I mean, at first, the answer's usually all HELL NO!! (As it should be) But the story about German singer Nadja Benaissa withholding the fact that she was infected with HIV got to me. You never really know what you're going to do until you're in that situation, so try to really put yourself in those shoes. Would you tell your partner? What if it was a drunk one-night stand? Would you put off having sex with your significant other til you could figure out how to come out and say it or just start asking to use condoms? Would you be ashamed? Scary stuff..
If you had an STD/STI would you ever withhold that information from your partner?
09/03/2010
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To me, that's just dangerous ground to tread on. These days, if you have sex with someone, knowing you are infected and end up infecting them you can actually face assault or attempted murder charges.
Originally posted by
Trashley
I mean, at first, the answer's usually all HELL NO!! (As it should be) But the story about German singer Nadja Benaissa withholding the fact that she was infected with HIV got to me. You never really know what you're going to do until
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I mean, at first, the answer's usually all HELL NO!! (As it should be) But the story about German singer Nadja Benaissa withholding the fact that she was infected with HIV got to me. You never really know what you're going to do until you're in that situation, so try to really put yourself in those shoes. Would you tell your partner? What if it was a drunk one-night stand? Would you put off having sex with your significant other til you could figure out how to come out and say it or just start asking to use condoms? Would you be ashamed? Scary stuff..
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There's not much that's more heinous than knowingly risking the life of someone you care about (or even a stranger) just so you can get laid.
09/03/2010
Not at all, and I believe some if not all STD's you HAVE to tell the partner. At least I know HIV, it's illegal to not tell someone.
09/03/2010
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Yeah that Nadja girl got a suspended sentence, but she was looking at a lot more for attempted murder and all that jazz. Sad.
Originally posted by
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Not at all, and I believe some if not all STD's you HAVE to tell the partner. At least I know HIV, it's illegal to not tell someone.
09/04/2010
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I have two partners and three children that I need to be alive and healthy for so if I should contract a disease I would tell any new partner as soon as it became necessary, but definitely before having sex with them.
Originally posted by
Trashley
I mean, at first, the answer's usually all HELL NO!! (As it should be) But the story about German singer Nadja Benaissa withholding the fact that she was infected with HIV got to me. You never really know what you're going to do until
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I mean, at first, the answer's usually all HELL NO!! (As it should be) But the story about German singer Nadja Benaissa withholding the fact that she was infected with HIV got to me. You never really know what you're going to do until you're in that situation, so try to really put yourself in those shoes. Would you tell your partner? What if it was a drunk one-night stand? Would you put off having sex with your significant other til you could figure out how to come out and say it or just start asking to use condoms? Would you be ashamed? Scary stuff..
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09/04/2010
I don't know that I would just be able to come right out and say something like that, but I definitely would avoid sex until I was able to tell them. I wouldn't even suggest a condom, because as we all know, those aren't 100% safe. They can break, and then what would happen. The other person could get whatever you had. I wouldn't be able to tell them right away I don't think, but I for sure wouldn't have sex with them AT ALL until I was able to tell them eventually.
09/05/2010
I'd tell my partner. I'm not sure how I got this STI, but if I did, he definitely needs to know. From there, it'd be his decision to continue to have sex with me or not.
09/05/2010
I would, only because I wouldn't feel right not telling them, it's not fair to them because I have something that they could get.
09/05/2010
I would, because it was piss me off beyond reason if my partner didn't tell me and I caught something. So I would return the treatment that I expect from them.
09/05/2010
I would never withhold the information. I wouldn't want a partner to do that to me, so I wouldn't do it to someone else.
09/06/2010
I would never withhold that kind of information. STDs are a little more serious than the common cold or a case of the sniffles. I would also expect my husband to respect me in the same manner, and tell me immediately if he even suspected he was infected with an STD/STI.
09/08/2010
Welllll... Maybe.
Depends on what it was.
If it was an STI that I was already on medication to treat, I probably would disclose to my partner that I had an illness that prevented intimacy for a certain amount of time but not specify what.
If it was a long-term illness or something that was transmittable in ways other than sex, I most definitely would. Furthermore, if it was an STI that had a chance of recurrence I would disclose that as well.
Depends on what it was.
If it was an STI that I was already on medication to treat, I probably would disclose to my partner that I had an illness that prevented intimacy for a certain amount of time but not specify what.
If it was a long-term illness or something that was transmittable in ways other than sex, I most definitely would. Furthermore, if it was an STI that had a chance of recurrence I would disclose that as well.
09/08/2010
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Hmm yea I have to agree with this. If of course I was single and then getting into a relationship. I'm married and have been for 7 years so I think if I suddently came down with an STI he'd need to know and SOMEONE would have a lot of 'splainin to do! But for the sake of this question lets say that I had something and like you said was on medication and it was an STI that wasn't something that would be a recurring thing then I might just avoid sex and sexual things until I was cleared by a doctor. If you're just getting into a relationship and the person doesn't NEED to know (because they're not at risk since you're not doing anything) then I guess I MIGHT keep it secret in that situation only.
