This is our second child, and I remember when my son was born, the postpartum period was hell. No depression or anything, but the lack of sex was miserable. And it wasn't like oral was an option, since I bled for the first 4 weeks. I can get off on clitoral stimulation alone, so hubby and I were trying to figure out which toy would be best during this time period.

It needs to be something that:

Will clean easily and not stain if it gets blood on it.

Has intense vibrations

Isn't an internal toy (or if it has a part that goes inside, isn't large)

Is either hands-free or is something my husband won't have to focus too intently on using (I plan on using this while giving him head, so I'd rather him not be overly distracted with heavy or awkward objects).

Personal experience with whatever toy you recommend is preferred. Thanks in advance! less

Be aware if this is your first kid that orgasms while you still have lochia can cause some pretty intense cramps especially the first few weeks. Doctors don't want anything introduced into the vagina for at least two to three weeks post partum because of the risk of infection if you have some tearing. You can get pregnant within a few weeks after giving birth which is NOT good for the body...I had a miserable second pregnancy because my body wasn't healed properly from my first! I would use either a hard plastic small vibe or clitoral stimulator if you don't want to worry about blood staining. I used a mini pearlesscent vibe after Monkey was born because it's cheap and hard plastic. It got the job done and for me eased the lochia cramps. If you have sutures from an episiotomy then don't use an insertable toy (duh right?).
If you develop hemorrhoids be sure you are very careful cause they hurt like the dickens if they are touched during play though gentle pressure can lead to some pretty spectacular orgasm (at least it did for me) I used a cotton pad with Witchhazel poured on it to help ease the swelling and shrink the tissues and the orgasm seemed to help with the blood flow issues.
Hope that helps less

I have no idea about material-wise on accidentally discoloring the toy. I'd imagine it'd be easier to do with soft toys like VixSkin or silicone though I rarely use toys with blood. I know glass/Stainless steel don't have discoloration, so off the top of my head, I'd probably recommend the EdenFantasys Kissa toy since it's glass and vibrates (and is really tiny and easy to use), but I'm not sure about the strength since I don't own it. I'm not sure about plastic though - I think I used to use it with no discoloration.

Honestly, I think it just comes down to making sure you clean it afterwards. Since you're concerned, I'd recommend picking up a cheaper (but body-safe) vibe and using it. I know the Doc Johnson Velvet Touch is pretty cheap and pretty strong. It's plastic, soft, pretty small, and very out-of-the-way. My first toy actually. less

Be aware if this is your first kid that orgasms while you still have lochia can cause some pretty intense cramps especially the first few weeks. Doctors don't want anything introduced into the vagina for at least two to three weeks post partum because of the risk of infection if you have some tearing. You can get pregnant within a few weeks after giving birth which is NOT good for the body...I had a miserable second pregnancy because my body wasn't healed properly from my first! I would use either a hard plastic small vibe or clitoral stimulator if you don't want to worry about blood staining. I used a mini pearlesscent vibe after Monkey was born because it's cheap and hard plastic. It got the job done and for me eased the lochia cramps. If you have sutures from an episiotomy then don't use an insertable toy (duh right?).
If you develop hemorrhoids be sure you are very careful cause they hurt like the dickens if they are touched during play though gentle pressure can lead to some pretty spectacular orgasm (at least it did for me) I used a cotton pad with Witchhazel poured on it to help ease the swelling and shrink the tissues and the orgasm seemed to help with the blood flow issues.
Hope that helps less