Loss of sex drive :( i need help!

Contributor: SuperSarah116 SuperSarah116
I think the title pretty much says it all. I had a baby 8 months ago and ever since when it comes to sex i'm def not the girl i was before. I used to be like a sex fiend and was VERY wild and adventurous. I'm only 20 and almost never wanna have sex and if i do 9 times out of 10 it's not fun like it used to be. So does anyone have any kind of advice to help me out? Please?
07/08/2011
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Contributor: Wild Orchid Wild Orchid
I was hoping someone with more experience than me would respond but it didn't happen, so:
There is a quite good program that deals mainly with the physical changes but the psychological and the relationship between them are discussed too.

It takes time to recover from something as intense and life-changing as giving birth. Don't worry. Take care!
07/10/2011
Contributor: SuperSarah116 SuperSarah116
Thank you.
07/10/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
My wife has had a similar problem which caused me to do a lot of research into women's libidos and the things that affect them. The three biggest factors that I found were:

Self Image - (if you don't feel sexy then you wont be in the mood
Stress - If you can't just relax you won't be in the mood.
Diet - Eating carb loaded and high-calorie/low nutrition foods can drop your libido

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The most helpful tips I've found on improving your sex drive have been to schedule 30min a day of "you time" to relax and masturbate. No pressure, just get off at your own pace. The more often you orgasm, the more you will want to.
There are also certain fruits which are supposed to help your libido. Pomegranate juice is a big one. To help improve your self image you may want to try dressing up on a regular basis. Do your make up and dress sexy whenever you can. Sometimes glamming yourself up can make you feel better about your body.
07/10/2011
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
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Originally posted by Sex'и'Violence
My wife has had a similar problem which caused me to do a lot of research into women's libidos and the things that affect them. The three biggest factors that I found were:

Self Image - (if you don't feel sexy then you wont be in the ... more
Interesting comment on the diet-I know that many people trying to eat "healthy" limit their cholesterol, but cholesterol is needed to make all the hormones in the body including, of course, the sex hormones. There is a lot of good reading about there about cholesterol and saturated fat and how they're not the villains they've been made out to be. So basically, if you're eating a low fat/low cholesterol diet and you have a libido problem, try adding some in and see if it helps. I will add that I suffer from moderate-severe clinical depression, which is notorious for killing libidos, and am going through a stressful time in life to boot, and I don't know what else it could be but my diet that's keeping my libido high. Eat those eggs!
07/13/2011
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
I've really found that touching myself and thinking of my partner throughout the day really help me get revved up for when we do do things; I was having a bit of a low libido problem, though for other reasons! I really agree with what Sex'nviolence said about the 'you time'
07/13/2011
Contributor: Dusk Dusk
I have a similar problem (though my sex drive has always been low and I haven't had a baby) but perhaps I'll try cutting down on carbs and see if it helps.
07/14/2011