I have never gotten off during masturbation or with toys, although I get very close and it feels good regardless. When it gets to point where it's really intense, and especially when I'm having to work at maneuvering a toy, I can't do it. I have to stop, taking breaks hasn't worked for me. I'm just way too sensitive and my arm gets tired. Who else has this problem and what do you do about it?

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this used to happen to me alot. for years, really. it was coupled most times with flashbacks of sexual trauma.


for me it took years of self-exploration and meditation and growing into my own to be comfortable with getting off. i was 19 before i had my first orgasm, and 23 before i could will myself to do it.

sorry i dont' have much advice other than the test of time. you could also read some books on here regarding orgasm. i also highly recommend 'the art of female self-pleasuring'... a DVD that's super informative.


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I experience this sometimes, too. But not to the point where I can't get off. I usually just back off a little and then go right back in. But I know what you mean about it "feeling so good, you just can't stand it". I get that way usually when I'm using a clitoral vibrator or my boyfriend is playing with my clitoris. It doesn't usually happen when I do it because I know to be gentle and to work on other areas, as well (I'm slowly getting my boyfriend to understand this and work on his method). If your arm is getting tired, I'd say you're probably going about it too fast and too hard. Be gentle. Be slow. And don't stay on one place for too long. Not everyone is the same but what works for me is usually switching between my clitoris and the outer sides of my labia minora.

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