD neither have I, but my sister was given gonorrhea and chlamydia by her one and only sex partner husband who got both before he committed to her.
You aren't safe just because you are with only one person, you are safe because your only person is truthful and honest about who and what he's doing. less
You aren't safe just because you are with only one person, you are safe because your only person is truthful and honest about who and what he's doing. less
08/20/2010
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I agree - I know people that have been with one or two people and have gotten STD's and one that saved herself from marriage and her husband cheated and gave her HIV. I've been with quite a few people myself and have always done everything in my power to be safe, and have fared well for it.
Originally posted by
El-Jaro
The number of partners doesn't matter. A person can get an STD their first time or never after having 100 partners.
A person just has to be smart about it.
A person just has to be smart about it.
08/20/2010
I'm pretty sure I've never had one because I've never had any problems or symptoms. But I couldn't say for 100% sure because I've never been tested for anything.
08/20/2010
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That's crazy! I order the Glyde dams online, in blackberry flavor. Actually, I used to. I'm currently monogamous and fluid bonded with a man but will quite possibly buy them again in the years to come because we're considering opening the relationship to another woman at some point in the future.
Originally posted by
Not here
Never had one, and I plan to keep it that way! I've known a couple people casually that got a case of the clap, but nothing more serious than that. Protection is very important to me, and since my man and I are looking to broaden our horizons to
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Never had one, and I plan to keep it that way! I've known a couple people casually that got a case of the clap, but nothing more serious than that. Protection is very important to me, and since my man and I are looking to broaden our horizons to MFF threesomes, it has become even more of a priority. Most people don't realize the majority of STDs are transmitted orally, and don't protect for that.
Recently, my man and I had a "date" with another couple (when we were looking into swinging, before we decided on 3somes) and wanted to get dental dams so we could be as safe as possible, should it go down that route. I live in CT, and we literally went to 15 pharmacies and 3 sex stores and came home with nothing. Most of the people we asked had no idea what we were talking about, except for a man at one of the sex stores who said he normally carried them but was out of stock at the moment. We were absolutely disgusted with the lack of self protection options offered. less
Recently, my man and I had a "date" with another couple (when we were looking into swinging, before we decided on 3somes) and wanted to get dental dams so we could be as safe as possible, should it go down that route. I live in CT, and we literally went to 15 pharmacies and 3 sex stores and came home with nothing. Most of the people we asked had no idea what we were talking about, except for a man at one of the sex stores who said he normally carried them but was out of stock at the moment. We were absolutely disgusted with the lack of self protection options offered. less
08/20/2010
In addition, there are also people who I've known to spread Herpes because they honestly didn't know they had it. HSV tests aren't a guaranteed correct answer, and I know of someone that found out he had it when he passed it on to a good friend of mine and she experienced an outbreak. He'd never had any particularly noticeable symptoms and had been tested, but it ended up he'd had it for years and unknowingly passed it to her through skin to skin (despite condom use) contact. The only true test for that one is to test the fluid inside a sore during an outbreak...this is probably why the number of people with antibodies to HSV, despite having no symptoms, is so high.
08/20/2010
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Condoms do slip off and break, but that's not the only problem. Some STD's are transfered from Skin-to-skin and don't require fluids. That means if your skin is touching your partner even if part of him is covered by a condom, you can still catch something. The partner also doesn't have to have any symptoms or outward signs of many STD's. Particularly, HPV.
Originally posted by
TexasBrat
Charlotte, I'm sure you didn't mean it as rudely as you did. But, I'm agreeing with JR here, you can only have one partner and still get something. And even if you use a condom, they do slip off. Though, you do have a higher risk of
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Charlotte, I'm sure you didn't mean it as rudely as you did. But, I'm agreeing with JR here, you can only have one partner and still get something. And even if you use a condom, they do slip off. Though, you do have a higher risk of having something like that happen with multiple partners, it can also happen with just one or 2 as well. Trust me.