Originally posted by
DeliciousSurprise
Welllll... Maybe.
Depends on what it was.
If it was an STI that I was already on medication to treat, I probably would disclose to my partner that I had an illness that prevented intimacy for a certain amount of time but not specify ... more
Depends on what it was.
If it was an STI that I was already on medication to treat, I probably would disclose to my partner that I had an illness that prevented intimacy for a certain amount of time but not specify ... more
Welllll... Maybe.
Depends on what it was.
If it was an STI that I was already on medication to treat, I probably would disclose to my partner that I had an illness that prevented intimacy for a certain amount of time but not specify what.
If it was a long-term illness or something that was transmittable in ways other than sex, I most definitely would. Furthermore, if it was an STI that had a chance of recurrence I would disclose that as well. less
Depends on what it was.
If it was an STI that I was already on medication to treat, I probably would disclose to my partner that I had an illness that prevented intimacy for a certain amount of time but not specify what.
If it was a long-term illness or something that was transmittable in ways other than sex, I most definitely would. Furthermore, if it was an STI that had a chance of recurrence I would disclose that as well. less
09/08/2010
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See, I slightly agree with this, but I don't really. Yeah the partner may not need to know for like physical and medical reasons, if it's gone and taken care of with medicine and sex is avoided, however, honesty is a huge quality in a relationship to me, so I would still think it should be mentioned. Just my opinion.
Originally posted by
Alicia
Hmm yea I have to agree with this. If of course I was single and then getting into a relationship. I'm married and have been for 7 years so I think if I suddently came down with an STI he'd need to know and SOMEONE would have a lot of
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Hmm yea I have to agree with this. If of course I was single and then getting into a relationship. I'm married and have been for 7 years so I think if I suddently came down with an STI he'd need to know and SOMEONE would have a lot of 'splainin to do! But for the sake of this question lets say that I had something and like you said was on medication and it was an STI that wasn't something that would be a recurring thing then I might just avoid sex and sexual things until I was cleared by a doctor. If you're just getting into a relationship and the person doesn't NEED to know (because they're not at risk since you're not doing anything) then I guess I MIGHT keep it secret in that situation only.
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09/09/2010
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You have to tell them! STDs have a snow ball affect and unless you tell your partner, the who village at the end of the mountains going to be squashed. Most STD/Is are without a cure and as such no one should go in blind when facing the chance of getting one. If I got one i'd tell my partner asap and if they didn't break up with me I woulld take every measure to protect them. I would be ashamed and be less sexually outgoing and maybe even decrease my labido.
Originally posted by
Trashley
I mean, at first, the answer's usually all HELL NO!! (As it should be) But the story about German singer Nadja Benaissa withholding the fact that she was infected with HIV got to me. You never really know what you're going to do until
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I mean, at first, the answer's usually all HELL NO!! (As it should be) But the story about German singer Nadja Benaissa withholding the fact that she was infected with HIV got to me. You never really know what you're going to do until you're in that situation, so try to really put yourself in those shoes. Would you tell your partner? What if it was a drunk one-night stand? Would you put off having sex with your significant other til you could figure out how to come out and say it or just start asking to use condoms? Would you be ashamed? Scary stuff..
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09/09/2010
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If you were just getting together with someone and say had been seeing each other for maybe 3-5 dates? Around date 1 you had been treating something curable and treatable and it was now gone, cleared from the dr..you think that the person should have to tell the person they've only gone on 5 dates with "oh just so you know, about a month ago I had _____, it's totally gone now though"? I just don't see that as need to know info. It's a lot different if you were already in the relationship when you got the STI...but if I was in the position of just casually dating someone and had one but was now gone I'm not so sure I'd feel the need to tell them.
Originally posted by
sexysweetieshan
See, I slightly agree with this, but I don't really. Yeah the partner may not need to know for like physical and medical reasons, if it's gone and taken care of with medicine and sex is avoided, however, honesty is a huge quality in a
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See, I slightly agree with this, but I don't really. Yeah the partner may not need to know for like physical and medical reasons, if it's gone and taken care of with medicine and sex is avoided, however, honesty is a huge quality in a relationship to me, so I would still think it should be mentioned. Just my opinion.
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It's also different if you could still in any possibility still be infectious.
09/09/2010
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Hmm, I think it's sad that you would feel ashamed if you ever happened to come down with a STD or STI. It happens and it doesn't have to be something that you're ashamed of. I also don't know how true it is that most STD/Is are without a cure.... most can actually be cured, they just need to be treated. They're only infectious while the infection is present and hasn't yet been treated and therefore cured.
Originally posted by
kittycat414
You have to tell them! STDs have a snow ball affect and unless you tell your partner, the who village at the end of the mountains going to be squashed. Most STD/Is are without a cure and as such no one should go in blind when facing the chance of
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You have to tell them! STDs have a snow ball affect and unless you tell your partner, the who village at the end of the mountains going to be squashed. Most STD/Is are without a cure and as such no one should go in blind when facing the chance of getting one. If I got one i'd tell my partner asap and if they didn't break up with me I woulld take every measure to protect them. I would be ashamed and be less sexually outgoing and maybe even decrease my labido.
