Two years ago, I had ablation therapy to thin out my uterine lining. It was discovered that I had endometriosis too on my left ovary. All was cleaned up as best as possible, but in the last 6 months, it's all started to come back and the pain is way worse. The Dr. and I have decided on a hysterectomy, removal of the left ovary, and the cervix too. I may get to keep the right. I'm scared of what I"ll be like after. I want to be pain free, but I don't want to give up my sexuality, my toys, my orgasms (although difficult to achieve, worth it!). I don't want to give up this community!!!! I did read some of the other posts (Tuesday's) so there's hope I guess for my orgasms. I know they generate from clitoral stimulation, then result in a big Pelvic floor explosion. I don't if they are weaker after, I just still want to have one! *Sigh*
Hysterectomy in 2 weeks :(
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I hope you get well soon sugar and that nothing impedes your future orgasms.
08/03/2012
Hugs and love and good healing thoughts for you.
It's normal to be very anxious and to be fearful before a major surgical procedure. Do you feel comfortable asking the GYN who will perform the surgery about the sexual side effects? My guess would be they are going to put you on estrogen and probably progesterone as well. Get the prescription ones, they actually have an effect on your overall sexual functioning. I tried "bio-identical" and "phyto-estrogens" and plant progesterones during early peri-menopause (I have my uterus and ovaries) and they were a bust, NO result whatsoever. Actual pharmaceutical hormones can make a huge difference. I always said I would never use them. And I'm glad I changed my mind.
More in a PM. OK.
It's normal to be very anxious and to be fearful before a major surgical procedure. Do you feel comfortable asking the GYN who will perform the surgery about the sexual side effects? My guess would be they are going to put you on estrogen and probably progesterone as well. Get the prescription ones, they actually have an effect on your overall sexual functioning. I tried "bio-identical" and "phyto-estrogens" and plant progesterones during early peri-menopause (I have my uterus and ovaries) and they were a bust, NO result whatsoever. Actual pharmaceutical hormones can make a huge difference. I always said I would never use them. And I'm glad I changed my mind.
More in a PM. OK.
08/03/2012
I had the same surgery you are getting ready to face. I also had apprehensions and fears--some valid and others not so valid. My sex drive was lowered prior to the surgery due to the pain of penetration and the cramps and extreme pains from an orgasm. Thus, I tried to avoid an orgasm, or just try and have a very tamed down version of one.
After fully healing from the hysterectomy, I had one of those days...feeling a bit on the frisky side. With much concern and trepidation, I grabbed my trusty little generic vibrator and started to experiment. I figured if I hurried and got it over with I would know how much it was going to hurt now...and had the orgasm of my life!!!!
Due to the lack of pain, I kept playing off and on the rest of the afternoon and the rest.....is amazing!!! One thing I noticed immediately was that my sex drive had definitely taken a jump--possibly due to the lack of tissues on my organs making them overwork, lack of the hormones needed to continue the rapid growth of the threads and cells outside the uterus and just an effect of being pain free.
My orgasms definitely strengthened. I did not get the deep internal tummy clenches, but it allowed the focus to be on the clitoris and other stimulating areas internally. I had not found my G-spot yet. And...I squirted!!! Oh, mortification--I thought I had peed. It wasn't for about 6 months that I found out this happens to some women and it is a female ejaculation--not pee. I had some interesting rituals pre-orgasm until I learned what it was.
One thing I did notice was that it took about 6 months to a year for the full potential of my orgasms to develop. I think it is your body's way of learning to compensate and shift the focus to your sexual trigger areas.
Do NOT go into your sexual playtimes with expectations!!!!! Relax and let what happens happen. Let it build, enjoy the stronger climax waves, just experience the sensations--you will not perform well under pressure and high expectations. I turned into an orgasm machine---but it took a bit for my body to fully release its capabilities after being physically repressed and injured so many years. This was 20 years ago--I have not taken one hormone and I have an amazing threshold for orgasms and desire.
Good luck--you may message me with any questions or concerns you have, I will be happy to answer them!!
After fully healing from the hysterectomy, I had one of those days...feeling a bit on the frisky side. With much concern and trepidation, I grabbed my trusty little generic vibrator and started to experiment. I figured if I hurried and got it over with I would know how much it was going to hurt now...and had the orgasm of my life!!!!
Due to the lack of pain, I kept playing off and on the rest of the afternoon and the rest.....is amazing!!! One thing I noticed immediately was that my sex drive had definitely taken a jump--possibly due to the lack of tissues on my organs making them overwork, lack of the hormones needed to continue the rapid growth of the threads and cells outside the uterus and just an effect of being pain free.
My orgasms definitely strengthened. I did not get the deep internal tummy clenches, but it allowed the focus to be on the clitoris and other stimulating areas internally. I had not found my G-spot yet. And...I squirted!!! Oh, mortification--I thought I had peed. It wasn't for about 6 months that I found out this happens to some women and it is a female ejaculation--not pee. I had some interesting rituals pre-orgasm until I learned what it was.
One thing I did notice was that it took about 6 months to a year for the full potential of my orgasms to develop. I think it is your body's way of learning to compensate and shift the focus to your sexual trigger areas.
Do NOT go into your sexual playtimes with expectations!!!!! Relax and let what happens happen. Let it build, enjoy the stronger climax waves, just experience the sensations--you will not perform well under pressure and high expectations. I turned into an orgasm machine---but it took a bit for my body to fully release its capabilities after being physically repressed and injured so many years. This was 20 years ago--I have not taken one hormone and I have an amazing threshold for orgasms and desire.
Good luck--you may message me with any questions or concerns you have, I will be happy to answer them!!
08/03/2012
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I hope you won't loose your orgasms, but I don't see why you would. Getting a hysterectomy won't make you not a woman so you should be fine.
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PassionQT
Two years ago, I had ablation therapy to thin out my uterine lining. It was discovered that I had endometriosis too on my left ovary. All was cleaned up as best as possible, but in the last 6 months, it's all started to come back and the pain
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Two years ago, I had ablation therapy to thin out my uterine lining. It was discovered that I had endometriosis too on my left ovary. All was cleaned up as best as possible, but in the last 6 months, it's all started to come back and the pain is way worse. The Dr. and I have decided on a hysterectomy, removal of the left ovary, and the cervix too. I may get to keep the right. I'm scared of what I"ll be like after. I want to be pain free, but I don't want to give up my sexuality, my toys, my orgasms (although difficult to achieve, worth it!). I don't want to give up this community!!!! I did read some of the other posts (Tuesday's) so there's hope I guess for my orgasms. I know they generate from clitoral stimulation, then result in a big Pelvic floor explosion. I don't if they are weaker after, I just still want to have one! *Sigh*
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Hope it all goes well for you!
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