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08/21/2010
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I think the knowledge of the safe sex helps, but I figure it does come up a lot in those relationships where one of the partners is cheating.
Originally posted by
Pleasure Piratess
In this community where most of us tend to educate ourselves about safe sex and may or may not have adventurous lifestyles, I was curious as to how many people have been affected by STD/STI? Do you think we are more as risk because we are more
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more
In this community where most of us tend to educate ourselves about safe sex and may or may not have adventurous lifestyles, I was curious as to how many people have been affected by STD/STI? Do you think we are more as risk because we are more sexual, or less at risk because we are more knowledgeable?
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I guess I do technically have a STI, though. I have HPV (but not the kind that causes the warts, just the kind that, you know, can give me cancer and whatnot.) I know who I got it from, and who he got it from. It just saddens me that it happened, but I've accepted it.
My current, long term boyfriend was who I contracted it from (we've been together almost 3 years.) He contracted it from the girl he was with directly before me.
She was a little whore. She tried to say that my current boyfriend was the one to give her Chlamydia but surprise, neither of us have it (we've both been tested. Seriously scared me at the time she told us though, I had a UTI). She just didn't want to admit to her family that she was fucking random guys while pregnant. (Not my boyfriend's baby btw. She never had a paternity test but knocked out 1/3 possible fathers when the baby was born half-hispanic.)
Sorry if it's TMI. I just thought I would share because I think it's important. Also, I am obviously a major advocate for the HPV vaccine, for both females and MALES!
08/21/2010
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I think the knowledge of the safe sex helps, but I figure it does come up a lot in those relationships where one of the partners is cheating.
Originally posted by
Pleasure Piratess
In this community where most of us tend to educate ourselves about safe sex and may or may not have adventurous lifestyles, I was curious as to how many people have been affected by STD/STI? Do you think we are more as risk because we are more
...
more
In this community where most of us tend to educate ourselves about safe sex and may or may not have adventurous lifestyles, I was curious as to how many people have been affected by STD/STI? Do you think we are more as risk because we are more sexual, or less at risk because we are more knowledgeable?
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I guess I do technically have a STI, though. I have HPV (but not the kind that causes the warts, just the kind that, you know, can give me cancer and whatnot.) I know who I got it from, and who he got it from. It just saddens me that it happened, but I've accepted it.
My current, long term boyfriend was who I contracted it from (we've been together almost 3 years.) He contracted it from the girl he was with directly before me.
She was a little whore. She tried to say that my current boyfriend was the one to give her Chlamydia but surprise, neither of us have it (we've both been tested. Seriously scared me at the time she told us though, I had a UTI). She just didn't want to admit to her family that she was fucking random guys while pregnant. (Not my boyfriend's baby btw she was already pregnant the one time they slept together. And he was desperate. She never had a paternity test but knocked out 1/3 possible fathers when the baby was born half-hispanic.)
Sorry if it's TMI. I just thought I would share because I think it's important. Also, I am obviously a major advocate for the HPV vaccine, for both females and MALES!
08/21/2010
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From what I know there isn't a vaccine for males yet. It's still being tested.
Originally posted by
crazypao
I think the knowledge of the safe sex helps, but I figure it does come up a lot in those relationships where one of the partners is cheating.
I guess I do technically have a STI, though. I have HPV (but not the kind that causes the warts, ... more
I guess I do technically have a STI, though. I have HPV (but not the kind that causes the warts, ... more
I think the knowledge of the safe sex helps, but I figure it does come up a lot in those relationships where one of the partners is cheating.
I guess I do technically have a STI, though. I have HPV (but not the kind that causes the warts, just the kind that, you know, can give me cancer and whatnot.) I know who I got it from, and who he got it from. It just saddens me that it happened, but I've accepted it.
My current, long term boyfriend was who I contracted it from (we've been together almost 3 years.) He contracted it from the girl he was with directly before me.
