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If you've been raped before, how long would it take before you told the person you are dating about it?

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Contributor: Rhazya Rhazya
I'm curious how long it would take women to tell whomever they are dating, sleeping with, or going to sleep with about it.
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You can't put a time frame on it, it's whenever I'm comfortable enough with them.
19  (83%)
I'd never tell them, they don't need to know.
1  (4%)
Other, I'll post and explain.
3  (13%)
Total votes: 23
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10/19/2011
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Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
My husband and I were friends before we started dating so he knew before we got together. Other guys I usually told about a month or so in I guess. Maybe a few weeks if something came up about sex that made me uncomfortable. I've never not told any guy I've been with.
10/19/2011
Contributor: carenautilus carenautilus
Whenever you feel safe and ready. You don't owe anyone that information, but you don't have to keep it a secret. Let it come when you're ready.
10/19/2011
Contributor: SexyTabby SexyTabby
I don't think there could be a set time and it's not about just being comfortable with your partner either because I was attacked when I was 14yrs old but only just recently talked about it with my Hubby who I've been with over 22 yrs. I'm more then comfortable with him but it wasn't a memory I wanted on the surface so I never told anyone about it at all. Now it's different for me and I've shared the story with others.
10/19/2011
Contributor: jenn g jenn g
whenever i would want to tell him.
10/25/2011
Contributor: Midway through Midway through
If I wanted to tell them, I would whenever. I personally have only told a few people about mine, and have not told the guy I'm currently dating. We've been together about 2 months.
10/25/2011
Contributor: NavyDoll87 NavyDoll87
I didn't tell my husband about my experience until this past year. We've been together for 5 years. It's a horrible thing to discuss when you want to let it go, but it sure helped to explain to him a lot of the reasons I am the way that I am.
10/26/2011
Contributor: hyacinthgirl hyacinthgirl
Well, I ended up telling my new guy about it right away, because I have only just been able to admit to myself that it was rape. I wanted to be clear that 'No, stop it' does not mean 'Maybe' or 'If I orgasm, keep going'.
10/27/2011