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Contributor: Bubba29 Bubba29
Do you find your desire for sex with your partner reduces significantly after a while?
07/02/2013
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Contributor: Ansley Ansley
No, my capacity to make time did but we're working on it.
07/02/2013
Contributor: ValerieRayne ValerieRayne
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Originally posted by Bubba29
Do you find your desire for sex with your partner reduces significantly after a while?
I find the exact opposite. It seems like the longer we're together, the more I want him and desire him. Unfortunately, this isn't so much the case for him (although he does a really great job of trying to be interested in all of my advances - and is really nice when he does end up turning me down). I also have a ridiculously high sex drive, so I want it all day everyday.

However, we do have 4 kids and he works full time and is a bit of a video game junkie, so just because I desire him more doesn't mean that I'm actually getting that sex more...
07/02/2013
Contributor: C&K0143 C&K0143
My husband and I have been together for nine years and I would say that overall no. We just had our first child though so finding time as well as the energy has been tough at times. It doesn’t help that we are both firmly set against scheduling sex. It takes any excitement out of it and makes it like another scheduled chore, at least for us.
07/24/2013
Contributor: shySEXXaddict shySEXXaddict
no definitely not..you fall in love with that person more(generally)so you desire them more.If it comes to where your not having as much sex first look at whether your partner is on meds or having something going on in their lives to side track them(or meds could lower libido) .If none of this is the case maybe they are starting to lose interest.
07/27/2013
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by Bubba29
Do you find your desire for sex with your partner reduces significantly after a while?
Nope we find that it ebbs and flows like the tide. That is how it's supposed to be and adding the "as above so below" principle shows that this is perfectly natural. For instance a man gets super excited and hard and then ebbs a bit before returning to full erection. A woman will be super ready and then it will cool a bit before she returns to full arousal. Hell when eating your first bite is a zinger, then you lose sensitivity a bit and then a few bites later POW!
There's no need to worry that things will get stale and boring as long as you are willing to try new things and work with the ebb and flow instead of against it.
07/27/2013
Contributor: stacylyn12 stacylyn12
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Originally posted by Bubba29
Do you find your desire for sex with your partner reduces significantly after a while?
nope
07/27/2013
Contributor: Gr8pumpkin Gr8pumpkin
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Originally posted by stacylyn12
nope
I think it is thought as normal for sexual desire in a new relationship to be high, and hen it sort of levels off to a somewhat lower, and maybe comfortable, though not as frantic frequency.
If it drops too low, and that number is entirely individual, then there may be problems that need addressing if you are both not happy. So, to make a short answer long, yes, desire can wane over time.
07/27/2013