She was a little whore. She tried to say that my current boyfriend was the one to give her Chlamydia but surprise, neither of us have it (we've both been tested. Seriously scared me at the time she told us though, I had a UTI). She just didn't want to admit to her family that she was fucking random guys while pregnant. (Not my boyfriend's baby btw she was already pregnant the one time they slept together. And he was desperate. She never had a paternity test but knocked out 1/3 possible fathers when the baby was born half-hispanic.)
Sorry if it's TMI. I just thought I would share because I think it's important. Also, I am obviously a major advocate for the HPV vaccine, for both females and MALES! less
I guess I do technically have a STI, though. I have HPV (but not the kind that causes the warts, just the kind that, you know, can give me cancer and whatnot.) I know who I got it from, and who he got it from. It just saddens me that it happened, but I've accepted it.
My current, long term boyfriend was who I contracted it from (we've been together almost 3 years.) He contracted it from the girl he was with directly before me.
She was a little whore. She tried to say that my current boyfriend was the one to give her Chlamydia but surprise, neither of us have it (we've both been tested. Seriously scared me at the time she told us though, I had a UTI). She just didn't want to admit to her family that she was fucking random guys while pregnant. (Not my boyfriend's baby btw she was already pregnant the one time they slept together. And he was desperate. She never had a paternity test but knocked out 1/3 possible fathers when the baby was born half-hispanic.)
Sorry if it's TMI. I just thought I would share because I think it's important. Also, I am obviously a major advocate for the HPV vaccine, for both females and MALES! less
08/22/2010
I have been with the same person for over 30 years and apparently I have the HPV virus (but not the kind that causes warts)...Go figure!! LOL!! I also know of other people with the same virus..
08/30/2010
My mom, cousin, friend and her boyfriend all have HPV. My boyfriend had gonorrhea before I met him. He got it from some girl who was apparently sleeping around. But I have been tested and I am clean. Thank god. I worry about getting HPV because my current bf has slept around alot before me. But I have been tested 2x and nothing so far.
09/15/2010
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Get tested! It's worth it, and free if you go to planned parenthood. Better to be safe than sorry, yeah?
Originally posted by
removedacnt
I'm pretty sure I've never had one because I've never had any problems or symptoms. But I couldn't say for 100% sure because I've never been tested for anything.
And I've never had one, but I get tested every 6 months. My best friend in high school had every one under the sun, though... yuck.
09/16/2010
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I ended up with something after a condom mishap-but I was totally disgusted with the care. Where I live I have no family doctor, and had to go to a walk in clinic, where I was treated like shit, told I would only be tested for the clap and gonorrhea, and given ZERO options for other testing. The sexual health clinic only treats people under 25 (since apparently us over 30's never have sex) and I have no real sense of where to go for full testing, and am mortified and quite angry about having to return back to this clinic. I was confident about what it was, but all things considered, I was embarrassed and infuriated that the "doctor" didn't feel like sending me for full tests.
Originally posted by
Pleasure Piratess
In this community where most of us tend to educate ourselves about safe sex and may or may not have adventurous lifestyles, I was curious as to how many people have been affected by STD/STI? Do you think we are more as risk because we are more
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In this community where most of us tend to educate ourselves about safe sex and may or may not have adventurous lifestyles, I was curious as to how many people have been affected by STD/STI? Do you think we are more as risk because we are more sexual, or less at risk because we are more knowledgeable?
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Was hard enough being an "adult" getting medication for a STD. She totally made it worse.
09/26/2010
I had high-risk HPV (which causes cancer, as opposed to low risk which causes warts). I guess I technically have it since it'll always be in my system, but my last two PAP smears have been normal. It's terrifying though, learning you have an STI that could give you cancer. I suppose there's always a chance it'll come back around in my body some day, so I just try to stay as healthy as I can.
