Multiple orgasms, then no more..

Contributor: TakeHimAway TakeHimAway
So, I used to have multiorgams no problem, even right after my hysto, and now.. It's one and done. Every single time. No matter what? Any suggestions?
05/08/2012
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Contributor: js250 js250
I had a hysto 20 years ago when I was 22. I remember my orgasms were pretty weak and unsatisfying for about a year after the surgery. There were many factors that contributed to less than stellar orgasms--maybe you can relate to a few of them and then add in factors of your own once you really start to think about everything.

Mentally:
I felt like a spayed cat. My inner female parts were gone and I was not a complete woman anymore. I had no period. Hormones--lack of and imbalance. Underlying depression from such a drastic and emotional surgery. Anger, resentment and unfairness feeling towards my 'whole' female friends--THEY still had all their parts.----I realize these feelings are a bit odd, but with this type of surgery it does affect your rationality, sexual responses and mental well being.

Physically:
My cervix plus 1/4" below it was removed. This really shortened the length of my vagina, it does not sound like much, but with the stretching ability of that tissue..it is alot. They sewed the top of the vagina shut to form a sleeve, (where your cervix should be) There is scar tissue and tenderness of the area for about a year +/-. Scar tissue sensations can feel a bit off, painful and tender, making you subconsciously more careful and wary of pain during sex and orgasm. Definite hormonal imbalance and underlying depression.

Plus I actually worried about my ex-husband tearing or ripping through the top of me. Orgasms HURT!!! The pain did lessen drastically with time and mental repair. That odd series of internal twinges of severe strangeness and discomfort also lessens over time. So does the random 'aches' after orgasming.

Cure:
Time. Figure out what your subconscious fears are...and work through them!! Seriously-force yourself to have 1-3 orgasms per DAY. Keep doing so until you have dealt with the fear of pain issues, this will also actually help with any pain during or after orgasms. Eventually you will realize there has not been any pain, discomfort or other issues in a long time. Then you will REALLY have fun!!
(cont'd on your next thread.)
05/08/2012