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Now, not saying that people shouldn't tell people that they currently have a STD. I'm just saying that someone who happens to get one should not feel ashamed. Just get it treated and go on with life. There are some of course that are more serious and cannot be cured and that's why safe sex is important.
09/09/2010
I wouldn't be ashamed (I don't think I would be, anyway) and I'd just come right out and tell them. If I'm going to have sex with someone, I can't imagine a reason why I wouldn't divulge that info.
09/09/2010
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Well, yes it would be different in THAT situation. But I guess I was meaning if you JUST got the infection right before starting to date someone and it might take a month to be gone, that's a month into the relationship. And yes of course if you were already in a relationship I think they should be told, even if you take care of it and get rid of it without coming into sexual contact with them. Just an honesty thing I guess.
Originally posted by
Alicia
If you were just getting together with someone and say had been seeing each other for maybe 3-5 dates? Around date 1 you had been treating something curable and treatable and it was now gone, cleared from the dr..you think that the person should
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If you were just getting together with someone and say had been seeing each other for maybe 3-5 dates? Around date 1 you had been treating something curable and treatable and it was now gone, cleared from the dr..you think that the person should have to tell the person they've only gone on 5 dates with "oh just so you know, about a month ago I had _____, it's totally gone now though"? I just don't see that as need to know info. It's a lot different if you were already in the relationship when you got the STI...but if I was in the position of just casually dating someone and had one but was now gone I'm not so sure I'd feel the need to tell them.
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It's also different if you could still in any possibility still be infectious. less
09/09/2010
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I agree if you're in the relationship already they should be told. I'm also not saying I would personally keep things from a partner but that's because I never had casual sex. If I was a month into a commited relationship then yes, I'd tell them. But there's a big difference between a month of a relationship and a month of dating someone maybe once a week and still being casual about things and still having sex. And I can see why someone who does have casual sex wouldn't tell someone about something that was already cured.
Originally posted by
sexysweetieshan
Well, yes it would be different in THAT situation. But I guess I was meaning if you JUST got the infection right before starting to date someone and it might take a month to be gone, that's a month into the relationship. And yes of course if you
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Well, yes it would be different in THAT situation. But I guess I was meaning if you JUST got the infection right before starting to date someone and it might take a month to be gone, that's a month into the relationship. And yes of course if you were already in a relationship I think they should be told, even if you take care of it and get rid of it without coming into sexual contact with them. Just an honesty thing I guess.
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I guess I'm just playing devil's advocate here because I've never been in the situation of even having an STI and I've also never been in the position of having casual sex.
09/09/2010
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Yeah me either. I've never had any sort of STI or anything, and I have never, and personally don't agree with casual sex. I'm more traditional and believe sex is for very committed relationships and marriages, so I guess I just never take into consideration those circumstances, because personally I would never be in that sort of situation. So if I was casually dating and having sex with someone, I'm not sure if I would tell them or not. In reality though, I would never be casually dating or having sex with someone, so someone else would have to answer that question, because my opinion doesn't really count here. Lol.
Originally posted by
Alicia
I agree if you're in the relationship already they should be told. I'm also not saying I would personally keep things from a partner but that's because I never had casual sex. If I was a month into a commited relationship then yes,
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I agree if you're in the relationship already they should be told. I'm also not saying I would personally keep things from a partner but that's because I never had casual sex. If I was a month into a commited relationship then yes, I'd tell them. But there's a big difference between a month of a relationship and a month of dating someone maybe once a week and still being casual about things and still having sex. And I can see why someone who does have casual sex wouldn't tell someone about something that was already cured.
I guess I'm just playing devil's advocate here because I've never been in the situation of even having an STI and I've also never been in the position of having casual sex. less
I guess I'm just playing devil's advocate here because I've never been in the situation of even having an STI and I've also never been in the position of having casual sex. less
09/09/2010
Hell no I wouldn't keep it from them. They have the right to know that there is a chance that it might affect them
11/04/2010
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yes I would tell them its wrong not to thats cruel to hurt someone like that...if I did have an std that would mean I cheated on my boyfriend or he cheated on me because we are both clean only been with each other.
Originally posted by
Trashley
I mean, at first, the answer's usually all HELL NO!! (As it should be) But the story about German singer Nadja Benaissa withholding the fact that she was infected with HIV got to me. You never really know what you're going to do until
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I mean, at first, the answer's usually all HELL NO!! (As it should be) But the story about German singer Nadja Benaissa withholding the fact that she was infected with HIV got to me. You never really know what you're going to do until you're in that situation, so try to really put yourself in those shoes. Would you tell your partner? What if it was a drunk one-night stand? Would you put off having sex with your significant other til you could figure out how to come out and say it or just start asking to use condoms? Would you be ashamed? Scary stuff..
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