I'm an absolute proponent for Gardasil, which has now been FDA approved for use in males ages 9-26. I think everyone should get it. It's such a common infection (about 80% of women will have it at some point in their life) and it could potentially be eradicated completely.
Also, women: get your annual PAP test. It could save your life.
I'm an absolute proponent for Gardasil, which has now been FDA approved for use in males ages 9-26. I think everyone should get it. It's such a common infection (about 80% of women will have it at some point in their life) and it could potentially be eradicated completely.
Also, women: get your annual PAP test. It could save your life.
09/26/2010
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A condom with the tip cutoff and slit lengthwise and opened over the pubes, makes an effective dental dam.
Originally posted by
Not here
Never had one, and I plan to keep it that way! I've known a couple people casually that got a case of the clap, but nothing more serious than that. Protection is very important to me, and since my man and I are looking to broaden our horizons to
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Never had one, and I plan to keep it that way! I've known a couple people casually that got a case of the clap, but nothing more serious than that. Protection is very important to me, and since my man and I are looking to broaden our horizons to MFF threesomes, it has become even more of a priority. Most people don't realize the majority of STDs are transmitted orally, and don't protect for that.
Recently, my man and I had a "date" with another couple (when we were looking into swinging, before we decided on 3somes) and wanted to get dental dams so we could be as safe as possible, should it go down that route. I live in CT, and we literally went to 15 pharmacies and 3 sex stores and came home with nothing. Most of the people we asked had no idea what we were talking about, except for a man at one of the sex stores who said he normally carried them but was out of stock at the moment. We were absolutely disgusted with the lack of self protection options offered. less
Recently, my man and I had a "date" with another couple (when we were looking into swinging, before we decided on 3somes) and wanted to get dental dams so we could be as safe as possible, should it go down that route. I live in CT, and we literally went to 15 pharmacies and 3 sex stores and came home with nothing. Most of the people we asked had no idea what we were talking about, except for a man at one of the sex stores who said he normally carried them but was out of stock at the moment. We were absolutely disgusted with the lack of self protection options offered. less
09/27/2010
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True, dental dams are not widely available but you can always use a condom. simply unroll, wash (for that nasty taste) and slit it up the side. Works just as well
Originally posted by
Not here
Never had one, and I plan to keep it that way! I've known a couple people casually that got a case of the clap, but nothing more serious than that. Protection is very important to me, and since my man and I are looking to broaden our horizons to
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Never had one, and I plan to keep it that way! I've known a couple people casually that got a case of the clap, but nothing more serious than that. Protection is very important to me, and since my man and I are looking to broaden our horizons to MFF threesomes, it has become even more of a priority. Most people don't realize the majority of STDs are transmitted orally, and don't protect for that.
Recently, my man and I had a "date" with another couple (when we were looking into swinging, before we decided on 3somes) and wanted to get dental dams so we could be as safe as possible, should it go down that route. I live in CT, and we literally went to 15 pharmacies and 3 sex stores and came home with nothing. Most of the people we asked had no idea what we were talking about, except for a man at one of the sex stores who said he normally carried them but was out of stock at the moment. We were absolutely disgusted with the lack of self protection options offered. less
Recently, my man and I had a "date" with another couple (when we were looking into swinging, before we decided on 3somes) and wanted to get dental dams so we could be as safe as possible, should it go down that route. I live in CT, and we literally went to 15 pharmacies and 3 sex stores and came home with nothing. Most of the people we asked had no idea what we were talking about, except for a man at one of the sex stores who said he normally carried them but was out of stock at the moment. We were absolutely disgusted with the lack of self protection options offered. less
I have never had one. I know people that have. One in particular who insists on barebacking because she has know sexual education whatsoever and no matter how much you tell her it goes in one ear and out the other. (she is also convinced the pull out method is a true method of BC *facepalms*.. 4 children with 4 different dads later you think she would figure this out.. ugh)
I also know many guys with full blown AIDS.
09/27/2010
gracias a dios, ive never been infected
09/28/2010